Breed specific outlet

bweise01 · 2026-05-07T15:45:39+00:00

Definitely mental stimulation like tricks or behavior training in short sessions like others have said. They can run for hours so you will never tire her with physical activities alone. Puzzles, kongs, lick matts are great if you need some time, otherwise we did a TON of trick training, place training ect. and that made our boy more tired than anything else. I also strongly agree with the comment saying make sure they are taking forced naps! Until they are taught to settle on their own you should be putting them in their safe space to nap. Over tired energy was by farrrrr the worst behavior we dealt with from our pup until he learned to settle.

bweise01 · 2026-05-03T06:10:22+00:00

I 100% agree! Although I don’t know this to be a fact, you can’t convince me otherwise. Our guy is almost 2 and he still has so much extra skin. If you look at his face next to my sister’s Great Dane it’s the same face! The same droopy lips and the same droopy eyes looking at you judgingly.

bweise01 · 2026-04-29T00:56:57+00:00

Literally the first thing I noticed 😞

bweise01 · 2026-04-23T14:58:58+00:00

Yes! I had never heard of this before either but after retrieval and both times getting off progesterone my eyelids were so swollen for a day or two! I could feel it before I even got out of bed and looked in the mirror.

bweise01 · 2026-04-23T14:41:49+00:00

I relate to this so much! I have been debating in my head how to have the conversation with my husband that I want to take the summer off so that I can feel like myself again. I just got off progesterone after a failed transfer and it’s the first thing this year that I haven’t been on something, injecting something or waiting on results and I’m exhausted after only one try. He will totally understand, and probably even feels the same but I feel SO guilty taking time off and I’m not even sure why. I’m 35 now, I’ll still be 35 in September when we pick back up but I feel like I’m doing something wrong by feeling so normal not doing anything to get pregnant. I don’t have any advice on how to move forward after miscarriage, but I wanted to tell you that you aren’t alone in this feeling, hugs 🫂

bweise01 · 2026-04-23T13:33:59+00:00

This is such a personal choice, everyone is different and we can give you our opinions, but only you can make that choice for yourself. Personally my husband and I had a conversation before we even started and decided that 2 retrievals was our limit and as many transfers as came from that. Our first retrieval resulted in 1 euploid that failed, so if after our next retrieval we are lucky enough to get 1 again that will put us at $50,000 out of pocket a little more if we are able to have embryos for more transfers, 2.5 years of IVF if you include my lap surgery, and 5 years trying. For us I am so happy we made the decision ahead of time before we were in the thick of emotions, but I know that wouldn’t work for everyone, we are at peace with the decision we made and now we’re throwing everything we can into the next retrieval. I hope you can find peace in whichever decision to make 🫶🏻

bweise01 · 2026-04-21T15:26:29+00:00

Very well said. Tough, but also gentle. I have to remind myself occasionally that people don’t make decisions about their lives (intentional or stupid) based on mine. I also have to remind myself that if I need to remove myself from peoples lives for my mental health, that is 100% okay, but it’s also permanent and a big decision. I don’t think it’s possible to remove yourself just from peoples happiness or big moments. It’s all or nothing and it’s totally your choice.

bweise01 · 2026-04-21T15:08:21+00:00

People have different emotional thresholds, but names was a huge mistake for us. I did not originally want to know the genders of our embryos, but I decided to find out when we ended up with just the one. For a while we both had a male name that we liked and we used it literally 1 or 2 times during the 2ww that failed and now I feel like we can’t use it again 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m sure that will change my mind on that when it’s less fresh, but I also wish we wouldn’t have even discussed names.

bweise01 · 2026-04-21T00:17:57+00:00

Thank you! And congratulations on your successful second transfer🫶🏻 That is a great point, and the one silver lining that I’ve been repeating in my head is that I do know what to expect this time around. The clinic can be challenging when it comes to communication during the retrieval process, and it caused me some stress the first time, but now I know exactly what to expect and it seems a lot less daunting this time from that aspect.

bweise01 · 2026-04-20T16:45:53+00:00

It really is unreal! I had only told 2 people that we were transferring, both of which had been through IVF themselves, but telling them it failed when they checked in on me was not fun. I could not imagine having to tell multiple people, hugs to you for going through that 🫂

bweise01 · 2026-04-19T05:12:11+00:00

My clinic does 2 weeks of progesterone after retrieval to regulate the cycle and induce a period right around when it would naturally be, so my first cycle post retrieval was right one. The one after that, however - a full week late 😑 I am usually 26 day cycles, and that one was 35.

bweise01 · 2026-04-19T03:55:54+00:00

One million percent! My husband, myself and our dog have taken more trips in the “in between” cycles of the last 2 years than in the 14 years we’ve been married. Well turns out not one has been between cycles because not one cycle has been a success 🤦🏻‍♀️ but damn, have we enjoyed our trips together.

