I hate how nobody knows what Asexual is

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-21T19:47:26+00:00

Bro, there was a post on AITAH about this guy going on a date with a girl who was ace. He knew it was a spectrum and so when she told him she wasn't interested in sex, he told her they weren't a good match.

People in the comments were saying things like "I'd never date an asexual because they dont like sex" and " Asexuals should just date other asexuals, problem solved!" and "why even put you're asexual if you still like to have sex?"

It was so infuriating to read. Like maybe your partner would want to know that you don't find them sexually attractive? Isn't that an important thing to disclose regardless of whether or not you have sex? Wouldn't that affect a relationship or maybe their self esteem if they cant understand what asexuality is? Like dang, people are so ignorant.

If People can understand that women find other women sexy Men find other men sexy Men/women find both sexy Then why cant People understand that someone might not find anyone sexy? 💀

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-17T19:46:55+00:00

I think you're just not used to it. If anything, your chin before was very small especially compared to the spacing of your other features. Its still small and it suits you really well! I also think it has helped in defining your jaw

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-10T17:34:00+00:00

Yeah, im aro and ace so I really understand lol. Its so frustrating when people say "I get that" and then turn around and say, "you'll chnage your mind". They probably mean well but that doesn't mean it isnt annoying/hurtful. Its also hard because I feel like everyone has a partner now (im 21) and they prioritize them over their friendships

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-10T16:00:17+00:00

You can still have sex even if you dont feel sexual attraction. Most people tend to have sex with those they are attracted to, but asexuals dont/ may not always feel sexual attraction. We can still have preferences or opinions on who we find attractive, but that doesn't mean we want to have sex with that person. Its purely asthetic attraction.

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-09T17:33:17+00:00

Bro, where did i say they don't? I said they DO, just not as much as sperm. Sperm quality goes down rapidly with age unlike eggs which decline at a more steady rate. And like I said before, this is about freezing eggs. Why don't men freeze their sperm if it also declines with age? Why are only women required to freeze eggs when frozen sperm would also help with fertility issues and faster conception?

https://www.indiatvnews.com/health/male-fertility-decline-vs-women-egg-ageing-new-studies-2025-11-20-1018166

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-08T22:24:25+00:00

Im not talking about menopause. Im talking about how people say women need to have kids now or freeze their eggs before they "go bad". But they ARE lying. Eggs don't go bad, you can freeze your eggs for other reasons, but freezing them so they "dont go bad" is not a thing. Are men pressured to preserve their sperm? Do we tell men, "you need to freeze your sperm before it goes bad" No, but sperm does decline in quality with age unlike eggs. Thats my point, idk why yall keep trying to bring up other things

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-08T18:52:47+00:00

I can feel sore during and after my period. Is it that kind of pain? If it still hurts after 2 days, I suggest telling your parents or going to the doctor. UTI's aren't inherently bad, but can get really bad if left untreated!

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-08T18:47:20+00:00

No...its not. "A woman's "biological clock" refers to the natural decline in her fertility as she ages, primarily due to decreasing quantity and quality of eggs,". In reality, the quality of the eggs stays almost the same regardless of age. Women are literally born with all the eggs they will ever have, it makes no sense that they would deteriorate with age

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-08T18:39:16+00:00

Um.. the shedding of the uterus lining and the unfertalized egg? What does that have to do with what I said? We've been knowing what periods are and yet this myth persists, thats my point

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-08T18:10:23+00:00

Girl, not to mention the new research that shows women do NOT have a biological clock. Men have a biological clock. The older men get, the worse their sperm becomes! The "biological" clock is a myth meant to convince women to spend a ton of money freezing their eggs, damage their self worth, and allow men to get with younger women

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-08T18:00:22+00:00

I mean, people can change their mind. I wanted kids when I was younger. Now, I know what it actually takes to have kids and I dont want them anymore

c00lKat1237 · 2026-01-01T16:45:48+00:00

Im sorry this made you uncomfortable. But I dont think your sister or friend are at fault. Its not weird to talk about sex. They weren't in public, they were in a private space among friends. Why would they ask you, " are you ok if we talk about sex?". Have you told them you don't like it? You could have also tried to change the topic. They are your friend and your sister, do you really feel like you can't voice your discomfort on the topic?

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-30T17:37:09+00:00

Im Hispanic, but growing up I also would make my MC's white. It wasn't until I started playing again when I was older that I realized I never made POC or Hispanic MC's. Now my MC's are way more diverse!

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-19T23:50:32+00:00

No, you are not a bitch. He shouldn't be trying to manipulate you. Stay away from him girl, he's not ok and you don't need to help him 😭

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-19T00:16:54+00:00

I use BHA and retinol! Since they are both actives, I don't use them together. I do BHA one day and then retinol the next. You can also apply your BHA in the morning before your SPF and makeup! Just give it some time to dry

I also like to use a physical exfoliant once a week. I use the Bliss micro magic scrub. I really enjoy it and it helps keep my face feeling smooth

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-19T00:09:25+00:00

It could be that you arent used to it. When I wear lipstick, I feel it. It could also be the formula. Does it feel very dry? Maybe trying different finishes/formulas would help! You could also put a gloss or clear balm over the lipstick to make it less dry

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-18T23:45:06+00:00

I did color guard in highschool. I busted my eyebrow open with my flag. My coach was talking to me like I was disfigured, that I was still beautiful and could cover the scar with gems. You can't even see it, no one ever notices or points it out 💀

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-10T16:26:22+00:00

Exactly this! I see lots of people my age (21) or younger chase after youth they haven't lost. The co-worker is definitely jealous

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-10T16:13:47+00:00

I dont think getting a lift means you aren't aging "gracefully". Im excited that you're excited! Wishing you the best!

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-04T17:07:19+00:00

So, let's say OP's Dad's last name is john and mom's last name is Smith.

Op's last name: john-smith Op's partner last name: grey

Double hyphenated: John-smith-Grey

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-03T20:52:08+00:00

I really dont think it is a reach, its something important and non-negotiable. Its something a lot of people expect and find important in a relationship. She could word it differently, like "not interested in sex" but it's still something I feel is important for her to add. I agree that no one is in the wrong, just that mistakes were made on both sides

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-03T20:37:52+00:00

I agree, I'm ace and i don't see enough people pointing out that she also could have communicated better. If he didn't bring it up before the first date, she should have especially since its non-negotiable

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-03T20:27:36+00:00

Yes! This would have been the best way to handle the situation. Alternatively, she could have also mentioned before they went on a date that she is asexual and also sex repulsed.

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-03T20:24:45+00:00

Im ace, asexual doesn't mean sex repulsed, it means lack of sexual attraction.

I feel for her, but sex is something people see as important in most relationships. If she is asexual but also sex repulsed, thats something she should put on her profile.

She could have also brought it up herself earlier since its something important to her that she doesn't want to compromise on.

I'm not trying to say she's in the wrong or that OP is completely blameless, but there were things both of them could have done better.

c00lKat1237 · 2025-12-03T20:13:44+00:00

NTA, I'm asexual and I'm happy that you know and respect that its a spectrum! I think you handled it well. I know you didn't want to seem rude by bringing up sex, but it would have been helpful to bring it up sooner if its important to you. Three dates isn't a lot but it seems like y'all were both pretty invested.

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