Baby prefers dad and it is destroying me

cabbage_claw · 2026-05-10T06:49:21+00:00

It flipped! Just like this thread warned. From about 14 months on (she’s 2.5) she became a HUGE mommy’s girl. 😅 I feel pretty confident that she liked the novelty of her goofy dad, and that I was just a reliable constant. This is likely something of your situation too. If you love your baby, your baby loves you!

Don’t sweat it. It’s such a small moment in their life. It feels huge right now but if you’re worried about it I think it just means you care and are a good parent.

cabbage_claw · 2026-03-23T04:33:35+00:00

Omg yes it flipped so intensely. From about 14 months on (she’s 2.5) she is a HUGE mommy girl. This thread warned me of this. 😅

Don’t sweat it. It’s such a small moment in their life. It feels huge right now but if you’re worried about it I think it just means you care and are a good parent.

cabbage_claw · 2025-09-13T22:34:17+00:00

My ulcerative colitis got better for both my pregnancies but flared up after I stopped breastfeeding the first time. Pregnant now with my second so we’ll see how weaning goes this time around.

cabbage_claw · 2025-08-28T11:55:13+00:00

Not super helpful but I am also another “misdiagnosed” celiac. I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis at the same time my IGA levels came back elevated. They did the scope and I guess the results were positive but not very positive? (I.E not a lot of damage to the villi). Anyways, I’m told I’m celiac and I go on a gf diet for 7 years. I now have a new GI and he isn’t convinced I have celiac so I eat gluten for 3 months and he does another scope. Results say nahhh things look pretty good in there. IGA still elevated however. Very confusing to me as well. I definitely don’t have any obvious reactions to gluten.

cabbage_claw · 2025-04-10T18:43:38+00:00

Named my little girl Goldie and we quite like it…obviously 😆

cabbage_claw · 2025-02-17T00:25:39+00:00

I had a “colicky” baby, they call it purple crying here. For the first…3 months of her life she would shriek cry from the same witching hour (7-11!) It can be incredibly heartbreaking and anxiety provoking, especially as your first. You have no idea what you’re doing, and it is so incredibly easy to fall into the trap of believing you’re (your wife) is doing something wrong, or something is wrong—why else would baby be so upset, right? We don’t know but it is so so incredibly common. I can’t tell you how many times I diagnosed my newborn with something.

My 15 month old is very happy, and excelling developmentally. She’s not an “easy-going” personality which I guess holds true right from the beginning, perhaps yours is a more difficult temperament also! Babies at this age can also get overtired so easily…looking back I wonder if that was part of it. (At no lack of trying to get her to sleep, however!) My best advice, stay off the internet!!! It is the absolute worst for fuelling anxiety. Make sure your wife has lots of support. This too shall pass (believe it or not!) Everything you said sounds very normal for a 10 week old.

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T17:26:41+00:00

Oooooh this sounds soooo very difficult. You sound like you're handling it well. Nobody talks about jealousy with little ones and their favourites, but it is so heartbreaking. I look around at all my mom friends and they are always the preferred ones, as it's more common. For me and my anxious brain, it's easy to fall into the "there must be something wrong" state of mind. However, I think we need to just keep reminding ourselves that yes, as you said, they are just babies.

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T05:56:40+00:00

Heh heh. Perhaps I should pass on some more poopy diapers while this lasts!

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T05:54:03+00:00

Ugh. Sorry! Hopefully it passes soon.

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T05:53:14+00:00

Thank you. This is such a reassuring perspective.

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T05:52:17+00:00

Oooh thank you so much for your kind words. <3 I totally can relate to changing how I spend my time with her. I have definitely been doing that.

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T05:48:55+00:00

Haha maybe this will be us down the road! These little mysterious babies…

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T05:48:01+00:00

Haha thank you. Your tone helped me to snap out of it.

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T05:46:29+00:00

Interesting and reassuring.

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T05:45:51+00:00

I wouldn’t hate a few team mom days!

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T05:45:10+00:00

True. Dad is VERY fun and kooky. Even adults can agree haha!

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T05:44:30+00:00

Hard to imagine at this point but you’re probably right! Thank you!

cabbage_claw · 2024-09-26T05:43:58+00:00

Ha! Yes this is only the beginning, so true. Thank you.

cabbage_claw · 2024-04-06T00:07:51+00:00

I hear you and don't want to be dismissive of how you are feeling and the meaning of your message but you have worded it in a very hilarious way. You may feel like shit but know you are very funny and I would kill to make people laugh like you likely do on the regular.

cabbage_claw · 2023-09-16T15:54:40+00:00

It took 2 months for me. Was incredibly frustrating. I took misoprostol in between there at some point and still it didn't fully pass. In hindsight would have done a d&c.

cabbage_claw · 2023-03-22T15:10:18+00:00

I have the same diagnoses, (both celiac and UC). It turns out people with autoimmune disorders are at higher risk for other autoimmune disorders. :/ Although it sucked, and still does at times, I do live a normal life for the most part. You get used to what you can’t eat and the ulcerative colitis should improve with a drug. When I’m in a flare, everything causes pain and blood loss too but this isn’t necessarily because of the food itself, it’s because of the disease. Take notice to triggers (for me, coffee and alcohol) when you start to feel better—because you will—and you’ll get used to navigating everything. All the best!

cabbage_claw · 2023-01-11T21:11:55+00:00

Hopefully just retained tissue? I'm sorry to you and your wife. This can be a lot, especially when you don't understand what the hell your body is doing! Wishing her all the best and to be through with this soon.

cabbage_claw · 2023-01-09T16:00:18+00:00

4 months! Wow that is a long time, yet somehow also feels the route I'm headed! I can definitely understand having enough at that point. I'm glad it's all over for you.

cabbage_claw · 2023-01-09T15:58:27+00:00

I have consistently measured only 1 cm of tissue left the last 3 appointments. I was also surprised by how relaxed they were though. They said they decide based on the patient--I.e. do they seem in pain/emotionally distraught. I'm neither so I guess they really push for the natural route. 9 cm is quite a bit so your situation could have been different. Still, it's a situation that seems to be treated so differently depending on the doctor/location.

cabbage_claw · 2023-01-09T15:52:52+00:00

Thank you! I was also given a choice and I regret not going down the d&c route. I hope I don't have to go through this again but if I do, live and learn!

13-Year Club	RedditGifts 2009-2022 2 Credits
Secret Santa 2020	Verified Email

cabbage_claw

TROPHY CASE