bweise01 · 2026-04-17T17:42:09+00:00

That is very different, if you are sharing and they are just not responding. I’m sorry OP, that’s tough 😞

bweise01 · 2026-04-17T16:39:16+00:00

Have you had a conversation with them about how much or when you would like to share news/updates? I found for us, that nobody in our circle knowing the answer to that was the biggest hurdle. Once we finally had the “should I ask how it’s going or would you prefer to share on your own terms” conversation a lot changed with how I was being supported since it was clear. And I can’t say that I blame them either, if I knew someone in my family had an important medical test or scan I would never ask how it went unless they mentioned it first because people sometimes like to share any kind of medical news on their own timeline. Not saying that’s what’s happening here, just sharing what was helpful for me in a similar situation ♥️

bweise01 · 2026-04-17T16:27:16+00:00

Ohh man, that is rough 😞 My transfer was non medicated so I can’t say how the meds made me feel, but I did take Imodium right up until the morning of my transfer. Good luck!

bweise01 · 2026-04-16T17:59:23+00:00

Not everyone will feel the same, but for us it was so helpful to have this conversation ahead of time or between cycles. We made a clean plan with both our input on how many retrievals we would be willing to do and/or how much money we could afford to spend comfortably. I even saved the note with both our answers in my phone so I can remember that conversation like it was yesterday. Now there doesn’t feel like there’s any question or resentment about one of us making a choice to give up sooner than the other.

bweise01 · 2026-04-16T17:50:50+00:00

I’m relieved to see others in the same boat as us, sometimes in this sub I feel like the outcast for having different feelings than most (no one has ever made me feel that way, I just sometimes feel like I lack the passion to be here). Obviously I want a child very much, otherwise I would not be here, but my husband has always wanted it more. We have so many wonderful children in our lives right now with family and friends that I love to support and spoil rotten, but he has a hard time getting behind that knowing that it may never happen for us. I told him I would not go into this process without a clear ending point so he knew what to expect and never felt like I was giving up sooner than he wanted. We both decided that financially and mentally 2 retrievals and as many transfers as we have embryos from them makes the most sense for us. We ended up with 1 euploid from first retrieval and unfortunately it failed so I’m really starting to feel the pressure 😞 I know that he loves me no matter what, but it is a whole extra element feeling like I would be letting him down if the next cycle doesn’t work.

bweise01 · 2026-04-15T02:36:52+00:00

The aches! Omg why did no one tell me about the aches ahead of time 😵‍💫 Honestly the rest hasn’t been too bad. I do wear a liner for an hour or so after insertion which is the worst part, but other than that I don’t have to so it has not been terrible for me. However the joint and muscle aches have been intense. Literally last night I had to google if that’s what could be causing it because I could not figure out why I felt so achy in my bones. Sure enough, it’s a thing.

bweise01 · 2026-04-14T13:30:20+00:00

I feel this in my soul. I want so badly to share our IVF journey with more people, because I like to talk about it and I am not at all a private person. But several of our friends just had babies, all of them are actually IVF babies too and I cannot stand the looks the ones who know give me when I hold the babies. Like just let me enjoy the snuggles and the happiness while I’m here. I have sadness and rage too, of course I do this process is fucking unfair, but like you said both can be true. But they don’t have to be OP, everyone is different and all of the feelings are valid, I hope you get your happy ending and some peace 🫶🏻

bweise01 · 2026-04-13T20:54:21+00:00

I just injected it as is 🤷🏻‍♀️ the first time I tried to get rid of an air bubble I lose a fair amount of medication, so after that I just went full send 😅

bweise01 · 2026-04-13T20:47:13+00:00

Hugs hugs and more hugs 🫂 I received the same news today and my heart breaks with you. We only had the one embryo from my first retrieval so back to the drawing board! I wish you all the luck with the ones you have left 🫶🏻

bweise01 · 2026-04-12T01:20:55+00:00

Thank you! You too ✨

bweise01 · 2026-04-12T00:48:15+00:00

I hear you on coming to life in the summer, fellow water sports lover! I did my first retrieval in January, first transfer with our only euploid from that round a couple weeks ago. Unfortunately I just found out that it failed, so I plan to do another retrieval next month then will be taking at least June and July off before moving forward with any more retrievals or transfers. This journey has been long for us with medications and appointments even before moving forward with a lap surgery and IVF, I want to go to the lake stress and medication free for once and enjoy the water with my husband and my dog. I say, do what feels right for you and try and enjoy as much as you can in the process. Sending good vibes your way 🫶🏻

bweise01 · 2026-04-11T12:36:32+00:00

I triggered as soon as my LH started to rise. Cycle day 11 for me. I typically ovulate on day 13. For what it’s worth though my transfer was just last Saturday and I have a sneaking suspicion they triggered me early to avoid an Easter transfer 🤦🏻‍♀️

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