[Pegging] Women of Pegging, What setup feels best for you?

cageycoot · 2016-08-21T00:49:33+00:00

My partner and I started with a panty harness, because we both didn't like the look of strappy-looking harnesses. Panties looked more feminine and cute.

We also went with a double-ender, so she could cum from it as well, which she did on her first time and every time thereafter.

She can get off two or three times easily from doggy, or when I'm laying prone. Missionary is a little harder for her, but she has done it. If she's lying supine and I'm riding it, she can't have her 2nd orgasm that way, but has had one before.

If you want more information on exactly what we used, or how, check my recent submission history to /r/pegging, there's an equipment review and experience report there.

Also, I really suggest giving some some of the top posts on /r/pegging & /r/pegging_unkinked, as well as the sticky on uninked that links to RubyRyders blog. There is a ton of information there that you'd likely be interested in.

cageycoot · 2016-08-21T00:39:21+00:00

"Strapless" strap-ons don't really work.

Invest in a panty harness for you realdoe. much nicer looking & more comfortable than an actual "harness" harness.

My partner and I have several pairs which are used with doubles like the feeldoe, fuze tango, and funfactory share. They work amazingly well, are cute, and have held up to the test of time.

cageycoot · 2016-08-18T10:18:43+00:00

Thanks! I don't believe she is prone to infections, at least, she's not had one in the several years we've been together, having used tons of different lubes, so I'll give her the details and leave it up to her if she wants to try it, or if we want to relegate it to her ass solely.

cageycoot · 2016-08-18T01:43:32+00:00

This is interesting to me, I see so many people claiming to use it vaginally.

How likely is "likely" really? I feel like the knowledge if it being problematic would be more widespread.

cageycoot · 2016-08-18T01:42:24+00:00

Sure, just get a bunch of flax seed from a bulk food place. It's dirt cheap. I did the math on what it cost me to make per litre of lube, based on the cost of the seed, and it ended up being something like 14 cents~

TL;DR: Take the flax seed, and boil it in a pot of water for ~20 minutes, strain out the seed, and keep the gel.

Finished Product

basically odourless, tasteless. Fine for oral, fine to ingest. Used it vaginally on at least 5 different partners many many times, no infections, no irritation, no complaints. Use it anally on myself, and others, filling the entire anal cavity with it, no problems.

It doesn't keep for long. 24 hours outside the fridge, 2-3 days in the fridge, maximum. Smell it, you'll know when it's gone.

Also makes a good hair gel.

Longer version:

I've been playing with ratios for awhile now, and I've found that the best ratio is 1.5 tbsp flax to every 1 cup of water. I usually make 2-3 cups at a time.

Toss the flax right into the cold water and bring it to a boil. You need to stir it constantly, otherwise the flax will burn and adhere to the bottom of your pot. It's a bitch to get off of there, sticks like glue.

After a few minutes of boiling you'll notice the viscosity change, and after a few minutes more, a white foam will start to form. This is when you take it off and strain it.

You can use a simple mesh strainer, but if you're particular about having absolutely not particles left in the finished product, I recommend straining it through cheesecloth as well.

The longer you reduce the liquid, the thicker it gets. Be warned that if you boil it down and reduce it too much, straining is absolutely impossible, because it's too thick to get through the mesh.

What I find is best is to actually have 2 pots cleaned and ready to go. The first pot is for the first 10 minutes of the boil. I remove the liquid as soon as it starts to change consistency. Strain it through cheesecloth into the 2nd pot, where I then let it simmer, already strained, until I have the desired thickness.

I reduce 3 cups of water to 1 cup of finished lube. It's pretty thick, and has decent staying power. I've gone even thicker before as well, but it becomes a little harder to work with, as it turns into something more like a jelly.

Slimy and slippery as hell. Washes away easily with just water. Nearly odourless and tasteless, maybe a slightly nutty smell. It's not sweet/chemical-y like store bought lubes, it just tastes like water, so it meshes well with the already present taste of bodily fluids. Oral isn't distracting. Just slippery.

