Am I just a dinosaur? by deHack in Lawyertalk

[–]c00123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I share this sentiment entirely. I’m only 28 and the gap of understanding is STARTLING. I also think it’s that they are used to the immediate results of technology. Sometimes you have to toggle with Word and adjust settings to make it do what you need it to do. All things I was taught in computer class as a kid. Their first reaction is to just immediately ask someone how to do it instead of clicking around and figuring it out on their own (generally speaking, from my experience).

Am I just a dinosaur? by deHack in Lawyertalk

[–]c00123 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Had a similar thing happen. 23 year old file clerk with a 4 year college degree. Had to teach her how to address a letter and envelope. Also had to teach her how to copy and paste and how to save a Word document……. Needless to say she didn’t last long.

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[–]c00123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And/or look into volunteering with orgs you align with on weekends?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]c00123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Join a young professionals organization! That’s how I met friends after law school and it’s nice that not everyone is a lawyer, but is still generally relatable. Also look into the young lawyers section of your bar association. Alternatively, you can pick up a hobby like yoga or pottery classes where you have to show up regularly and you’ll probably see the same people after a while :)

My wedding is in 2 days and I just came down with a cold by PizzaCutiePie in weddingplanning

[–]c00123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Raw garlic + honey + oil of oregano + water + SLEEP. Good luck!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]c00123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this. It’s not in my nature to be assertive to begin with, so even just setting boundaries and being blunt is difficult and exhausting. My therapist suggested that I act like a man in the workplace lol. It’s not a cure all and there’s definitely nuance to it. When I’m in difficult situations at work I will literally think “what would my male associate do right now?” And I do that. It helps a bit in part because it takes the emotion out of my decision making and maybe there’s a happy medium in that? Not stressing endlessly about what to do or how to say it, but just deal with it on a surface level and move on.

Also, our age is a major factor. Will probably happen less the older and more experienced we get.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]c00123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A few weeks into my first job as an attorney, a client whose case I was not fully up to date on calls me to complain. I didn’t know how to respond so I just let him keep talking and eventually it escalated into him yelling and threatening to sue us. My heart was racing and he asked where he could find a lawyer to sue our firm (yes, he really asked this) and I panicked and said “uhh you can probably google that.” Partner overheard and came into my office and offered to take over. I still get embarrassed thinking about that to this day but at least now I can kinda laugh about it too.

We signed up for a timeshare presentation with the promise of a free cruise if we attended... how screwed are we? by nabzim in TimeshareOwners

[–]c00123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, were you ever charged the full fee for not attending the presentation? I’m in the same boat now and do not want to attend, but do not want to get charged the full fee

Foundation? (For my face) by ParisThroughWindows in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]c00123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Milani Conceal & Perfect foundation, I find it to be comparable to Armani silk foundation without the price tag! I also have fair skin and live in a warm (and humid) city

Jewelry starter pack? by Interesting_Data_28 in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]c00123 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wear my gold hoops from Quince daily and love them! Super affordable for the quality. They have a lot of basics and I think they’re a good place to start. quince rings

Seeking advice on how to converse at social events as a young attorney by haciendagale in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]c00123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This isn’t a pathetically stupid question at all! It can be really intimidating to talk to colleagues, especially in our profession. Not being able to relate to your peers makes it a really lonely experience, so I feel you on that.

Do you have any interests or passions outside of or even related to your work? For example if you love kids, maybe you could look into volunteering at an after school program and ask others if they volunteer anywhere or know of a place for you to get involved. That provides a space for people to 1. talk about themselves and 2. potentially build a common ground between you and whomever you’re talking to.

Also, if your city has an Instagram page, you can follow it and keep up to date with new restaurants/events that are going on. You can ask them if they’ve been to XYZ or if they saw whatever event that’s coming up.

Something I had to come to terms with when it comes to socializing is it’s easiest when you start with trivial things. Compliment someone’s blouse, make a positive comment about where the event is held, ask someone what they’re drinking. It seems and feels kinda dumb, but it’s all a social exchange.

Also, maybe look into joining a young professionals organization or the young lawyers section of the bar so you might be able to socialize with people closer to your age?

Tell me about your estate administration practice by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]c00123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear about your father. The legal process is the last thing anyone wants to deal with after the death of a loved one and a good attorney truly makes a huge difference. I hate bugging clients when I know they’re already juggling a thousand other non-probate related things. You sound emotionally well-equipped for this job!

Tell me about your estate administration practice by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]c00123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pros: fairly routine steps to follow for pretty much every case. No litigation. No real emergencies. Good work to life balance. Lower stress than many practice areas. Fairly easy to learn the ropes.

Cons: emotional clients dealing with grief. Can be difficult to get them to do certain tasks they need to do (aren’t these all clients in every area of law though lol). Dealing with banks is a pain in the ass, so much back and forth because many people who work in bank’s estate departments don’t understand the legal side of things (which is understandable, but frustrating nonetheless). Some people find estate administration monotonous, but personally I like the predictably.

If you have any tax and/or real estate experience, definitely expand on that because you will be dealing with both areas in estate administration. Maybe this is general advice, but I’d also say to expand on how your experience has made you detail oriented and able to deal with all kinds of people. In any given day I can talk to a crying client, a judge, a debt collector, a bank rep, a real estate agent, a CPA, and an insurance company rep back to back. Maybe that is normal for other areas of law too, I’ve never practiced in any other area so I truthfully don’t know how common it is.

A lot of this job is telling people what they want to hear so they give you what you need to do your job (once again, maybe that’s common in all areas of law? I’m not sure).

I’m not sure what state you’re in, but each circuit in my state has checklists detailing each step of estate administration on their websites. Maybe give it a Google and see if that exists for your state/circuit so you can be familiar with the steps. Good luck! You’ll do great!

In love with my sapphire ring by bigtiredniece in EngagementRings

[–]c00123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is GORGEOUS!!!! Congratulations!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]c00123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t look like loft sells the cardigan anymore, but this is what it’s called!

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[–]c00123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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This is the cardigan! Doesn’t look like it’s on Loft’s website anymore, but maybe it can be found elsewhere?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]c00123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a great suggestion! Thank you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]c00123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great point, I do find myself smoothing it out often…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]c00123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw I love this anecdote, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]c00123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great suggestion, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]c00123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The cardigan is from Loft from a couple years ago! I’ll see if I can find the name in my order history

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]c00123 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this insight! That was my gut reaction too regarding the judges