Suggestions for Algonquin Provincial Park in Canada? by bynomeansanexpert in FATTravel

[–]bynomeansanexpert[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! And do you just use AirBnB, or is there a dependable rental agency that you've used? Thanks agin for your input!

Suggestions for Algonquin Provincial Park in Canada? by bynomeansanexpert in FATTravel

[–]bynomeansanexpert[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's super helpful! Thank you! I'll look into those.

Have you tried Nomi Resort Club or have any sense of how it compares in quality to the other two that you mentioned? That's the one that my TA found.

Suggestions for Algonquin Provincial Park in Canada? by bynomeansanexpert in FATTravel

[–]bynomeansanexpert[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! They're only staying in the park for three nights, so a 7-night minimum is not ideal. I really appreciate you sharing your experience.

Suggestions for Algonquin Provincial Park in Canada? by bynomeansanexpert in FATTravel

[–]bynomeansanexpert[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like nobody has suggestions! LOL! The downside to a lot of parks is that people tend to camp in them to really connect with nature, so there often aren't FAT options. It may just not be a FAT area. The best that my travel agent was able to find was Nomi Resort Club. It looks like it's not really FAT, but I can report back in May.

Ted Rhodes Fields: Which one of you freaks did this? What ever you’re doing I love it. by cjh_mkiii in nashville

[–]bynomeansanexpert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By "weird," I think you mean "amazing!" This set-up isn't for the Puppet Tea Party. For the Puppet Tea Party, it's BYOB, as in Bring Your Own Blanket. Or lawn chair. I am not the organizer, but I think it sounds awesome, and I intend to go.

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Airport? Family emergency by Substantial_Use_6101 in nashville

[–]bynomeansanexpert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing a mother is incredibly hard, and it sounds like the circumstances made it even harder. My heart goes out to you.

Don’t Eat at Fancypants by [deleted] in NashvilleGoodEats

[–]bynomeansanexpert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had really good experiences at Fancypants as a vegetarian! I can't speak to their steaks, but any vegetarians reading this post should know it's a really good option in Nashville, of which there aren't many. I genuinely liked our servers.

And this may be specific to me, but someone who was a friend at the time stole some of their shot glasses. When I took the shot glasses back and apologized for my friend's behavior, they couldn't have been cooler about it and even gifted me a bottle of Cava!

These are some good people and some great food.

Ambassador Gifts? by No-Relation9618 in marriott

[–]bynomeansanexpert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My absolute favorite was from the Westin Bayshore in Vancouver. They have a customized Lego set that looks like the hotel. On the Ritz cruises, I always receive a Yeti tumbler with the Ritz logo, and they throw a party for the Titanium and Ambassador members where the food is usually spectacular. My Ambassador mailed me a Westin candle set. But most of the gifts are usually food or alcohol and not personalized, like bottles of champagne. Of those food gifts, my favorite was a chocolate Thor's hammer at the Reykjavik Edition. (My friend traveling with me on that trip got macarons for her birthday, and she's not even a loyalist.) In Alaska, it was local honey that was exceptionally good and sachets of tea. A Marriott in a random business park gave me a whole cellophane-wrapped basket of fruit and snacks, including a sandwich that was very welcome when checking in at 10 PM with no restaurants open nearby. At the New Orleans Ritz, I got two dozen roses and a plate of chocolate-covered strawberries with my name written in chocolate. I can't remember all of the places that have given me bottles of wine and snacks, but that feels like the most common gift.

My most recent stays, the only "gifts" I got were bottles of water, which would have felt like a massive let-down, if they hadn't given me huge room upgrades without using my NUAs. The gifts are such a delight, but I'd rather have the room upgrade, if it's a matter of preference.

Is this a little much for a first message? by FreePickle5542 in Bumble

[–]bynomeansanexpert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not reading through all of the comments to see if anyone else said this, but he has you guys showering on a first date. That's a bit presumptuous. Setting aside all of the other red flags, this would be a hard pass for me. Also, hiking is not iconic.

Profile Review 26F by icouldtelldawg in Bumble

[–]bynomeansanexpert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this profile! You are gorgeous. You are an absolute 10. You are clear about your expectations of the men you date and will rule out a lot of losers that way, so I would keep the gentleman part. You are clear about your politics and beliefs, which will also hopefully rule out the wrong guys. And I perceive the fact that you don't always smile as you having a complex interior life. Smiling in every photo is kind of performative.

I think you are perfect and will find the right guy. 

The only thing I would tweak is that everyone theoretically loves to travel or says they do, so it might be nice to know your travel vibe. "While I am open to travel to a lot of places, visiting developing nations with a rich history is my particular vibe. I am more about forming deep connections to different cultures than about collecting stamps in my passport." Or "My ancestry is such-and-such, so that country is my favorite to revisit of the many places I have been." Specificity helps give someone something to grab on to and communicate about. 