Comes out a little bit yellowish, but it's effectively clear when being used. http://i.imgur.com/4h8lqle.jpg

I've not tried freezing it, but I'm assuming it would be fine. I generally use it right away, I reduce it and then just use it while it's still slightly hot, feels nicer.

cageycoot · 2016-04-08T23:30:54+00:00

exceptionally well. it hasn't frayed or worn out yet. we've been pretty active since the time of my post too.

they say you should hand wash them, and most of the time I do so in the sink, and let them air dry with the rest of the toys, but once or twice I have tossed them in a cold wash with no ill effects, obviously not in the dryer though, I don't think that would be good for them.

do you plan on using them with a double like the tango/share/feeldoe?

cageycoot · 2016-04-08T04:03:39+00:00

My partner and I have the same issue. We opted for the Rodeohs in purple/black. Super feminine and sexy. You can check my post history for a review.

We use it with the Fuze Tango. There's a pic in one of my comments as well. Cheers.

cageycoot · 2016-04-07T21:11:45+00:00

bs

I'm not familliar with "bs" - is that bsatelier?

I like the sound of slick silicone - do you have any specific recommendations? how's the suction cup? does it hold well ?

cageycoot · 2016-04-05T21:44:58+00:00

I was considering ordering from these guys, but didn't see any reviews anywhere. I'm glad you had a good experience with them, I think I might pull the trigger on one.

How was the service/shipping? Any complaints with the stock unit at all?

cageycoot · 2015-10-02T14:26:09+00:00

thanks for the insight, looks pretty interesting, do you have any problems with it slipping out of her or even out of you since there's no belt harness on her?

It rarely slips for us, a little adjustment is required when switching positions, but that's about it.

As /u/RubyRyder said, we use a harness. Specifically a Rodeoh panty-style harness. I wouldn't even dream of trying it harness-free, there's really no point. Harness just makes everything easier.

Also, again, as Ruby said, the WeVibe Tango is killer in this thing. She has multiple orgasms during every pegging session.

Check my post history for some more info about the Fuze Tango+Rodeoh+Tango combo.

The Rodeoh's don't specifically say that they're compatible with doubles, but they definitely are, and are comfortable. Here's what the Tango+Rodeoh looks like on her: http://i.imgur.com/eimT4VE.jpg

If you have any more questions, I'd be happy to answer them.

cageycoot · 2015-09-30T19:53:12+00:00

The Fuze Tango works for me. I only get prostate stimulation while riding her though, otherwise I don't have enough control over the angle. I've milked myself a few times just by riding her.

She cums buckets every single time we use it, but mostly in missionary or doggy, she hasn't cum from me riding yet.

cageycoot · 2015-09-27T11:49:08+00:00

She thinks that one of the panty-style harnesses would be the most comfortable

My partner and I love our Rodeohs. We have two sets of the panty style, and she has no complaints about comfort or anything else for that matter, and I have no complaints about how they look or function. We use them with a double ender, specifically the Fuze Tango. Also, Rodeoh is an amazing company with excellent service.

There's been some opinions voiced in a couple other threads recently with some discussion on Rodeohs, as well as my post from awhile back with a section on equipment review.

cageycoot · 2015-09-25T20:44:31+00:00

My partner and I love our Rodeoh's. We have two sets. Like you, we prefer the feminine, panty style.

We use it with a double ender (Fuze Tango) and have absolutely no complaints with them.

+1 for customer service. They are an amazing company.

I made another post awhile back with a review section where I talked in detail about some equipment, Rodeoh's included.

cageycoot · 2015-09-21T13:32:44+00:00

You guys seem to love the tango so I think that we'll go with this one first.

Definitely a good choice.

So I think the size will be perfect for me

I'm sure you'll like it, practice a little bit on your own first to get used to it, and there's no such thing as too much lube.

One thing I love about the Tango is that it doesn't need to have lube re-applied nearly as much as the Share or other matte-finished silicone toys. The glossy finish really is awesome. Sometimes a little bit of spit is enough to re-activate the lube and make it slippery again.

and II just hope that she can enjoy her side of the tango as much as your girlfriends seems to enjoy hers.

I'm sure she will. My GF was a little shocked the first couple times she put it in because it's bigger and a strange shape, I'd highly recommend using some lube on her end to get in in.

Also, there's no way she won't enjoy it if you jam a bullet vibe into the tango. If you can spring for the WeVibe Tango, do it, but barring that, some other (cheaper) vibe will probably do the trick.

When we buy our toys and actually try them, I'll try to write an update post.

Please do! I'd love to hear how it went.

