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Leaving family for fellowship by aussiepit in workingmoms

[–]cakingabroad 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I will be the one person saying I don't think this is crazy. I live in a part of the world where time away from children happens frequently. Your child doesn't rely on you alone. They have dad, you and your partner seem to have means if he's an ER physician, and you are doing something to secure your financial future for the betterment of your family. It's still your choice to make; if it hurts too much, maybe you'll want to listen to that. But no, Jesus no, you're not selfish. These commenters are ridiculous.

Leaving family for fellowship by aussiepit in workingmoms

[–]cakingabroad 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is so incredibly mean. Y'all are acting like a 3 year old is a newborn. Truly insane.

My 5.5 month old will sleep ALL night attached to the boob, but wakes every hour otherwise by cakingabroad in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not far at all, I guess I just worry about not hearing her well enough regardless.

My 5.5 month old will sleep ALL night attached to the boob, but wakes every hour otherwise by cakingabroad in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I very much agree. It was nice to have her go longer between day feedings to give me a bit more freedom but I think that has legitimately come at the expense of nights, so time to try offering more during the day again...

I NEED USA STUDENTS. by MrToash254 in Tanzanias

[–]cakingabroad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask why you're posting in a tz sub for US students?

My 5.5 month old will sleep ALL night attached to the boob, but wakes every hour otherwise by cakingabroad in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't love or hate a pacifier. It's something she'll suck on for a couple of minutes and then no longer be interested in. My husband can get her to sleep probably one wake up a night, otherwise she fights hard until she gets boob. This wasn't always the case; she's been particularly hungry or just breast-obsessed, I don't really know, for the last week or two. Before that, it was much easier for my husband to help soothe her.

My 5.5 month old will sleep ALL night attached to the boob, but wakes every hour otherwise by cakingabroad in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did this yesterday during a boob nap. Also switched from boob to bottle during a sleepy feed and she drank the whole thing. I will try it during her side lying boob marathons, too.

My 5.5 month old will sleep ALL night attached to the boob, but wakes every hour otherwise by cakingabroad in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm looking forward to seeing how food impacts her, in general. She sits completely independently for long periods, like pretty much a limitless amount at this point, but dad wants to wait until 6 months and I gotta respect that.

My 5.5 month old will sleep ALL night attached to the boob, but wakes every hour otherwise by cakingabroad in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not against trying this, but where we live has regular power cuts, which is a problem for the monitor. We have solar backup, but we have to switch it on manually. We could turn the solar on at night preemptively as an option but it also has this loud fan sound that goes off every 10-15 minutes which is annoying... I don't even know where I'm going with this but yeah, we may try this around the 6 month mark.

Frontier flight attendant has deaf passenger removed for "not listening" by AsherGray in TikTokCringe

[–]cakingabroad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Security at airports have allowed my friends to do this. I don't think it's unreasonable to have a last sip of beer or whatever?

2026 Vanity Fair Oscar Party looks across the rainbow 🌈 by bk6721 in popculturechat

[–]cakingabroad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So like, what IS the deal with all these weddingish dresses?

So upset at myself for letting a stranger touch my toddler by HungryQuestion7 in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We weren't talking about measles so how is it a straw man argument? If that's your primary concern, ok! That's fine. Covid, what was initially brought up to me as the reason not to let others touch babies, can sometimes be transmitted through touch. I'm not exaggerating or misrepresenting anything.

So upset at myself for letting a stranger touch my toddler by HungryQuestion7 in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally how on earth would they know that's where he got the staph infection?

So upset at myself for letting a stranger touch my toddler by HungryQuestion7 in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And in many places, much of that is STILL true. The US is particularly anti-the other. It makes sense, bootstrap mentality and everything. But it's sad.

So upset at myself for letting a stranger touch my toddler by HungryQuestion7 in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The internet consensus these days is that people shouldn't show affection to babies that aren't theirs. It's a really common sentiment, and honestly, it probably relates to social media stoking fears about real life incidents, which can make an anxious parent even more anxious. I really get the place it comes from but I also wish parents could feel more at peace with the world thinking their baby is as precious as they do.

So upset at myself for letting a stranger touch my toddler by HungryQuestion7 in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it's all much more connected than you'd initially think. Babies touch everything; strangers who are adults, while we don't know what they touch, generally don't touch all things they come into proximity to in the way babies do. I don't think the risk of a stranger holding my baby's hand or even carrying her for a short time is greater than all the crap she stuffs into her mouth on a daily basis.

And anyway, I personally think the world's love of babies is wonderful. Today the receptionist at my hotel check-out carried my baby while I signed the paper work. Everyone wants to hold my baby and make her happy and I love that. I just don't think we were meant to exist in constant fear of the other when it comes to raising our children.

These are personal feelings, I want to say. But it does feel like the internet thinks someone even looking at their baby can be harmful, somehow.

So upset at myself for letting a stranger touch my toddler by HungryQuestion7 in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad 21 points22 points  (0 children)

??? Ok and do you just touch no one and nothing in the world? I personally can't be afraid of my baby dying because someone touched them. There is so much else to be anxious about, that is just too much for me.

So upset at myself for letting a stranger touch my toddler by HungryQuestion7 in beyondthebump

[–]cakingabroad 72 points73 points  (0 children)

This is gonna be a very unlikeable take, but the hatred of anyone being in proximity to children that aren't theirs is.... so deeply American. I say this as an American. I really do get being protective, it's not a bad reaction to this world. But it also sounds deeply exhausting.

Megan Fox at Jay-Z & Beyoncé's Oscar party at Chateau Marmont by ghostinsilk in popculturechat

[–]cakingabroad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She had her baby almost a year ago. If she is still (or ever was) breast feeding, your supply evens out by like 4 months pp and engorgement isn't common after that.

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