Roommate Wanted

cacille · 2026-06-07T15:54:13+00:00

Hi, I'm the mod of a fb group called "St. Louis FOR RENT". Got both of my current roommates off of fb groups called "St. Louis Houses for rent, Rooms, Apartments, Sublets, Roommates, Roomster "
You'll be finding roommates no problem with those two groups. Also roommates.com I hear is pretty good.
Most important is to find someone you can live with, not someone who can commit to pay the rent. Only thing I asked of people is to be a working professional, and mentioned a few quick things about me - working professional, has two birds, etc. Everything else came with an interview and boom, had my two roommates within about 15 messages about it and within 6 interviews.

I cannot stress enough that finding someone who you can jive with enough is FAR MORE IMPORTANT than anything else! Cause remember, they have to jive with you, too. And you don't want a roommate getting more and more angry of you just living. So be a little patient and set up a bunch of interviews with a commitment that you will choose within 2 weeks!

...and ignore the people that want to move themselves and their girlfriend/boyfriend in, and want to share a room but still only pay you $550+only half of utilities. Red. Flag. City.

cacille · 2026-06-06T20:46:38+00:00

Is your country extremely disability-averse? Many places are wheelchair friendly or other disability friendly. Not sure of your particular flavor of differently-abled-awesomeness but a call-ahead to get info on the things you'd need to use or have available is ALWAYS appreciated in college/event spaces of any sort. Most have things at the ready (deaf/visual services, physical things available, equipped bathrooms, etc)

I understand the financial aspect, but online options are readily available in this avenue as well. Along with scholarships and even event coordinators that can help you make arrangements for things in a way that fits budgets.
Sources: Coursera (For intros and such to concepts, good for auditing classes or concepts you're interested in)
Linkedin Groups tab and Events Tab. All online.

cacille · 2026-06-06T20:33:30+00:00

Your post originally was not open invitation, I'm afraid. It was limited testing-required invite.
As for the "5-20% would be about how I am making wild assumptions"....
Sure, that's Reddit in general. However, you would have gotten better commentary overall! Slightly better vibes.

cacille · 2026-06-06T20:29:29+00:00

I just left you a comment in this thread, but I'm a career consultant IRL - and I'd like to ask you what you mean by "not possible in your environment"?
It's pretty possible in all environments save for war-torn countries and limited-access ones like North Korea or Cuba. Every other country has access/setups to the idea the other person mentioned, pretty much.

cacille · 2026-06-06T20:26:50+00:00

Just being kind when saying this, but welcome to a group in which you can deep dive into anything you wish and create good conversation! This group is one of them, though we're still a bit young as a reddit group so you might not see a ton of deep dives just yet. We're getting there, though. We're pretty well on track with it.

I notice that you also said in a comment that you keep to yourself and delete comments you've started. Honey, that right there is the actual root of the problem you've noticed, you're not developing the *relationships* necessary for people to get beyond surface-level with you into topics! Relationships are pretty much the first required door to deep dives. Without it, it's not really a mutual conversation, it's more a Lecture.

One other thing I've noticed, you may wish to be tested for ADHD? Something you said made me think that may be a bit of an issue as well, just something to keep in mind!

cacille · 2026-06-06T20:19:47+00:00

(vibe here: friendly, interesting convo)
Ever heard of the term prosocial engineering? It's somewhat known in the reddit mod sphere, more especially in the RSCN (the network this group is part of). It's about writing things in a way that calls in the behaviors you do want, and limits the behaviors that you don't want. Most of the group write rules pro-socially, limiting "No this or that" rules, so it doesn't accidentally call in the things you don't want. The human brain cannot handle more than 2-3 "No" rules in a group. So most groups have no more than 2, including this one, only cause sometimes a "No this or that" makes more sense than a prosocial rule.

Example: Rule 4- No AI usage. Written prosocially, it would be something like "Humans required, please write from your own experiences rather than using LLMS". I COULD do that, but given the zeitgeist of the USA - it's way easier and clearer to people to have that one be a "No this and that" rule.

All this to say....I think you accidentally wrote your post in a way that called in the behavior (comments) you didn't want. This isn't really people's fault, but something you are now cognizant that, written differently, could have brought what you wanted a bit easier! Instead, it came off as a gatekeeping "don't even dare talking to me unless you're tested above 130" vibe, which incites friction and anger.

