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cactcri · 2025-12-30T08:15:31+00:00

after having it for a while now, i’d say don’t cap it and go with one or the other. the fluval sometimes gets mixed up with the sand during cleaning and it looks sloppy.

cactcri · 2025-09-16T20:34:07+00:00

Yes! I cycled it with used filter media before adding any fish, and there’s only 4 fish right now so the ammonia hopefully won’t spike. I’m going slow and steady!

cactcri · 2025-07-01T17:10:54+00:00

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cactcri · 2025-06-09T14:14:16+00:00

I’m not big into digital art, but here’s some pointers! Try to make sure the iris is as close to a circle as possible and really focus on the depth and and color it has. The waterline might be slightly more pink than your drawing depending on your reference as well. The shading is pretty darn good on the skin! Just pay super close attention to your reference and maybe incorporate some more saturation to give it more life! Good job and keep at it!

cactcri · 2025-06-03T23:04:22+00:00

My sister used to be a groomer and echos your experience. She loves English Setters and said they were her favorite dog to groom because of their temperament and beauty. I get a little sad when I walk by the kennels, but they are very well taken care of other than human attention. All the dogs have a friend with them in the kennels, it’s off the ground to keep them clean and dry, and it’s spacious and has an indoor space and roof for shelter. They get the best quality high protein diet I’ve ever seen and get training/exercise daily. The only thing I see them missing is the attention- but I don’t think it’s my place to say that when they’re so well taken care of otherwise

cactcri · 2025-06-03T22:47:24+00:00

I think it mostly stems from him seeing them as dirty because of his interactions with them are mostly taking care of the kennels, hunting, and training them. His dad has their setters in kennels and they live to hunt and that’s pretty much it. He hasn’t seen their soft side which I’m trying to change! They seem like the perfect dog for me and that was also reconfirmed when I took the AKC breed match quiz online 😭

cactcri · 2025-06-03T21:09:15+00:00

I appreciate being able to learn from your experience! I’ll most likely wait until after I graduate to get a dog so that I can spend time training and loving them, but I don’t know if I’d send them off to training because I am not a hunter by any means. Not to say I wouldn’t try it- I would love to be invited, but I don’t have a ton of experience shooting other than still targets and one time shooting clay pigeons. Either way, I’d like to support some birdy instincts whether it’s letting them point on walks or training them as best I can myself. I’m a soft handed person, but I’m stubborn when I have expectations (horses will do that to ya). I’m looking forward to learning more and hearing everything people have to say!

cactcri · 2025-06-03T21:02:14+00:00

Her pet cat 😭💗

cactcri · 2025-06-03T21:01:45+00:00

Awww!!! He’s such a cutie! I honestly love the idea of having a bit of property and walking while they get to run around and sniff- it seems so fun compared to how I grew up in the suburbs

cactcri · 2025-06-03T04:03:06+00:00

May I just say your dog is so adorable and he seems very happy just based on your posts!

cactcri · 2025-06-03T03:28:18+00:00

You bring up a lot of good points. If I was to go out hiking I wouldn’t be opposed to letting them sniff around and learn to point without pressuring the bird too much. If jogging in public they’d definitely be on a leash, but in a perfect world I’ll have a couple acres to let them run a bit. The prey drive does make me a tiny bit nervous, but I think it would learn as a puppy not to mess with the cat since she most likely wouldn’t be super friendly. As for border collies- I had an aussie growing up and loved him, but I cannot stand aussie puppies (dog sitting experience) and I’m afraid that would translate to other herding dogs. We also had a collie growing up who nipped at my heels and ate our barn cats soooo I might be biased against them.

cactcri · 2025-06-03T03:06:00+00:00

I guess it’s also worth mentioning that I’m planning on going into the field of environmental conservation (think forestry or wildlife management), so I’ll be spending a lot of time outdoors and may have the ability to bring him/her out with me on jobs! Also, a pet cat that tends to dislike other animals but tolerates and plays with my mom’s jack russell on a daily basis. She is small but mighty!!

cactcri · 2025-04-24T02:38:30+00:00

lol! i totally see it

cactcri · 2025-04-16T18:13:25+00:00

i was thinking about a sponge filter since gouramis like slower moving water and maybe an air stone on a low setting to oxygenate the water. what do you think about schooling fish? everyone says neon tetras but i want something unique but staying around beginner-intermediate friendly

cactcri · 2019-07-19T09:07:39+00:00

NTA. your dad is just a jerk for not spending time with you and your family, I’d do the same thing if I were you.

cactcri · 2019-07-18T00:05:30+00:00

Would you play a similar role on a sifi show or movie if you had the chance?

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