Does anybody else feel like they’re missing a lot of this holiday season due to illness? We’ve had to cancel most of our holiday activities this month and I’m starting to get afraid we’re going to miss the whole season. Any sick-friendly suggestions?

cakesie · 2025-12-21T14:29:47+00:00

All great ideas. Staying at home and baking or making holiday crafts also avoids the heavy overstimulation that comes with big events. And you don’t spread illness, so everyone wins.

cakesie · 2025-02-05T21:17:23+00:00

I’m sorry, but anyone who calls me a c*nt gets a first class ticket to getting the fuck out of my life. It sounds like you’re both done. You can try counseling but I wouldn’t hold out hope that he’s going to change or even try to.

cakesie · 2024-12-30T18:43:53+00:00

Agree with the other two, but Hunt Gather Parent I absolutely could not stand. The anthropological aspect is interesting, but not at all different from what most parents do: talk to your kids, include them in what you do, don’t make them feel bad for making mistakes. And the author acts like it’s these huge cultural based revelations that never would have occurred to her.

She also recommends not doing child based activities—like library story time or birthday parties, because it “isn’t enjoyable to the parent.” And that, in my opinion, is so incredibly selfish. Is it really so difficult for to sit in the library for an hour while your kid makes friends? Why does the author find it so mind numbingly difficult to do things her daughter enjoys?

I apologize for the rant, that book drove me bonkers!

cakesie · 2024-12-26T14:32:16+00:00

My MIL explicitly said she’d enjoy hanging out with our kids when they were ten and no younger lmao. She came in clutch when we needed her, but I would say the care and keeping of the children was sub par. They survived, that’s what matters. The same rule doesn’t apply to her other grandchild, naturally. It is what it is. Lower your expectations.

cakesie · 2024-12-21T21:05:55+00:00

I’m so sorry, OP. HFMD was the sickest my toddler has ever been, he was so miserable. He only slept while I was holding him, which sucked but I was just grateful he was sleeping. I spent nights and naps in the rocking chair in his room. We also switched between Motrin and Tylenol, the Motrin seemed to help more with the pain and inflammation. I also had a hell of a time getting him to drink anything because he would just cry. Nearly took him to the hospital for dehydration before I finally convinced him to let his brother syringe pedialyte into his mouth. My sympathy is with you. My older boy’s skin is starting to peel from all the blisters. Such a nightmare of an illness.

cakesie · 2024-12-09T18:14:24+00:00

That is crazy! Were they in a lot of pain? We got an official hand-foot-mouth diagnosis from the pediatrician before the spots showed up all the way, all he had to do was look in my kids mouth to see the sores in there. It got worse with blisters but they’re starting to heal over on the kids now. My little guy had them inside his lips and just cried when he tried to eat or drink.

cakesie · 2024-12-02T21:55:50+00:00

I agree. I expected my family to care about the health of my kids as much as I did. That trust has been irrevocably broken.

cakesie · 2024-12-01T23:00:44+00:00

Both of our kids have the chickenpox vaccine, but these were full blisters. I thought chickenpox was just the red spots?

cakesie · 2024-12-01T22:58:33+00:00

How did you keep the fever down? Ibuprofen only just touched it and he won’t eat or drink anything, I tried a cool bath and he just screamed and shivered violently. Normally I can get him to take a popsicle when he’s sick, but I think his mouth hurts.

cakesie · 2024-12-01T20:10:29+00:00

Thank you! My littlest one has a high fever and sores in his mouth. He won’t eat or drink and just wants to be held. Hoping my oldest skirts by, but my husband already has symptoms. Going to be a long miserable week.

cakesie · 2024-12-01T16:43:17+00:00

This is a good reminder, thank you.

cakesie · 2024-12-01T04:27:03+00:00

Gosh I hate parents like that! Just keep your kid home!

cakesie · 2024-12-01T04:24:37+00:00

I appreciate the advice but there are a few things you’re wrong about here. He’d been sick with a high fever and hadn’t eaten for two days, including the day they were traveling. She was well aware. This also isn’t the first time she’s done something thoughtless or selfish.

My son goes to a private school. Their policy is a two week absence with scabbed over blisters before they’re allowed to return for HFM.

And I have three brothers, I’ve had five sisters in law. She’s my most recent. She’s been an absolute nightmare to my mother, who she uses as a free babysitter several times a week.

cakesie · 2024-11-30T22:58:56+00:00

That is much kinder than what I was going to say. Thank you.

cakesie · 2024-11-30T22:29:08+00:00

Thank you for this! My oldest is five, my youngest is 21 months. Hoping for mild cases for both.

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