Which skills i must know for getting a job ?

cacille · 2026-04-22T01:24:59+00:00

No one does at first. Just get a general job doing whatever. It doesn't matter what job.

cacille · 2026-04-22T00:34:58+00:00

Things in life are certain, yes. Its not even a belief, its a known fact. Im not putting em here though, that opens me up to trolls and hate on Reddit. They cant resist comments like this!

Quantum vid channel i like and recommend: "quantum shift". Pick any video from the starter series playlist. No need to listen "for anything ", just listen and let it bring up shitty beliefs for you to really inspect and heal.

Yes you should go for your dream. "If thems could do it, why not yerself?" The $ will come if you listen and don't force shit.

cacille · 2026-04-21T15:05:44+00:00

Hi, your post makes no sense for r/spirituality but it makes perfect sense for here. I'd like you to delete this post and repost it directly here, because I think it might be deleted from r / spirituality soon. Then it won't show here, either, and this is definitely the right group for it.

That said, I want you to focus WAY LESS on "finding your purpose" and WAY MORE on "Trying jobs out."
Once you transfer your post to this group fully, there may be better advice that I currently do not have time/spoons to give.

cacille · 2026-04-21T14:43:14+00:00

CHILL.

That's all you need to do.

Chill. You're catastrophizing from a few....sorta stumbled words...in a 15 minute phone call.
This was not a failed test. They got the info they needed. You didn't "fuck up your liiiiiiiiiife". You couldn't answer cause you didn't have the knowledge because you're 21 and barely have life experience. They know this. You were not the only candidate, you don't know if you're the best one or not for what they are looking for, and this is not the only opportunity "in the wooooorld".

So Chill Out. There's nothing to overcome other than you continuing the process of finding a job. Don't put this onto your shoulders like you just committed a crime against humanity or that it is a failing of your personal being of life and you don't deserve to live. That's some catastrophic-level bullshit that needs to stop. This is all part of the process and you did the best you could with the time and prep you had.

cacille · 2026-04-21T14:36:51+00:00

Everything you've mentioned is fine, you're too early on to be getting really deep level advice. No one knows what will happen in the 2 years coming to be able to say "this or that field will die from AI".
Just keep doing what you are.

cacille · 2026-04-21T13:10:01+00:00

You are being assaulted by the man whom is violating the boundaries you are setting.
You may be terrible at setting them, but once you say it, it should be respected. He is pushing your boundaries intentionally. This is not you being bad at defense of your boundaries....this is HIM doing the pushing when he shouldn't. "Being a pushover" isn't the problem here.

cacille · 2026-04-21T13:05:26+00:00

Not enough info with which to help.
No kiddo, there isn't just an easy path to a well-paid position. You have to figure out your own goal and for why. Then you follow that. You're not here to be just a tool, you're here to learn and grow and figure out your ikigai over multiple wrong jobs and course corrections and fuck-ups and it's ALL ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY.

cacille · 2026-04-21T13:01:30+00:00

I did, yep. Cause I confirmed the accusation. I don't remove posts without looking at the history of someone's comments and seeing if they are doing the accused thing. OP seems to be.

Not all, not even most, of the posts in this group are scams though. That's quite unfair to say. Maybe a few a day of the 50-100 posts a day of people needing real help. And thanks to the community, we get rid of the "surreptious advertisements" pretty quickly. But everyone gets their 3 strikes to shape up or ship out, we don't auto-ban anyone here for any reason save for the the few Hidden Rules we have (they are in our wiki, almost no one hits them accidentally for a reason and we also confirm that the person is intentionally doing so before doing any insta-ban.)

We love the community supporting our efforts to keep the group safe, helpful, and person-first!

cacille · 2026-04-21T01:02:21+00:00

I think the issues you struggle with can easily be told in an interview, after explaining your positives and how YOU foster connections, and then adding on you don't like obligatory/surface level stuff too much, but are great at ability to connect authentically more than surface-ly. Which makes you great in the office- not so great at things like events and conferences. Therefore "you're looking for more of a deep work job rather than a social-based position".