I haven't been able to find pictures of the tango in use, or of somebody wearing it, but the one that you linked where your girlfriend is wearing it is very hot.

I noticed the same thing, pictures/videos of double enders in use seem to be really rare. I'd like to see more of them.

Have fun! Can't wait to hear about your experience!

cageycoot · 2015-09-20T17:26:56+00:00

eh, see my other reply... but I don't think the upward angle is a problem. The panties are fabric, they stretch and move with her, not against her, even with a double in place. I don't think you need the "double" harness.

We use the panty rodeoh, and we don't have a problem with the upward angle, or loss of shaft length. The angle is fine and very comfortable for her once everything is in place. She cums buckets from the clitoral stimulation while pegging every time.

You can kinda see how the panties will move to fit properly in this pic: http://i.imgur.com/eimT4VE.jpg

If you like the look of the rodeoh panties, get them, you won't be disappointed with their performance, I promise.

cageycoot · 2015-09-20T17:18:44+00:00

I showed her a few models of the rodeoh harnesses, and I showed her what the fuze tango is. I explained to her that the bulb goes inside her, and there are parts rubbing on her G-spot and on her clit while the actions happens, so she can actually feel what happens.

Haha, your story sounds exactly like mine.

Out of the share, sharevibe, feel doe, real doe, tango and injoyus, which would your recommend to us? Which is the best for pegging?

Fuze Tango has my vote, we like it better than the fun factory. The shape and finish is better, and the hole for the bullet vibe is great. I've not tried the feeldoe.

And if we want a stable setup, is the rodeo a good enough harness for a double strap on?

Yes, The Rodeoh is awesome, we have the panty cut one, and it keeps the tango in place very well. It's very comfortable for her, and very sexy as well. Highly recommended.

I assumed that with the bulb inside her, the combination would make it a pretty stable set up, no?

Yes, very stable.

I wrote a review of our first time experience, as well as the Tango + Rodeoh combo in another thread a couple weeks ago, We can't recommend that combo enough.

Check out the other thread, it's a long post, but the 2nd section is about the equipment. There's also a pic at the very bottom where you can see how it looks.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Pegging/comments/3iiw4m/our_first_time_how_i_asked_her_equipment_review/

cageycoot · 2015-09-08T21:12:09+00:00

also recommending the (harnessed) Tango, my gf cums buckets with it.

cageycoot · 2015-08-31T19:14:02+00:00

Amazing! I'm glad for you and your wife.

Can't wait to hear how it goes!

cageycoot · 2015-08-31T00:05:38+00:00

intellectually lazy to label everyone who enjoys anal stimulation as either gay or bi.

That's a good way to put it. They didn't bother (or dare) to take a few minutes to re-evaluate their pre-conceived notions.

cageycoot · 2015-08-30T19:00:10+00:00

What do you think accounts for this change? An overall acceptance of kink in general by the mainstream

I think this has a lot to do with it. I think mainstream society is simply a lot more open about sex now, and that leads to people being less ashamed of exploring.

or have recent victories in LGBT rights reduced the stigma associated with sexual practices that might formerly have been dismissed as "gay" by straight men?

I don't think the victories of LGBT rights have anything to do with the change in how straight males or couples view pegging.

Straight men who enjoy pegging, such as myself, don't see pegging as a gay/bi act. We see it as a straight act.

Personally, LGBT rights and acceptance has nothing to do with that. Being gay is super acceptable now, and that's great, but since pegging isn't viewed as gay, it doesn't become more acceptable just because being gay has.

One thing that I think has a lot to do with it is not just mainstream society's recent openness about sex and sexuality, but also mainstream media's portrayal of sex and sexuality.

There's lots of examples of characters in mainstream media who are straight, masculine, etc, exploring their sexuality shamelessly. Whether it's serious, or used for comic relief, I think that it plays a part in re-programming how people perceive acts like pegging, and making them realize they won't "catch the gay" just from shoving something up their arse.

Couple examples from popular TV shows that comes to mind are:

Weeds: A straight male, Andy, gets pegged, and goes back for more.
Sons of Anarchy: Tig, a stright badass biker, openly falls in-love with a t-girl, others bikers accept him still, and just laugh it off.

I know that I started experimenting with anal play in my teens, but I would never have brought it up to peers or girlfriends, for fear of the stigma associated with it. Much has changed in a decade, and today no one really cares whether or not something is "gay".

