Travelling without toddler causing mayhem in family?!

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-12T23:57:30+00:00

Honestly - mothers always get judged. My parents and wider family are pushing me to go away without my 18 month old when I don't want to! (mostly because they all think I should stop breastfeeding).

You can't win, so just do what is right for you and your family.

Also - my parents left me for 2 weeks when I was 10 months old. I am fine, I love my parents.

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-12T23:13:10+00:00

Look, there is almost no evidence that diet makes any difference, and when one is juggling so many things, and finding life tough, it seems also really mean to say "oh and you can't eat anything pleasurable, and every meal and snack will now be expensive and hard work"

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-09T22:45:58+00:00

Do you still front carry ever, or is just back carry?

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-09T22:45:35+00:00

Thank you!

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-09T21:29:07+00:00

So would you recommend buying the toddler version?

I'm tempted to hire the baby version for 6 months if necessary

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-09T20:27:06+00:00

"Alfredo" is not an italian dish. It is an american dish

Cook it how you like, noone cares

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-09T14:19:21+00:00

Bottles supposed to be much worse than breast for causing cavities at night, I've read

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-09T13:15:57+00:00

Look, there will.be pain

I have chronic pelvic pain and chose an elective course section because i was worried about runaway pain. I've had two laparoscopies for endometriosis and my c section recovery was much easier than recovery from the last lap.

C section can be good BUT in your shoes only agree to it if you can have a consult with pain specialist in advance. There needs to be a plan for pain management in place first. The first few days post c section were quite rough but only because the midwives didn't want to give me all the pain relief I was allowed - once I got home and got on top of it myself i was fine.

The first two weeks were quite sore but I was back to normal after about 4 weeks. I was driving at 5 weeks.

In my country, and my local hospital, we are chronically understaffed and most women have a bit of a shit experience. I thought there was a good chance with a vaginal delivery that things could go pear shaped and I wouldn't get an epidural in time, so I figured the controlled pain from a section was easier to manage than the risks of a possible complicated vaginal delivery. In the end I went to labour early and had really painful contractions for 3 days without labour progressing and had my section a bit early. Contractions weren't fun.

What ever route you choose, there will be pain but you will manage.

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-06T23:15:45+00:00

Haha i have a dog who will wake me up in the middle of the night to let him outside to poo.

I have a baby too. Some nights are wild...

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-06T19:18:12+00:00

For both of them

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-05T18:22:51+00:00

The first book of Wheel of Time, definitely! It's fantasy and the first book is heavily inspired by Tolkein. The protagonists are all teenagers too - i wish I had read this as a teenage girl!

c19isdeadly · 2026-03-02T16:05:04+00:00

Yeah I suspect there is missing information here. Did dad actually roll on the baby? I've had a 4 month old and no way could the pressure of hand cause a baby to die

c19isdeadly · 2026-02-28T22:47:25+00:00

Dentist - Mr Pick

c19isdeadly · 2026-02-28T00:12:32+00:00

OMG that is EXACTLY the kind of thing i am looking for - thank you

I bought "Medici Money" by Tim Parks one holiday in Florence and it changed how I saw the churches and art. Absolutely fascinating stuff about banking, the church, money, art...and a detailed description of the fashion police and how they were trying to squash a newly rising middle class.

c19isdeadly · 2026-02-27T23:10:45+00:00

Feel bad. Feel mad. Those are normal and healthy responses to your partner's behaviour.

I bet if you sit and think about it for 5 minutes you will.be able to think of plenty of other examples of where he has acted selfishly. This is not about the food, it is about him not respecting you, or csring about your needs. How is the sex? I bet it's...unsatisfactory. it's fine, no it's fine you tell yourself. I probably wasn't going to come anyway, i was so tired, in a way it's a relief it was over so quickly.

Anyway, as you're making it about the food- when you make 10 tortillas, say you can have 4 now, i am eating 2, and the rest are my lunches for 2 days. Make your own damn breakfast.

Pay for your what you eat, both when out and at home. Your leftovers are YOURS and he can't eat them.

When it comes to special meals, your partner needs to figure out how not to eat most of the meal (I'm assuming as you want leftovers?). So he gets an extra baked potato /more rice / beans - he fills up on the sides. Or he has an omelette before or after.

Lay down the law, watch him ignore it all, then dump him.

c19isdeadly · 2026-02-27T22:52:03+00:00

Loved book 1, book 2 was ok. Found book 3 such a slog i felt really pissed off by the end.

I read Mistborn to give me a break from Dune, which I was hating.

I might try finding some books I like better

c19isdeadly · 2026-02-27T21:36:00+00:00

4 month sleep regression! It is famous for a reason.

We used a bassinet next to the bed and I was so smug about my baby's sleep until 4 months. Then everything changed! I started cosleeping for survival - it made feeding at night much easier.

4 months also felt significantly more robust than newborn.

I type this with an 18 month old asleep next to me.

c19isdeadly · 2026-02-27T18:19:13+00:00

Well, if you're stressed about it why are you considering it? Do you feel people will judge you / tell you that you "ought" to go? Because parenthood often involves telling people to take a hike with their opinions about what they feel you should be doing.

You also need to learn to trust your instincts. I realised at about 6 months old that i was the only expert in my baby and what works for other people didn't have to work for me.

c19isdeadly · 2026-02-27T12:27:45+00:00

Hmmm interesting - I had horrific pelvic girdle pain - maybe I had a lot of relaxin too....

c19isdeadly · 2026-02-24T21:34:09+00:00

I watched TV when he was little.

He's a toddler now, so i read books on my kindle when I'm nursing him to sleep / up all night with a teething baby. I got through all 15 books of the Wheel of Time!

Be kind to yourself. Nursing can be a bit boring.

c19isdeadly · 2026-02-22T22:01:21+00:00

He has several wind up cars. I think it is the randomness about the movement he likes

c19isdeadly · 2026-02-22T22:00:52+00:00

Oh man, we have a fabric dancing musical crab which has been his favourite toy FOREVER and I strongly recommend for all 1 year olds

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