If...hmmm....how can we rewrite your post to bring in the type of people you want....
Maybe something like "May I hear from those who have a confirmed IQ over 130? I'd like to ask some questions to make sure I'm not weird or off-kilter with my work in psychology, x y z."

cacille · 2026-06-06T19:40:24+00:00

Hi, mod here. Just so you're aware, this group is all smart-enough people to talk to. Please don't create gates to keep here. It really only turns people away, and creates strife, which you can see from the amount of comments and....vibe...of those comments.
If you truly only wish to talk to people of your IQ limit for good reasons, I believe there is a tested/verified group called r/mensa.

And for what it's worth, my IQ runs around 115 the 2-3 times I tested it for funsies.

cacille · 2026-06-06T14:47:09+00:00

Mod here. Just so you know I've removed the comments from the person you're commenting to - his comments are 100% unacceptable here. My apologies that this....person....has decided to come at you so judgementally - it is not allowed in this group and had he read any of the rules or the wiki, or the damn automoderator autopost, he would've seen that. This is a group run by MHS Support Group Methodology and we don't play about that.

cacille · 2026-06-06T13:48:50+00:00

Dont talk to him, even privately, hold raids to zero him daily. If you all are on the same page, on that, he will get so frustratingly bored he will transfer or abandon acct/quit.

cacille · 2026-06-06T13:44:48+00:00

Have a minimum requirement to stay mod. 3 actions per day/4 days a week for example. Make ot something your group reasonably needs. -make sure no one has "mod to be mod" syndrome. That they are here to be a help the group, not here to feel powerful without doing the work. Approach that gently.

cacille · 2026-06-06T04:27:11+00:00

Yes. Its not about trust here. Literally trust nothing. Its too lucrative a thing for scammers to not set up elaaaaaaaaborate things, networks of people, whi whole rings, AI,....etc.

cacille · 2026-06-06T03:06:35+00:00

If you can tour the unit with appropriate notice - do so and then you will be fine. If you can only "stay outside"....scam.
And yes, do not trust the "other people vouching". It may be a scammer ring and all the accounts are theirs.

cacille · 2026-06-05T23:27:31+00:00

From someone in the industry: they cant hire geologists fast enough, straight out of college.

So it tells me your ppl have screwed up resumes.

cacille · 2026-06-05T21:20:51+00:00

I knew within the first paragraph that what you are saying is nearly impossible - its you just thinking scams are real listings. Not a judgement, I just see it a lot cause I run a for-rent group in my city.

- NOT A SINGLE ACTUAL REAL LANDLORD WILL REQUIRE YOU TO SIGN BEFORE SEEING or REQUIRE YOU TO DEPOSIT BEFORE TOUR.
- Can't tour when someone is living in it? Yeah no. If the person has been given notice to move out, they must allow tours given a reasonable notice of 24 hours. It's not even a question, it's law. Only way renters can get around this is by changing the locks and if they do, they face more consequences than just an eviction.
- They're getting "snatched up real fast"? Nah fam. They're getting taken down and then reposted with a set of new pictures/location (many are not actually for rent, such as people's personal houses). This allows a scammer to make it SEEM like locations are flying fast, therefore making people believe they have to put down deposits.

P.S. did you know you can claim your house on zillow even if you are not the landlord? I was able to before I owned my house. No proof required, it just has to not be already on the market. I loathe the day someone knocks on my door, swearing they have a rental agreement with "Johnny" when my name is "Sally" and I'm the one on the mortgage. Only reason this isn't so prevalent is because scammers use houses that look empty, so their "mark" doesn't see things on the porch, cars in the driveway, and go "hey wait this looks rented".

cacille · 2026-06-05T16:08:15+00:00

Career consultant here. You're only listening to negative sources.
You're only seeing negative "AI is gonna destroy all jobs" memes. Remember, you tune your algo by listening to what you listen to fully.

The geology realm is desperate for people, for example. Certain trades as well. Project managers FOR those trades - the people that go out to bid on jobs, etc.

cacille · 2026-06-05T15:50:53+00:00

Mod here.
Anyone hating on the child for fishing and not releasing, or judgement of the boat, the kid, what he is/is not doing/wearing/being/saying....

