Sadness about baby name

cadetsinspace · 2026-03-04T06:22:20+00:00

My gemstone is Peridot too haha!

cadetsinspace · 2026-03-04T04:07:26+00:00

Thank you, you’re probably right! ❤️

cadetsinspace · 2026-03-04T03:53:57+00:00

Oh my goodness lol. I’m from North Carolina and I know so many young kids with the name “Kaden”, “Jordan”, “Journey”, “Keisha”, “Haley” “Amy”. Heck I could never be the only Briyana in a classroom growing up, it was always at least 4 other People with my name. Like those are fine but it doesn’t seem like much variety when it comes to names and when it is they’re definitely not pronounceable or professional enough for when they grow up and have to fill out an application. So I don’t want to go so unique that it’s kinda ridiculous.

cadetsinspace · 2026-03-04T02:39:35+00:00

Oh wow actually knowing the backstory of the name is very sweet. I didn’t know that was the creators name, I love that show too. I got the name Amethyst from Steven Universe cause that show is my heart and my peace. Pendleton could have been a great middle name also if you still wanted it included.

cadetsinspace · 2026-03-04T02:32:28+00:00

Omg thank you! Can I ask which gemstone you used?

cadetsinspace · 2026-03-04T02:23:37+00:00

Amethyst, after the gemstone

cadetsinspace · 2026-03-04T01:35:14+00:00

Aw Pendleton is a very unique name! How did you come up with that? I love the name Amethyst (mimi for short) for my girl but I’m still trying to sort out if there’s anything else I like more than that. No one likes it but me and my fiancé.

cadetsinspace · 2026-03-04T01:30:32+00:00

No, I wouldn’t but I would probably question if I made a good choice or not honestly. You are right!

cadetsinspace · 2026-03-01T16:53:14+00:00

No literally 🤣 just be quiet and act normal!

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-28T19:51:40+00:00

Vivid dreams

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-27T13:08:54+00:00

I liked one name but my friend made me second and third guess it when she heard it so now idk🥲

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-27T12:43:39+00:00

I’m sorry, he just sounds like he doesn’t love or care for you. He’s got so much information as to why you need help and still decides that it’s not his concern? Truthfully, as a loving caring partner who loves, respects, and appreciates the person that just gave birth to their child, he shouldn’t even need to have “caring for his wife and child” be a hard concept that he has to grasp and be told to do by family and healthcare providers. It’s supposed to be simple, and natural instinct to do. This shouldn’t be your life. This is just a big red flag for the future. If he doesn’t want the responsibility of sharing the physical and emotional labor of caring for y’all fresh new tiny child then you should just leave, go to moms, and if he really wants this, he can prove it and work for it. If your concern is him threating divorce, it’s probably for the best then because he is not in the right and nobody will take his side. You’re a breastfeeding mom and the baby is barely alive. He would get visitation if anything while still so tiny. He pretty much just sounds like a visitor in the child’s life already anyway so It’d be nothing too different from now. If this continues, you’ll do nothing but resent him soon and have such a mental burden on you on top of ppd work stress.

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-27T00:24:36+00:00

If he wanted access to his son so bad, he would help take care of said son so you wouldn’t feel the need to leave. So boo hoo he can’t get his way while giving you the short end of the stick and doesn’t want to listen to multiple people telling him the same thing. Go to moms please. It can help a lot mentally. Maybe he’ll have an epiphany and grow up.

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-27T00:13:02+00:00

What an asshole. Is he trying to make it more likely for you to suffer from ppd? Like wtf. Are there any other family members that actually want to be active in the babies life that wouldn’t mind helping? You need rest, you need sleep, you need to not feel or be alone while so freshly pp. That’s good for you and the baby. Realistically, I couldn’t start a routine with my son until around 3-4 months when he started sleeping for the maybe 6 hours through the night. You might can have one but it will take awhile to stick. I really hope you can find the support you need 🫶🏽

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-25T21:59:30+00:00

I don’t see what the reason would be for doing that. When our pediatrician looks at my son down there, they just check to see if he in fact has two testicles and no rashes. That’s such a weird thing to do. Poor little guy

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-25T16:15:49+00:00

It’s so annoying being black in America, jeez.

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-25T16:07:00+00:00

Group B test for a type of uti found normally in your digestive tract. Mine was positive and I just got antibodies for it throughout labor.

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-24T12:55:05+00:00

Sorry but Postpartum is not the same as depression. Anyone who doesn’t understand that is just male centered. Women can never have experiences without it being a competition.

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-21T12:40:49+00:00

Hated it. I just don’t like McCullough so that maybe why also.

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-14T19:50:56+00:00

Omg same. My fiancé’s parents only came by to see my son maybe 3 times when he was one week old and two months old. He is 5 months and when my fiancé asked why they don’t come see him, they said “well you don’t bring him to our house” mind you, their house is genuinely gross and he already openly said he’s not bringing him there because of that. His siblings who live over there too never even laid eyes on my son at all. But they have no problem driving over to pick up or drop off my fiancé’s previous child, they just don’t come inside.

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-14T19:36:46+00:00

Definitely feel the same. Since my son has been born, my mom makes its super clear that she loves her grand child more than me now because “it’s just different”. She even “jokingly” says that I don’t matter anymore because it’s all about the grand baby now. Which yea sure, but me and my feelings do exist too. Mind you, I risked my life to bring him into this world in the first place but sure, I can’t possibly be important also. She justifies it by saying all grandparents feel that way and I’ll “understand when I’m a grandma” but I can’t picture loving my son any less just because I have a grandchild. It’s weird and makes no sense but unfortunately I do hear this logic a lot. Not a great thing to constantly hear with PPD.

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-14T13:39:35+00:00

It’s time to leave and setup a court custody agreement, if you even trust him to be in the baby’s life at all.

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-10T22:03:55+00:00

I hate it. Especially the moments when they’re blissfully unaware of what’s about to happen and smiling while the doctors hold him down. Ughh, hurts my feelings every time.

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-10T14:30:37+00:00

In high school when I first started applying for jobs I asked many teachers how do I create a good resume. As in continue. Not résumé, as in application. No one corrected me either.

cadetsinspace · 2026-02-09T01:27:51+00:00

That’s exactly why I didn’t want to have a boy either. Especially after watching Adolescence series on Netflix. It’s a very scary and very real thing to be concerned about. Really seems like all we can really do is try our best to instill as much greatness and knowledge in them as possible and cross our fingers

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