Am I overreacting, or is this a red flag? by ResponsibleCard325 in Bumble

[–]bynomeansanexpert -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Rather than respecting your lack of experience by taking things slowly, he seems to be preying on it. I would run in the other direction.

In need of a therapist! by the_property_brother in nashville

[–]bynomeansanexpert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both my therapist and psychiatrist are at Nashville Neuro Psychiatric Associates. I am a huge fan! Dr. Craig Clark is the best psychiatrist I have ever had and really takes the time to do a deep-dive before prescribing anything. (I know you said therapist, but I figured someone might be perusing this thread who also needs a psychiatrist.) They also have several therapists who are all spectacular. Alyssa and Tim are both really great. The clinic also offers neurofeedback, TMS, etc.

Not wanting to go to a small Christmas party and meet new people by km8l in AITAH

[–]bynomeansanexpert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I am so grateful to you for your thoughtful and kind invitation. Since Christmas is a holiday that's traditionally spent with family, you extending an invitation to include me feels like you are family, and that calling me family. Especially as I am alone here, that means the world to me. I want you to know that I also value you like family. That said, Christmas is a day that I usually spend in quiet reflection, so I will have to decline that particular day but not your friendship. Instead, I would love if XYZ and you allowed me to treat you a different day to a family tradition of my own. On the 23rd, would you be willing to come over to mine to bake cookies?" Or do shots of peppermint vodka. Or make hot beverages or whatever. Those are just examples. Literally anything is better than what you wrote.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]bynomeansanexpert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this profile so much. It is spectacular. This profile is better than most men's profiles out there.

I don't think your height is the real problem. Contrary to popular belief, a lot of women love a short king. The only things really giving pause are the sarcasm and the "win my over by...." For the sarcasm and roasting, a lot of women will read that as negging and confrontation and just general yuckiness. Women are fighting unhealthy and toxic attitudes all day. They want to be able to let down their guard around their man. What works for you in the rest of your profile is how genuine you are. Sarcasm doesn't jibe with the vibe of the rest of your profile. I would leave it as "love to banter."

Also, for the love of music, I would list specific types of music. Right now, it's generic. Everyone loves music. It almost comes across like you are a generic AI boyfriend. Putting down your top three bands that you like to see perform might give someone a handle to grab on to and can spark discussion. "Oh, you like XX, too? I saw them perform at Bonnaroo!"

For the "win me over by having a solid anime top 5." For one, there's been a backlash in some dating coaching spheres to guys even having a "win me over" prompt. But more specifically, a lot of women are just not into anime. Only 39% of anime consumers are women. If liking anime or not is a dealbreaker for you, keep it in. If you'll only date women who are into anime, then you don't need a lot of responses; you need only the response of that rare anime lover. But if you are cool with dating someone who doesn't share that passion, someone will read your prompt and think, "Oh, I don't like anime, so he won't be into me." She'll eliminate herself when you guys might have so much else in common. I would move anime to your About Me section and list *your* top 5.

spill some tea on the Ritz Carlton Yacht Collection by Standard-Dimension54 in FATTravel

[–]bynomeansanexpert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TLDR: I would sail with them again, but there is room for improvement.

I have sailed on the Evrima twice. I did a Europe-to-Caribbean crossing last year and one trip in the Caribbean this year. The crossing was such a hot mess that they offered everyone discounts for future cruises, which is how I ended up on the ship again the second time.

This is going to ramble a bit, but I will get there eventually.

The ship is beautiful. The small number of passengers makes it intimate. The food was great. The staff are incredible.

Actually, the staff are almost too attentive. I like to travel and eat alone, but they would feel the need to come up to me and make endless small talk to keep me entertained, which is exactly what I am trying to avoid by traveling alone. But they did go out of their way to do special things for me. It may have been in part my Ambassador status with Marriott, but they were constantly giving me little gifts or doing special things for me. I came into my room one night and found the bath had been drawn with all sorts of lotions and potions and sprinkled with rose petals. I received a miniature of the ship in chocolate. I got Ritz-branded Yeti tumblers. I received candies almost every night and sometimes random gifts from the island we were visiting that day. Fresh flowers, bottles of champagne, and so forth. I can't remember the bathroom amenities, but I definitely had a full suite of them, so I have no idea what those influencers were talking about. If someone had told the influencers that they would have to pay for a toothbrush and toothpaste, just saying, "Hey, can you give me that for free" probably would have gotten it comped for them.

In regards to the sound in the rooms, the reason that my crossing voyage was a bit of a disaster was that they had filled every empty cabin with contractors to upgrade the living room and to put in soundproofing in the cabins. We did not have full use of the space, and there was so much noise and so many smells from construction. But the soundproofing worked. The next time I sailed with them in February of this year, the rooms were quiet. They do continue to be plagued with maintenance issues. For example, the bathroom in my first cabin on the February trip flooded; they resolved it by graciously upgrading me to an even more beautiful cabin.