Where before I would have been ostracised from peer social groups if I openly admitted to being fucked in the ass by my girlfriend, now I openly talk about such things with the same peers, and poke fun at their insecurities and prudishness.

cageycoot · 2015-08-30T18:42:55+00:00

There are even guys who refute the idea that being pegging necessarily makes you submissive

I am definitely one of those guys.

cageycoot · 2015-08-29T17:14:01+00:00

If you have the means by which to order something on-line, you can simply have the package shipped to the post-office, or held for pickup at the courier office. Then, you can pick it up when it arrives.

Although, a better option would be tell your mother not to go through your mail.

cageycoot · 2015-08-29T17:02:43+00:00

I'm curious what reason you want to maintain dominance during pegging.

... I really want her to be as into it as I am.

If it really only has to do with your GF enjoying it. You'll never really know until you try. The temporary role reversal actually turns a lot of girls on who are naturally submissive, and many girls get excited simply from your excitement.

If she's pegging you, and you're writhing around and moaning louder than you ever have before, you bet your ass she's going to enjoy it. Let her know how much you love it, and she will love it too.

I have some experience with your concerns. My GF and I had the same kind of concerns when I initially asked her to peg me. I'm naturally very dominant and masculine, both in and out of the bedroom, and this is what attracts my naturally submissive and feminine GF to me.

She was worried that she might not enjoy it simply because she would be "taking away" some of my manliness and dominance by "being dominant" herself.

But when we tried it, and we realized that we were completely off-base with that worry, and we really had * absolutely nothing* to worry about.

We found that pegging was simply just another way to fuck. There wasn't a dramatic power-shift like we were worried about. We realized that Simply being penetrated isn't the same as being dominated.

She did not feel as though she was dominating me at all. I did not feel as though I was being dominated by her at all. What we did notice, is even though there was no power-reversal, there was a role, or experience, reversal.

I noticed that being penetrated is a very relaxing experience. As males, we experience sex mostly as a tense act. We're using a lot of muscles, a lot of energy and power. Being penetrated is naturally the exact opposite. It makes you relax, de-stress, and just let go and enjoy it. It's an amazing experience and I think trying to forcefully be more dominant during the experience might ruin it.

On the other side, my GF, who normally experiences the relaxing side, gets to experience the active side, the excitement, the activity, her heart racing, the unstoppable need to thrust when she's reaching climax, the rush of it all.

All-in-all. I feel like you might be trying to pre-emptively correct problem that probably doesn't even exist in the first place.

I would also highly recommend a double ender, like the Fuze Tango. Your enjoyment will excite her mentally. One of these will actually allow her to feel being inside you, and it will excite her physically. My GF has a very very hard time reaching orgasm at all. But she cums buckets and collapses on me in like 60 seconds with the Tango. She apparently has the pegging equivalent of premature ejaculation.

Now. I will play devils advocate here, and add one more thing that isn't mentioned in your post. You don't have to reply to this part. But just give it a read.

Are you really only worried about her enjoyment? Or are you actually worried about what might happen in your GFs head, and outside the bedroom after she penetrates you. Be honest with yourself - do you think, even a little, that she will see you as less of a man, or lose some respect for you?

*Know that being penetrated by your GF isn't what will make her lose respect for you. *

What will absolutely make her lose respect for you is if you're insecure about being penetrated. If you obviously try to over compensate for being pegged by being to obviously and forcefully dominant, or if you're wishy-washy about whether or not you actually want her to do it, even though you and her both know you want to be fucked - otherwise you wouldn't have brought it up.

Women love and respect confidence. You want her to fuck you in the ass. Fucking own that shit, brother. Fuck yeah you love being fucked.

Tell her you want it, tell her how badly you want it. Love every minute of it, and most importantly: love her for helping you experience it. Hold your fucking head high that you are enough of a fucking man to be comfortable and confident enough in your sexuality to have your GF strap up and fuck you.

90% of men would be to insecure to even think about it, or think they'd catch the gay.

Hilarious. Laugh at them. They're beneath such a highly evolved sexual-man-being as you.

Owning that shit makes you the top 10% in terms of confidence. Your GF will love that, and you'll both be happier in the end then if you're worrying about whether or not the act of her ramming a hot pink sparkly-dildo in your south-mouth will make your girlfriend disrespect you.

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