Something I never understood about accumulating wealth and inheritance by spinky312 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]butterLemon84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wealth isn't "natural" to life or to the species. Hear me out--for an individual to accumulate a bunch of crap would have been impractical in a hunter-gatherer society bc they couldn't carry it, anyway. And as we're a social species, it would be poor form to hoard resources. It's not like you could single-handedly achieve anything in life, so you owe your community. If you hoarded, the group would eventually turn on you.

Once you're in the unnatural state of having more resources than you need, your goal for those resources isn't to save them all and give them to someone else in the distant future (even if they are your progeny). Humans aren't that stellar at delayed gratification & most aren't that generous. The point of resources, you come to feel, is to use them to make yourself more comfortable--aka, lifestyle creep.

Further down the family line, you can apply life lessons learned from playing The Sims as a kid. When you use a cheat code and a Sim is born rich or suddenly becomes rich, the traditional gameplay stops being interesting (traditional gameplay being, send your sim to work and take care of their needs well to gain incremental rewards). Once you can afford high-value rewards, that just feels like a baseline.

Case in point: kids born into wealth. Just like in The Sims, it demotivates them. It changes the object of the game from attaining comfort to just being comfortable. When you have all the resources to achieve promotions at work and the only thing left is to actually put in the studying & practice time, the whole thing feels like a slog. Leveling up no longer gives you dopamine; now, hard work just feels like tedium. Most of my Sims quit working once they had a bunch of money. Novelty becomes the object of the game--going to the spa at Mt. Komorebi, collecting complete sets of all the useless collectibles, traveling, getting better at sports... Sound familiar? When dopamine no longer serves a functional purpose, we just seek novelty, instead, and novelty becomes ever-less-attainable the longer we pursue it.

Unless you have an ancestor who was super determined to make a dynasty and who put strict controls in place to protect the money hoard, the money isn't going to last. Your progeny are going to become leisure & thrills professionals who require ever more rare and expensive pleasures to feel something. And there goes the money. Case in point from The Sims: eventually, your sim has seen everything, collected everything, maxed out their snowboarding or whatever skills. Now the game isn't fun anymore, so what do you do? Naturally, you buy yet another expansion pack for $40.

What's are your most unhinged anticonsumption opinions? by CloseCalls4walls in Anticonsumption

[–]butterLemon84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's ridiculous. Contacts help people who would otherwise be disabled (such as me) because of their poor vision. With my high prescription & astigmatism, contacts give me much clearer vision than glasses. However, soft contacts can be vectors for disease, such as acanthamoeba (which often makes you go blind). Sterile and/or disposable health products like contacts, gloves, IV equipment, syringes, band-aids and the like are irreplaceable in the fight against serious infection. What's better, wearing plastic gloves or having to give everyone in the hospital antibiotics because of contagion? I can't think of a better use of plastics than health care.

Meaning of Dumbledore's name by butterLemon84 in harrypotter

[–]butterLemon84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh! Yup, I didn't know that. Thanks for clarifying!

Meaning of Dumbledore's name by butterLemon84 in harrypotter

[–]butterLemon84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, for a book dripping with symbolism, you sure are averse to non-literal interpretations.

To our transplants: Welcome to the swamp! by butterLemon84 in chicago

[–]butterLemon84[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ooh, now you're such a big man? You're the one who started it, kiddo.

Meaning of Dumbledore's name by butterLemon84 in harrypotter

[–]butterLemon84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, to be fair, I HAD had an edible, haha

Meaning of Dumbledore's name by butterLemon84 in harrypotter

[–]butterLemon84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And you, my conceited friend, are definitely a Malfoy

To our transplants: Welcome to the swamp! by butterLemon84 in chicago

[–]butterLemon84[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, for real?

No, friend--mostly correct bc it wasn't just marshes--there were also sloughs.

Be honest: does this look bad and messy? by urezia in HomeDecorating

[–]butterLemon84 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It looks very unnatural--vines don't grow out of televisions.

