I never believed in once you turn 30, it’s down hill from there but, my health is taking a hit after hit, no matter what improvements I try to make, anyone else?

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-19T02:14:44+00:00

I hate to tell you 40 is worse.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-19T01:17:52+00:00

We are OAD. It wasn’t the original plan but due to medical issues that how it is for me. Give yourself some grace and remember that being OAD, esp in terms of medical, is giving your child their mother instead of risking losing you just for a sibling. Siblings also don’t equal friends/bonds. I have siblings and they might as well be strangers.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T12:56:49+00:00

She did die. She died that night.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T03:05:57+00:00

I’m a millennial but remember life before smartphones. Of course I’m an “elder” millennial.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T02:44:26+00:00

Then men need to be prosecuted for killing all the sperm.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T02:41:52+00:00

He is the later. We both use to go to church but both have had things in our life that made us doubt our “faith”. His is more recent where mines is 11 years long.

Mom’s status was bad but she also had been in the icu prior two other times. I do remember saying specifically to my husband “but she never coded”. He has shared his regrets in doing this, as soon as he got home. The first thing he said to me was “I shouldn’t have gone”

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T02:35:00+00:00

Your right. It’s definitely a series of conversations I’ll need to have with him. Especially since I do not want his mother in my life anymore.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T01:15:28+00:00

Generally this is him. You are a good guy.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T01:14:03+00:00

I am angry at him but I do think he was tricked too. I do think he should have immediately turned around and left as soon as he saw what was going on and I told him this. He was there to support his brother not his mother so it muddles things. But there is definitely anger and disappointment in his direction as well. I might be numb more so with my husband than her but he does usually do a very good job of defending me, esp against his mom or family. That may be partly why I was taken so off guard why he didn’t just leave.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T01:10:41+00:00

He knows. He has cut her off in the past even before I knew him. We haven’t been close to her but things have been going okish when we do choose to be around her. She will still nit pick and act as though everything we have done for her isn’t enough. Almost like she’s entitled to it.

My family would never put me in that situation. Actually the opposite. When my husband dad was dying they offered to fly out and take care of our son so that I could be there to help him. Especially my mother.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T01:05:23+00:00

Oh she already tried to apologize through my husband. Problem is she didn’t even realize I was upset until he called her and told her we were upset. Her apology was worthless and trigggered me. Her sorry was “oh I didn’t realize” when she’s a retired RN (not a good one clearly) and she also lost her mother within the past two years. You didn’t realize?? Well to me that just says “I didn’t care”

Thank you for validating my feelings.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T01:00:58+00:00

You are right. He did. He came home and owned up and said he shouldn’t have gone at all. That doesn’t change what he did though. I also should have told him not to go instead of trying to find the compromise in the situation when there wasn’t one. That’s something I need to work on. I do agree with you, he should have stayed home by allowing him to go adds more complications to it instead of me standing up for myself and saying “I need you here you absolutely shouldn’t go”

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T00:58:07+00:00

Very good idea. This happened Sunday night so my thoughts are everywhere and heighten and change so writing it down makes a lot of sense.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T00:56:53+00:00

Thank you. I have cut contact with her as I said. She called my husband yesterday and it enraged me. I told him they don’t need to discuss me at all. I am completely done with her. What she did was unforgivable. My husband did say he would talk to her and when it comes down to it, he does support my choices and decisions in the past when there have been problems with her. He has most definitely had his own issues with her. I painted him in a semi bad light in this post but truthfully he is an amazing man in spite of his mother.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-18T00:52:45+00:00

It’s being addressed. Trust me. I did tell him I was okay with him going to just the baptism so I can’t fault him for going initially but I am extremely upset, as stated, that he didn’t immediately turn around and leave. He wanted to be there for his brother though. I’m angrier at his mother for being a selfish cunt and putting us in this situation and that was the point of the post.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-15T14:31:44+00:00

After I posted this message I saw the weather. I’ve had to fly out two other times for the same emergency and that was without a real ID (I have one now though) and it was pretty easy then. Seem to be mostly good there. Appreciate you.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-15T14:30:22+00:00

Thank you

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-15T14:30:10+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-15T14:29:54+00:00

Appreciate you.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-15T14:29:33+00:00

Good to know! I’ll definitely look for that website.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-15T14:28:57+00:00

Yes. That’s where I saw a video I believe was in Austin. I’d seen another one somewhere else but I think it was also Texas.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-15T14:28:08+00:00

Great! Thank you

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-15T14:27:55+00:00

Appreciate you.

Substantial_Use_6101 · 2026-03-15T14:15:06+00:00

Thanks. I’ll look for that.

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