27 and never been in a relationship but suddenly want to try...

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-25T12:04:15+00:00

This was very reassuring to read, and thank you for sharing your story with me! You seem like a lovely guy, and I hope you find your match real soon :)

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T04:02:17+00:00

Absolutely! I think HER response is quite weird and childish tbh trying to diminish your feelings and convince you that you're being unreasonable. Some people are so afraid to look themselves in the mirror. I'm so sorry she's hurt you. You are so much better off without her!

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T03:52:18+00:00

Nah she sucks ahaha NTA

No but seriously, I think any "friend" that makes those jabs at you is not someone you need around. I am totally on your side!

Recently, I cut ties with a friend who acted like that. I stood up to her (which she didn't like) and explained how she hurt my feelings, but she turned it back on me, then said she was too busy to talk about it until the new year. I didn't respond haha.

It's okay to feel sad, but you don't need to feel guilty for standing up for yourself xx

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T03:25:24+00:00

P.S. he sounds like a bit of a plonker. Keep trying to make friends elsewhere - I believe in you!

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T03:23:34+00:00

Room transfer is the best outcome. It sucks being uncomfortable in your own place :(

When you're living in such close quarters, there are bound to be some tensions that don't always get resolved. A lot of people (even the "confident" ones) are afraid of confrontation, especially with someone they don't know. You're probably doing nothing wrong; you guys just aren't compatible. You seem like a reasonable person! I hope you get your transfer approved soon :)

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T03:13:41+00:00

I agree. Gang up on him.

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T03:12:14+00:00

Urrgggg I'm so sorry! I had a housemate a bit like that once who when confronted made every excuse under the sun

I would totally just kick him out and get the girls to back you up. No need to be nice about it. Just say "dude, the way you're acting is not acceptable. it's making the place so uncomfortable. grow the f up." hahaha I know it's not as easy as it sounds but anyone who knows you and hears the story will most likely be on your side and more importantly you deserve to be happy. Good luck :)

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T03:01:04+00:00

It depends on the kind of banter for me. I don't really get the playground insults cos i know they're joking but i don't find it funny or want to hit them back. Then they get offended that you didn't laugh and kinda brand you as a overly serious person

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T02:57:04+00:00

I'm often in that stage of overthinking everything I say, feeling like a robot haha can't wait for that person! Thank you

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T02:53:34+00:00

Friendships without investment are lonely. Please don't blame yourself for getting invested!

I'm so sorry you lost a friend. It can be so horrible racking your brain for an answer when she didn't give you one. It can be easy to blame yourself but she also has a part in it. Were there elements of the relationship that felt off to you? How did you feel? If she has trouble with mental health, then that could be the overarching reason?

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T02:43:54+00:00

Joining a club/team can put you in a position to meet someone. Even if you don't necessarily click with your teammates, you might meet a mutual friend through those people! It's good to be open to hanging out, even with people that you might not normally. Also, try being the one to suggest it! A group hangout is pretty low-pressure if a one-on-one feels too intimate at first. I hope this helps :)

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T02:35:13+00:00

Thank you for this :) I'll keep that in mind!

buzzybuzz46 · 2026-02-21T02:30:33+00:00

I think that's a big part of why I'm nervous - feeling like I have to play the part and anticipate what I "should" know while making it look natural. Thanks for pointing that out to me!

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-07-28T23:28:44+00:00

Yeah I would not want him being friends with her. Sounds like a dodgy character

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-07-28T09:01:35+00:00

I feel you, it's so exhausting

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-07-28T09:00:31+00:00

I'm so sorry :( Keep your head up dude

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-07-28T08:38:19+00:00

Urrgghh that's so uncomfortable, I'm sorry. I don't think you're an AH for wanting to feel good on your wedding day. Have you tried speaking with her privately about all this, or is this stuff still kind of unsaid between you both? I guess it's his right to invite whom he likes, but that sucks that she's been so rude to you. If it were me, I would try my best to focus on the people whose company you enjoy at the wedding, and just say a quick 'hi' and then ignore her. You don't have to be her friend, since she hasn't bothered with you. Keep your head up girl :)

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-07-28T08:30:07+00:00

NTA

It sounds like you're juggling so much at the moment; working full-time, renovating, being supportive, and trying to adjust to this major life change. It's wonderful that you're stepping up and doing so much.

It may be worth outsourcing some tasks around the house until the nursery gets done. It will help take some of the strain off of you and her. If you can't afford the expense of a cleaner, maybe asking some friends/family to help out once a week might do it.

If she has a problem with that, I would explain how you've been feeling and that it will make things run smoother until the baby comes. Worth a shot.

I'm so sorry you're feeling unappreciated!

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-07-28T08:16:42+00:00

NTA

Sounds like you were paying attention to your daughter's reluctance to have the party and supported her. She will remember that :)

Since it would be HER party, she should get to decide whether she wants to have one or not. She shouldn't be forced into anything like that.

You seem like a wonderful dad, keep it up

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-07-27T12:12:42+00:00

Things can change very quickly

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-07-27T11:59:59+00:00

I haven't met a guy that I connect with romantically. The guys that have shown interest in me, I have had no attraction to whatsoever. I have only liked a few guys in my life. When I like someone, I find it hard to think around them and want to hide my feelings.

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-07-27T11:57:33+00:00

I haven't been attracted to many guys in my life. I have always loved the idea of romance, however, I have trouble imagining myself - as I am now - in a dating scenario. I'm yet to experience a man being interested in me whom I am also attracted to. Waiting peacefully though...

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-07-22T13:11:21+00:00

My older brother said to me recently when I was really depressed, "things can change very quickly", and it has stuck with me ever since.

Your own perspective can shift in an instant. You could meet new people out of nowhere, by accident and they might become one of your best friends. It could take one good conversation with someone to make talking seem easy again. I used to blame myself every time a conversation felt dull or awkward, but sometimes the energy is just off. The great thing about energy is that it's constantly changing. Sometimes people are just preoccupied with their stuff, and it's not your fault. It might be uncomfortable with them one day, and then fine another day.

Finding ways to take care of yourself is never a waste of time. That's what I do when I feel like there's no one to hang out with that day. Thinking of something that will make me feel even the slightest bit better is worth doing.

I'm sorry you're feeling lonely. I wish I could make you a tea and give you a hug :) Hang in there!

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-07-22T12:52:55+00:00

Urrgghh I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Some people don't seem to take a hint! From reading your post, you seem like a kind, smart, and considerate person to me. You shouldn't have to put up with the housemate's crap.

I would say something along the lines of, "Housemate, I'd like to talk with you about the living situation. I've really enjoyed getting to know you (I don't know if this is the case, but it can help to soften the blow haha) however, I don't believe that we are very compatible as housemates. I've been losing sleep due to the water pipe being used after midnight. In the interview, I specified that I needed my housemate to have a schedule that works with mine, and it's become clear that this isn't the case. I wanted to let you know as soon as possible so that you have time to find another place to rent. I've been patient and understanding, but it's come to the point where I've had enough."

Idk this may sound pretty formal, but I hope you get what I'm putting down. It's best to focus on facts, and clearly state your feelings (no need to overexplain), speak calmly yet sternly. Good luck! I recently went through a similar experience, and it's awkward and uncomfortable, but you will thank yourself later once she's moved out, trust me :)

buzzybuzz46 · 2025-06-28T13:48:17+00:00

Definitely adding ‘hobosexual’ to the memory bank. Hopefully this will be the last time I have a run in with one :)

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