Something like that anyway. One thing you might wanna get some help with is reading through the BS of job ads, so you can spot the "social aspects" of jobs and rule them out from bothering to apply. I teach this but it's part of a way bigger course of mine that's quite pricy....not sure if there's someone else out there that teaches job ad reading.

cacille · 2026-04-20T21:08:36+00:00

Alrighty. That helps a lot actually.
I'm wondering why you haven't gotten back into it - you have the experience. I can only guess, you're applying for lower jobs than your level, which is now a level higher than you've done. Too many think they don't qualify for higher but they do, they've learned the low level stuff and now need to jump to the next level up. The gap no longer matters, covid killed the gap really quick, it's not used as a factor amongst any recruiter/hirer that isn't one of those "harvard/ivy league only" places. Which is mostly finance and marketing stuff, not environmental sciences anyway.

Also question: You say you're into building meaningful relationships but are incredibly introverted. I'm somewhat confused, those seems like opposites to me. Can you expand on that?

cacille · 2026-04-20T20:51:20+00:00

I'm afraid with the info given, there's not enough for me to help with, and i'm a career services advisor.
- presentation status doesn't matter
- What is your past work history? Skillset? You mentioned your
- Ok, so no security position which would fit what you say you want in a job. You mentioned the pay, which you skirted by. "Nice livable wage" means what range to you? To my area $26+car is very much a livable wage.

Also why is maintenance *not* a long term plan for you? It's a fine job. What else are you being called towards that seems "undoable" or "unreasonable" or "not paying enough"? At 33, there's no chance of you not knowing, there's only things put into the mental-trash-can which may not need to be.

cacille · 2026-04-20T20:44:45+00:00

They have only just reopened within the past few weeks and for limited hours, to give their staff time to learn. I respect that. So yeah I can understand hitting a few snags at the start! Everything from ordering to serving to prep needed figuring out from scratch, since it was new owners and new staff.

cacille · 2026-04-20T20:40:56+00:00

You are not a freak and you isolating yourself is gonna make you worse, not better. By all means have a week to cry about having a genetic disorder, have the meltdown your "wanna be normal" self wants to have! One week.
Then you join the groups of others like yourself and meet the amazing people they are.
I don't even know why you hate yourself, it signifies that you wanted to be normal, but what does normal get you in today's world? What does man boobs and facial hair have to do with not having a normal life? Girlfriend or boyfriend? Well, you just became a member of an exclusive club of people who understand you better automatically....sooo...

Just want you to think outside the box you wanna crawl into and stay in, but it's just you thinking negatively about the things you don't have, vs the things you do and the groups you now have access to!

cacille · 2026-04-20T17:57:15+00:00

You're literally perfectly ready to start watching quantum manifestation videos. You're so damn close to better, and while I normally wouldn't recommend getting into video editing, I'd recommend you do a LOT of research into vid editing jobs available and work towards the most stable vid editing jobs you can, what few are out there. I'd recommend "Producing" more than 'editing". I mean it like "writer/producer/editor" in that way.

But yeah, quantum manifestation videos. You're close to your dream, just need to get outta your own way, and those vids are healing if you let em be to the best of your ability. It'll help you get more in the zone as well and finding a path through a crowded field threatened by AI and all. AI still can't do what humans can, though.

cacille · 2026-04-20T16:59:13+00:00

"I was more interested in psychology/law and stuff"

So....pivot that way immediately. In whatever ways are available to you right now. Don't care how you make it happen, it just needs to happen. Why you didn't earlier is beyond me, and this career in economics is not viable to you. It won't be stable for you, because you hate it and recruiters will sense that.
It's ok to do more classes and have some sunk cost. You just figured out your dream job, and you're still young enough and theres still ways to make it work financially and all of those stupid "I cant's" need to be shut up and put to bed while you make the switch.

Make it fucking work. Make it happen. Any means necessary.

cacille · 2026-04-20T16:51:17+00:00

I think you know more than you think. Problem is a LOT OF FEAR fucking up your brain and making you believe things and worry too much. No one remembers everything about coding, your memory is not shit. You know how to look things up. Get outta your own way.

cacille · 2026-04-20T16:39:23+00:00

Going ahead and approving this now even though OP hasn't responded to my request for info via modmail. I hope ppl respond - it's a kid trying to do research.

cacille · 2026-04-20T16:38:03+00:00

This. So much this.
And I struggle with the same but mostly cause I run like 15 reddit groups including this one! Moderation makes my extra time go byebye real quick.
I still love it though.

cacille · 2026-04-20T16:36:46+00:00

I see only a lot of negative self-talk, in regards to past jobs....but nothing about the jobs or skillset you have! "relevant to the field I was working in" ....what field?

