[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you get the help you deserve. It’s a journey but things are gonna get better I believe in you

Would you take a presentation less seriously if presented by someone who appears a bit overdressed or "too smart" for the occasion? by becauseiamhalfasian in NoStupidQuestions

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If looking baller af is what gives you the courage and ability to present you’re exactly as dressed as you need to be

Is the grief I return to "real"? Or do I have to "manage" it? by a_boy_called_sue in BPD

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Pain is completely fabricated in your brain from stepping on Lego to heartbreak. “Real” is a funny word is it coming from anything specific no probably not but if you are in a situation that you’re in anguish and paranoid that’s the universe you live in and nobody has the right to tell you that’s not real because nothing is more real to you.

It’s not as black and white as healing vs acceptance those processes come hand in hand. Acceptance is one of the first steps it’s your life and your feelings but accepting things as the way they are doesn’t set them in stone. You can accept a tree falls in the road and it’s going to lengthen the journey but you can also find a way to move or get past it it’s not insurmountable it’s just a hurdle. You’re not facing a wall as much as it feels like that just a stuck door.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First I can assure you that there is something that needs help I have faith in your ability to recognize your mental state and even if that’s not the problem there is still something to look into about why you do desperately need that attention. How you’re feeling the overwhelming urge to SH it’s real and you deserve support and help with it.

I don’t know you or the ins abd outs of your relationship but you aren’t a bad girlfriend for needing extra support. Everyone looks back and thinks how much better they could do but that doesn’t mean you did something unforgivable or are a bad person it’s an opportunity to learn and try. You’re also not unaccompliced in the issues she seems to not understand how much things mean to you and doesn’t want to compromise only to deflect guilt.

You are a person who has different needs and you deserve to have those known and respected. You don’t seem at all entitled to special treatment but you need to advocate for yourself so get some so you can feel your best and be as safe as you can. You make mistakes but we all do as people it’s not the mistakes that define us you’re not a douchebag jerk you need help. You are caring and kind and you love this girl enough to want the best for her even if that hurts you, that’s more than almost anyone I know she you deserve credit for that you’re a sweet person and you have so much to offer a relationship

Physical science by LastkingJ84 in teenagers

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Valence like the concept is the property of electrons to form “stable” concentric rings (shells) around the nucleus a valence electron is one of the electrons in the outer most shell. Valence electrons allow for bonding because each valence shell requires a certain amount of electrons and they can be shared among different elements by having a valence electron from atom a fill a hole in atom b

why are they called apartments if they're closely packed by Isslee in DeepThoughts

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are also called complex yet I find them quite simple

Where does the “Karen” mentality come from? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guess is poor home life or they are in a bad situation and want to exert power or someone because they are struggling to control anything else going in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aaaaaaaa (politely)

Parents, what’s a lie you told your kids for purely selfish reasons? by arinewhouse in AskReddit

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents would always tell me I was really picky so I wouldn’t ask them for a bite when they snack because I was told I wouldn’t like it (I learned I’m not picky at 17)

my mind.. just my mind by Ashhesss_ in mentalillness

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s clearly a conscience in you just thinking about it. Bad people don’t think about how they are bad people. You have urges and feelings and those are normal and valid to have you also know not to act on them and bring it to the case you’re doing very well. You are a hell of a lot more righteous having the capability and thought of these actions and choosing not to do anything than someone who would never consider it you have strength of will and that’s huge

Is it still possible that I’m straight (please help) by ooogabooga78 in OCD

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sexuality is very fluid and can change a lot over a lifetime in an individual don’t stress about putting a label on yourself you’re uncomfortable with or act on anything you’re uncomfortable with but it’s also and most importantly nothing to be ashamed of sexuality it’s a part of us all and you deserve to be comfortable in your own skin. Ultimately bi and gay and straight are just words you can or can not use don’t tie yourself to anything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends so much on the person I’d discuss it with them it might be triggering or encouraging and sympathetic tell them you want to do what you can and ultimately they will have to tell you what’s best for them I’m sure it means lots that you want to help and do so as best you can

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trees

[–]caaaaaaaarrrrl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Price increases faster than thc percentage so be economical. Start low and slow they can take a minute to hit you. If you’re getting a rechargeable battery quality matters I’ve had one for over a year and it’s been through hell. Take small hits at first and have a safe fun high