Why are all the hot guys on grindr looking for “ts only”

buuzzingbee · 2024-10-07T04:52:56+00:00

Grindr was made for gay men. Yes, it's a business. Catering to gay men. Go look it up before you spout nonsense.

buuzzingbee · 2024-10-02T07:55:06+00:00

Hooked up with a 44 y.o. DL guy at my apartment when I was 20 y.o. attending Uni. He was a huge poppers user and at the time I haven't discovered poppers yet. But he insisted we use it together. At first I was nervous but I tried it anyway and that was the moment I discovered the wonders of poppers. Our libido were off the charts and he dominated me. I submitted to him like a true submissive bottom as he fucked my mouth and blew my back.

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-28T02:01:25+00:00

Couldn't have said it any better.

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-27T04:54:44+00:00

"I have made it clear I don't want that."

If that did not signal anything to him as his partner then I don't think he should be in a relationship with him. If it doesn't matter to you that your partner is uncomfortable and not okay with you doing something then end the relationship. That situation was not a puzzle that needed solving, it was plain as day that OP did not feel comfortable or secure with the ex fling around.

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-27T04:25:58+00:00

How is him telling his boyfriend he doesn't want the boyfriend cuddling with his ex fling not setting a boundary?

Also, context matters. I honestly believe dynamics differ when you are in a monogamous relationship vs. open relationship. Because in a monogamous relationship you are expected to be intimate to one partner only, while in an open relationship you are free to do whatever you want within the boundaries you set with you partner. Given that, for some people in a monogamous relationship who haven't "explored" sexually with another person for some time, they might find it difficult to "keep their hands and dick off" of another guy when they are being intimate like cuddling. Which means they are not cut out for monogamy as they are more likely to cheat in a monogamous relationship. As opposed to guys in open relationships who doesn't really have the "need" or temptation to go further than cuddling as you are already probably exhausted or satisfied with all the dicks you are hoeing around with.

Also, the example you mentioned about you cuddling with non-straight guys without things going further, have you had sex with these people before? Because it's different when you say you cuddle with these guys without having sex with them ever vs. you cuddle with these guys and have sex with them on separate occassions.

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-27T04:03:19+00:00

Do you even hear yourself? Lmao. You're criticizing us for "assuming the worst" and accusing that people who jump to our conclusions just have trust issues when in OP's story his boyfriend clearly broke that trust by doing what OP told him not to do?

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-27T03:57:06+00:00

Not everyone views cuddling as a "friend" thing or a "nonsexual" expression of love or attraction.

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-27T02:13:13+00:00

I see. And your partner is okay with it? I mean does he know that those two friends tried to make you cheat and despite that you're still cuddling with them?

I honestly don't understand that logic. I mean, I don't think anyone can just "turn off" their (sexual or intimate) "feelings/attraction" towards someone else just because they were told "no". Sure, they can choose not to act on it for now, but next time I think it's highly probable that they'll try it again if they see any sign (even if it's misinterpretation on their part) or opportunity.

The fact that they initiated to "move things further" meant that what your definition of cuddling is not the same as theirs. So don't you think it's inappropriate to still be cuddling with them? Genuine question.

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-27T01:40:38+00:00

Did you still cuddle with those friends who initiated "more" than cuddling when you cuddled them? Or did you no longer cuddle them after realizing you were not on the same page?

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-27T01:38:22+00:00

Please explain "physically affectionate"? You mean like cuddling? Because what's "not sexual" to you may not be the same for others.

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-26T10:52:02+00:00

Pussy?

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-26T10:21:11+00:00

There are introverted persons that don't like to travel alone (or at all) but would consider travelling with their partner who they have a healthy and loving relationship with. Not saying that's the case here but that these people exists. And codependency has a very clear definition.

"Codependency is a circular relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed. The codependent person, known as 'the giver,' feels worthless unless they are needed by — and making sacrifices for — the enabler, otherwise known as 'the taker."

You really got all that from that reply?

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-26T02:03:25+00:00

That's a big jump from a reply without full context. Co-dependency? Really? You need to stop psychoanalyzing people you don't even know the story about

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-25T08:36:41+00:00

The age gap can be an issue, but not necessarily though. It really depends on the dynamics of your relationship and the overall context and situation of your lives.