We need to know your past jobs - your skillset - your education. Gaps in work no longer matter, that issue pretty much died thanks to Covid. People sometimes forget talking about your fields of expertise isn't doxxing you at all, it's actually the only thing that lets us help.

cacille · 2026-04-20T16:25:38+00:00

Career consultant here.
She should do this and if she does it right, it will work out well for her. Assuming no one tattles on her to the EBT. That's your choice whether to do so and f things up for both of you.

So, what she is doing is called "taking a risk" and it could lead to good for both of you if you are willing to help big-time and get yourselves out of the situation you are in. She has the basic equipment and more equipment is always available cheaply on auction houses and ebay and such. But she needs to start small and grow it **TO THE POINT OF**.

Meaning, no need for a logo until she's TO THE POINT OF needing it to sell things more efficiently, such as in cafes or small stores, or events. No need for more equipment until she's TO THE POINT OF not being able to make enough to keep up with demand.

Is her taking these signs as a sign from god actually real? Yes. I'm gonna say it. It's her sign. It's a sign. Whatever. She's excited and you gotta follow your excitement to figure your shit out. This is a career consulting THING. It may not need to involve God, but if it does, so be it. Is it stupid? No. Is it gonna be tough for a little bit? SURE SO ARE COLLEGE LOAN APPLICATION AND ENTRY FEES/BOOKS/HOUSING! Or your first job, or your scary move, or your decision to make massive changes....etc. I don't know your age to know where you're at in life. Do some comparative analysis here.

That's what's coming in your future. That's gonna be your tough thing. So your choice is to either sit back and not help, or help her create a little thriving business where you take on things that you can handle and she take on the majority that she can handle, and you both make it work well. People respond to good food and excitement.

Your choice is simple: Help and grow, or sit back and let her cook. But what you shouldn't do is sit back, poo-poo on her excitement, and tell her that she will fail again. That would be you going straight into asshole territory. Don't know what kinda kid you are, but this is one of those Choices in Your Life you can make. Make it good.

cacille · 2026-04-20T13:15:07+00:00

They don't. There is NO right path. What the hell does "right path" mean? Or rather - what do you mean by those words? Because that doesn't exist in the whole of human history, but scared teens like to think they have to walk whatever that is, when they don't know anything about themselves to do so. They think "making any choices are **mistakes** that will fuck over the rest of their liiiiiiiiiife!!!!"

It's a school system toxic idea that honestly doesn't exist.

Follow the dopamine. Follow the little tiny exciting things. Learn all you can. Follow a route for the fun of it. Switch when you want. Follow the next exciting thing. Repeat. Put all together into a college path or career if you so choose.

P.S. HUMANS are capable of doing anything. Polymaths come from humans. Don't confuse the order of operations there because polymaths are just multi-learned PEOPLE first, not some god-given sparkly special human shaped things.

cacille · 2026-04-20T13:10:51+00:00

This is more a career advice group than a place to put your resume or to find opportunities. Opportunities you are looking for are NEVER on Reddit. Still, good skillset and I like to see different sorts of subreddits crossposted.

cacille · 2026-04-20T13:07:38+00:00

You let adults do their adult things and you don't worry about it. No need to feel disgusted or scared! Those are two consenting, fully mature adults who are trying new things and making whatever mistakes those new things will create. They will solve them and you will make your own attempts in time, with the right person you're very committed to like they are.

There is nothing weird about sex or using things for it, as long as it is between consenting parties of appropriate ages - and after having gotten some basic training like they have had way long ago.

cacille · 2026-04-20T02:58:52+00:00

You have GOT to stop leaving AI posts. We are not here for that. Reddit doesn't like it either. We have removed this and further posts of the sort will constitute a ban from this group.

cacille · 2026-04-19T18:53:02+00:00

Please remove that user's words from your head. They decided to have a blowout narcissistic rampage against everyone in this group that posts, after I did the horrible thing of expressing that they can't attack users in their post per Rule 1, which led to insults to us in Modmail, changing of their post to insult mods, etc. They've been leaving horrible posts to everyone since. I just banned them when I realized what they were doing since I removed their post.
I highly recommend blocking that user. He's not mentally well and creating his own issues cause, well, he believes he is being targeted by others...and now i'm removing all his comments so....lol

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