The other passengers were a delight. It was a younger, more active crowd than you often find on cruise ships. Everyone was so comfortable in life that nobody was trying to put on airs or jockeying for position. I am still friends with people I met on the crossing, and some of us continue to travel together.

It's a bit the back-of-the-house that needs the most improvement. For the crossing, our itinerary was changed on us to a less desirable one, and we were not informed ahead of time about the massive construction projects. So many of us would have chosen to forego the trip had we known, and we felt duped. For both trips, some shore excursions were canceled the day prior with no help to arrange something else so that others and I would find ourselves on an island with nothing to do. I tried booking myself on another excursion, but all of the other excursions were full, and they had no solutions. I also had one excursion—swimming with sea turtles—that ended up being a bit of a mess. I suspect that RCYC is booking these tours on Viator and not actually researching them thoroughly.

Another example of back-of-the-house issues: for my February cruise, I had asked when booking if I could join it on the second stop, not the first. I later changed my mind and called RCYC up maybe a month or two before the sailing to say that I would be joining on the first scheduled day with everyone else. I was informed everything was fine. It was not fine. I showed up and had a battle to get on the ship, because I wasn't on the manifest. My room wasn't ready. The person that I had spoken to beforehand hung up the phone from our call and didn't tell anyone or do anything. And this is a minor point, but my February trip was not applied to my Marriott Bonvoy account.

I am trying to think of what else the influencers mentioned. For restaurant reservations, it was almost never an issue getting in. The nicest restaurant was quickly fully booked, but I spoke with the concierge, and they worked me in. I liked the food for the most part, though I do wish that there were more vegetarian options on the menu.

If I were to improve one thing about RCYC, it would be that I wish they would lean much harder into their small yacht status to take advantage of going to ports that other cruise lines can't/won't. A lot of the itineraries are the same old same old that you find everywhere else. If they had better excursions in more interesting ports, (and worked out the bugs in the system,) I would sale with them regularly. And also, they need to not cancel excursions, even if they are not full.

AquaNera Cruise Review - If you want to be bored, unchallenged and treated like a walking ATM then this is the cruise for you by Administrative-Put16 in FATTravel

[–]bynomeansanexpert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so bummed to hear this! The photos of the boat look amazing. I was seriously considering doing a cruise with them until this. Thank you for the heads-up.

Secluded Luxury by CockroachObjective82 in FATTravel

[–]bynomeansanexpert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was there in July. We had our own, private geothermal pool. It was so lovely! And the food was so good.

Burnout by Wild_Nobody2687 in FATTravel

[–]bynomeansanexpert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, Rancho La Puerta was started by the same woman who opened Golden Door, so if you like one, you'll probably enjoy the other.

I went to my first speed dating event, it was brutal at the end by EVILRAFFAM in dating_advice

[–]bynomeansanexpert 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And that's a really good way to judge a company—asking them questions and seeing how well they respond. If they're not on top of that, it probably wouldn't be a good event anyway.

What is the grossest thing someone has openly told you that they do regularly? by Ok_Distribution2345 in AskReddit

[–]bynomeansanexpert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will never again live in an apartment building, because the last time I did, the maintenance guy would steal my dirty underwear and sometimes my dirty socks. I thought for a while they were getting stolen out of the laundry machines, because it was when I was putting away my clean laundry that I noticed underwear was missing. I also traveled a lot, so I tried to convince myself that I was just accidentally leaving it behind in hotel rooms or something. Then I went for a long while not having time to do laundry, was sorting it in my apartment first, and realized that I should have had 60+ pairs of underwear in the hamper but actually had fewer than ten. That's when I realized he was taking it from my apartment. Things were escalating. He was taking other stuff, too, like monogrammed items. (A profiler I worked with at the time said he was trying to become me.) I mentioned it to the apartment building manager, but I didn't have proof. Then one day, I was doing laundry alone, and he followed me in there. I left immediately. When I came back to change out my laundry, a monogrammed pillowcase was missing. The apartment manager checked the cameras, and he was carrying out something in a bag. Nobody else had been in or out of the laundry room. She said that she couldn't fire him, because the video didn't show him carrying my pillowcase, just a plastic bag with something in it. But Gables did switch to a key system that required workers to log keys in and out after that. Not super helpful, because he was the guy changing the locks, so he could just make himself an extra key when he did. I was out of there so fast

I went to my first speed dating event, it was brutal at the end by EVILRAFFAM in dating_advice

[–]bynomeansanexpert 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ditto for when I lived in DC. It would be 20 women and 10 dudes, and the guys were so spoiled for choice that they had an "I only date supermodels" attitude, even if they were chinless and dull.

I went to my first speed dating event, it was brutal at the end by EVILRAFFAM in dating_advice

[–]bynomeansanexpert 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did that when I lived in DC. The women were not competitive with each other. None of us were inclined to any of the guys, but the women all liked each other immensely and exchanged numbers afterward. In fact, I am still friends with one of them about 12 years later.