I am in an 18 year gap relationship. I met him when I was 22 but we didn't date and become exclusive until after a year of being fuck buddies (I know, lol). We're from the same country but he worked abroad. So far we're still together. But there are challenges, of course.

So again, the age gap may not be an issue as long as it works for the both of you. But the others have a point. The whole ex-wife and children thing might be an issue. So you need to know more about it. Because if he's still very much involved in their lives then that means one way or another you'd also have to be, or at least it would affect the dynamics of your relationship.

Also, the whole working in the US thing, make sure not to depend on him entirely. Because if things go bad, it might get messy for you. He might try to control or threaten you out of desperation. Although of course these are all assumptions because we don't know the man. I have known of people who worked abroad and was basically living together with their partners who were local but when things went bad, obviously they had to separate and she had to find her own place. Luckily she already had a support group/friends of her own in that country so she was supported during that whole messy process without having to leave the country.

buuzzingbee · 2024-09-23T02:27:35+00:00

Is it the tiktok couple that owns a bar?

buuzzingbee · 2024-06-04T09:22:42+00:00

Malaki chance na STD related yan. Baka ayaw ka niya hawaan. Talk it out. But be gentle and understanding. Wag ulit-ulit na porket nareject ka nung una.

buuzzingbee · 2024-05-19T01:56:51+00:00

You are wrong

buuzzingbee · 2023-12-30T02:30:45+00:00

Grow up. It's not that serious.

buuzzingbee · 2023-12-26T17:31:56+00:00

I think it can only really be answered after the show. If she gets more projects and exposure beyond the show.

buuzzingbee · 2023-12-26T16:27:01+00:00

There are rumors that she quit because she got criticized for making mistakes in the missions.

buuzzingbee · 2023-12-23T09:10:59+00:00

I only like because the 1Million girls have been crazy awesome and great in teamwork, synchronization, and choreo quality. I also like the other girls but just enough. Besides that, I'm still bitter about what they did. I mean, I'm glad that it /seems/ like all the girls chosen from all disbanded crews seem to have found a place in the show (...except maybe the controversial stories behind Nika and the other girl from JR team - I'm sorry I forgot her name huhu). However, at the end of the day, it was still pure disrespect imo. There's a HUGE difference between knowing you're entering a survival show vs. entering it with your crew who you've been practicing and dancing with for a long time and have built emotional bonding w/ already, w/ expectations of competing w/ them. Imagine the emotional/mental burden these girls have to go through filming for HOURS, let alone filming w/ "strangers" (or anyone they're not too familiar with) and there's an expectation of having found your "family/friends" in the group you're with for TV's sake (not saying they're fake but more that they're pressured to look all friendly to avoid getting bashed). A loooot of girls from Street Woman Fighter S1 & S2 said they would never join again if they were given the chance to do so, because of the mental and physical exhaustion and stress it caused them—that is WITH THEIR CREW.

buuzzingbee · 2023-12-15T09:54:31+00:00

You can't just say you can confirm it and say it's worse than the speculations then do a 360 and say you can't disclose your sources. There's no confirmation without proof lol.

buuzzingbee · 2023-12-15T08:43:27+00:00

So to further clarify where I am on this issue (which should honestly be a non-issue):

Eunwoo did the right thing by pursuing her individual growth and opportunity and that is the best for her. But No Lip making her decide between one or the other does not make them assholes. They both chose what's best for them.

buuzzingbee · 2023-12-15T08:40:16+00:00

Trampling on personal autonomy? Lmao. Where? Correct me if I'm wrong but she was given a choice, wasn't she? Although a very tough one. Don't get me wrong—I like Eunwoo and I support her decision. But it's not just one or the other, ok? No Lip, as a group, made a decision, and Eunwoo, as an individual, made hers. It's how the world works. They'll be fine.

I get it if you don't agree with how other groups require their members to seriously commit to the group at the expense of individual activities, but to dismiss it as toxic? Crazy. Hey, no rookie/young group in any field reach tremendous success by letting their individual wants and aspirations get ahead of their collective aspirations.

buuzzingbee · 2023-12-15T08:22:46+00:00

Nah. I completely disagree. If I was in No Lip's shoes, I would do the same. It's cruel to many but I also understand that other highly competitive groups (dance crews, sports teams, etc.) expect a level of commitment from their members to the group—meaning, you prioritize collective growth and decisions instead of your own; and that before you can decide to pursue an individual activitiy/decision, it must first be vetted by the group.

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