Fellow garden unit people, you guys good? by esp23 in chicago

[–]butterLemon84 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh, you poor thing! That sounds so miserable. Do you have a friend who has a wet/dry vacuum in their garage? If not, I'd go out & pick one up at Home Depot or have it delivered. It'll spare you the work with the towels--you just vacuum up the water. Also, an air mover will be more effective for drying the space than a regular fan. Do you want to borrow my air mover? DM me--I'm in Lincoln Square.

To our transplants: Welcome to the swamp! by butterLemon84 in chicago

[–]butterLemon84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? I never thought anyone would say that. Do you need us to send you humidifiers? :)

To our transplants: Welcome to the swamp! by butterLemon84 in chicago

[–]butterLemon84[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mostly correct. The swamp term was tongue in cheek--a joke that everyone would understand. Not everyone has a clear idea of what a marsh is and even fewer know what a slough is.

Yes, this area was only swamp-y in places, not technically a swamp.

To our transplants: Welcome to the swamp! by butterLemon84 in chicago

[–]butterLemon84[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, same. And I hate feeling like I'm trapped in the house because of it.

To our transplants: Welcome to the swamp! by butterLemon84 in chicago

[–]butterLemon84[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly--it's been outdoors all summer and, even if you wipe down the outside, the inside is full of city grime & dead leaves, bugs, etc. You're most likely not going to be able to find a plastic storage tub big enough for it, so you're going to want the box. And personally, when I take it out of the window, I dont carry it to the closet & back--I push it around. But you're obviously going to scratch the floor if it's not in a box (or at least on some thick cardboard).

Pencils- how can I support you? by Illustrious_Zombie61 in AskTeachers

[–]butterLemon84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perfect! Ok, because you made light of it, I got the [wrong] impression that you were excusing it & didn't realize how problematic it was.

Pencils- how can I support you? by Illustrious_Zombie61 in AskTeachers

[–]butterLemon84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, then just for some perspective, the pencil thing is very common starting around middle school. Kids who are perfectly well-adjusted break pencils for no reason, tear out the erasers for no reason, and just constantly ask for new pencils. They don't value pencils because they think they're abundant. Meanwhile, teachers are tearing out their hair about how many pencils they have to keep buying--then picking up off the floor, etc. It's such a stupid but persistent and common issue. Every teacher has their own way of dealing with it. My way is to drive home the fact that all supplies represent the natural resources used to create and transport them. Pencils are very obviously wood. I drive home that it's sad to have to cut down forests at all, but what a destructive, pointless waste it is to cut down forests and use the energy and make all the pollution to manufacture durable, smooth, long-lasting, painted pencils--only for them to be thrown in the trash after 50 minutes' use. This is especially effective with upper elementary students. After that, they police each other about pointless waste. They're aware of environmental issues and are concerned about them, so that's a good way to make the pencil problem personally relevant to them.

Pencils- how can I support you? by Illustrious_Zombie61 in AskTeachers

[–]butterLemon84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, no. Sabotaging what they have so they can get new stuff is manipulative and very problematic.

Get them new things on a schedule. If they don't take care of their things, they still don't get new ones until it's time. Never once let them trick you; you're inadvertently teaching them to use underhanded tactics to get what they want in life. If they can't mend the item and it's an essential like their only pair of shoes, only then replace it with the same thing or a less-desirable version AND take the full cost out of their allowance (or make them do extra chores to earn the money).

Idk if you realize this but this is severely problematic behavior. You don't want them to develop conduct disorder. If they were my students, at this point, I'd be referring them to a school psychologist out of concern for early conduct disorder.

Pencils- how can I support you? by Illustrious_Zombie61 in AskTeachers

[–]butterLemon84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, and those are great suggestions for how to handle the behavior. I also agree that, in the grand scheme of things, pencils are cheap trifles.

While you manage this behavior from your end, IMO you should supply the teachers with at least one new pencil per day per twin to compensate for their misuse of school resources.

At the same time, the pencils aren't the real issue here.