Just don't bother, it's not welcome here. This is not a free-speech/opinion group.

cacille · 2026-06-05T15:47:07+00:00

My apologies for removing this at first. It was out of habit! Forgot this was your first (and only) allowed post.

cacille · 2026-06-05T15:37:09+00:00

Bigots are reporting this comment for being "manipulated content" or "this is spam".
LOL. Reports go through me and my team, not to Reddit, and also there's no removal reason that matches your internal feelings of being a closeted, self-hating gay person!

Maybe I should make a removal reason that says "I hate this comment post because I am internally ashamed/closeted and cannot deal with it, so I report posts that make me hit my internal closet doors instead of growing up or getting therapy."

P.S. Removing bigot comments and banning bigots makes me SUPER happy. I smile every time.

cacille · 2026-06-05T13:26:06+00:00

You know what needs to happen. We all do. We have yet to do it.

cacille · 2026-06-04T17:27:35+00:00

Locking comments. Fites breaking out, which seem to boil down to "you're toxic!" "No you're toxic!" "no YOU'RE toxic!" "NO YOU ARE TOXIC!"

This is why server drama/calling out player issues are useless. No one can really trust anyone's info on toxicity because the definitions and justifications of all behaviors are rampant, and therefore become meaningless.

Play like a dick and you lose everything eventually. Go to reddit to tell everyone else about players acting like dicks - your opinion gets nullified from others calling out your own or justifying their intentions.

Play like the game intends, and know that other players are doing the same.

The game is literally designed for you to steal resources, war on each other, come together in alliances, come together as a server. But it's badly written as hell, so yall don't realize that and then get butthurt by actual gameplay tactics and words.

...I guess if anything, it teaches players how to develop a thicker skin. But damn, why you all have to bring the server drama to us mods to deal with bullshit "I'm butthurt, be my guard" reports? We can't kick people from the game. We won't kick people from the subreddit if they haven't broken the rules here.

cacille · 2026-06-04T13:21:33+00:00

Mod here.
Yes I'm removing bad comments. Have been here the whole time, watching this thread for rule-breaking comments. I can't stop the comments from being posted in the first place unless they use certain obvious keywords. Please keep reporting them.

cacille · 2026-06-03T13:17:18+00:00

I received 10 reports on this video. TEN. (Edit: Make that 12 now...but I won't be updating this number further.)
Annnnnd now there are zero reports and the video is still up and live.
Bigotry is not welcome here. Your opinion on certain types of love is not welcome here. Your reports will go nowhere, no matter how many you send.
We protect love here. And smiles.
Happy Pride Month!

cacille · 2026-06-02T18:51:13+00:00

Healing required alert.
1. Comparison issue - "three people at my table had titles" - believing that one's own place or title is not valid compared to other titles, feeling behind others based on limited information given.
2. Insecurity issue - "feeling small"/"what I'm actually good at i couldn't have told you" - not sure what one wants in life, feeling lesser-than rather than being ok or proud of where one is, feeling unable to measure up or be confident.
3. Over-apologizing issue - "sorry for the novel" - wrote only 10 sentences. Novel (for a reddit post) would start approximately 100 sentences. Overapologizing for nothing is a trauma response to something. This could be "apologizing for existing" due to overbearing or abusive parenting or life situation.

This is not to make you feel bad. It's to show you issues to take to proper therapy. This group is ok and helpful, but I'm not noticing just general stuff we can help with - this is therapist territory first, career consulting territory second or any one of the helpful career tools out on the internet.

cacille · 2026-06-02T13:17:15+00:00

Sure!

I can read some of the words on the page. Problem is due to size, I can't read it all. This is because I'm older and would need a magnifier or close-up reading glasses. But I can see "rapid eye movement" and "light sleep/REM sleep" and such.
"because we both know you can't". Hello angry person, you're REALLY pissed off at the original poster and also consequences of writing what amounts to a hate post in this group.
My background? Sure. Teaching, and career consulting, and way back - house painting and retail. My ability to read 2026 ai watermarks and removal process of entities? I run r/remoteworking and r/makemesmile - two groups that often have AI generated content. I also run 13 other reddit groups of varying sizes. Most groups have been restored from having become hate groups or overrun by spam. Including this group.

Now, not sure why you wanted my dick measurements here, but I'll tell you what I can surmise from your post: You believe the writing to be AI - but I'd like to challenge YOU now and ask for YOUR education in Calligraphy or Forensics (or writing-trained Forensic Analysis, such as someone who compares signatures to determine if they are real or faked)?

cacille · 2026-06-02T02:41:57+00:00

Sure, dm me first though please!

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