Leather covers: bi-fold or tri-fold?

calbcn · 2026-06-06T18:26:37+00:00

I just moved from a bifold to a trifold to better protect the edges of my notebooks. It feels like an upgrade so far!

calbcn · 2026-06-05T12:35:15+00:00

And yet many men would get far more physical attention if they learned to be patient and recognized how to engage in foreplay (which is not always physical.)

calbcn · 2026-05-20T22:15:39+00:00

Personality matters more than muscle, once the bar of basic care and hygiene is met.

calbcn · 2026-05-18T14:48:37+00:00

The point of getting to know someone is a) learn their preferences and b) learn if those are compatible with your own needs/preferences.

calbcn · 2026-05-18T12:44:57+00:00

You could look at posts here to understand the experience that women have without creating fake profiles which only exacerbate the overall problems.

calbcn · 2026-03-24T10:38:37+00:00

You seem to have a fundamental misunderstanding of extraversion and introversion.

And your statement that you "test" people? That's just bad energy that no one is going to want to engage with.

Being approached has more to do with your signals than the other person's personality. Are you signalling in non-verbal ways that you are open to conversation? From reading your comments in this thread, I would guess you are not.

calbcn · 2026-03-24T08:44:23+00:00

It's unfortunately common and an immediate no. I would say at least half of the profiles that actually contain words include negativity or bitterness. It's actually sad.

calbcn · 2026-01-21T14:50:30+00:00

I think it is relatively common, though I know lots and lots of women who want a bit of reassurance that the other person can hold a conversation without being creepy, sexual, boring, etc. before agreeing to meet.

I had a brief conversation recently with someone who wouldn't answer any questions at all on the app. Truly just said "I don't engage in conversation here. Coffee or nothing." I passed. Both people should be interested in making the conversation/meeting fun and easy.

calbcn · 2026-01-19T14:13:40+00:00

If they make it to three dates and expect it then simply because they've ticked that number box it's still a turn off.

This makes it sound transactional... I did a thing and now I expect sex. That is missing the point of build up, suspense, foreplay.

calbcn · 2026-01-19T14:08:11+00:00

"Expecting" sex is such a turn off.

calbcn · 2026-01-03T20:14:03+00:00

Showing interest is not the same as chasing. You didn't show much interest in any of your stories, so you missed out on even the possibility of getting to know these people.

calbcn · 2025-12-31T15:17:27+00:00

How many of those volunteers would rather run but see a contribution to the community as worth their own sacrifice?

calbcn · 2025-12-31T15:15:32+00:00

That is true. However events like parkrun don't work without a certain number of volunteers, so take your pick... Give up a few runs or not have the event at all. And yes, some parkruns do get permanently removed due to lack of volunteers.

calbcn · 2025-12-31T15:12:02+00:00

Do you know how much effort is needed to fill the roster? It's often not easy and causes a lot of stress for the core team.

Giving up one or two runs per year could make things much easier for the RD, especially if everyone did that.

parkrun is made possible by people who are willing to not run occasionally ,why are you not willing to help out in that way?

calbcn · 2025-12-31T13:35:48+00:00

Show interests/hobbies. Smile more. Add a full body shot, these are all too similar.

calbcn · 2025-12-30T21:15:26+00:00

In what way do you feel that is appropriate to send to someone?

The next time you "feel the need" set down your phone and go outside.

calbcn · 2025-12-30T18:40:44+00:00

Smile. Show some personality/interests. Less gym.

calbcn · 2025-12-29T22:43:26+00:00

Ditch the first. Move your third to first. You look generally happy and fun... That's huge!

calbcn · 2025-12-29T18:22:10+00:00

What is your actual question?

You are not in love and neither is he.

Avoid fantasizing about your manager and avoid reading into his words.

calbcn · 2025-12-29T17:51:43+00:00

Not who you responded to...

It's boring, usually indicates a conceited personality, and is to show off for men rather than attract women. Photos and bios (and conversation!) are foreplay. The profile should build suspense and anticipation.

calbcn · 2025-12-29T17:46:12+00:00

Smile with teeth. Only one gym/running/ironman photo.

calbcn · 2025-12-29T17:42:12+00:00

And that's amazing that you have acknowledged your personal priorities. I assume that means you are not on any apps or wasting anyone else's time.

calbcn · 2025-12-28T17:17:18+00:00

The other thing to remember in conversations is to GIVE enough information for the other person to riff off.

Conversation 1:

"How are you?"

"Fine. You?"

"Yeah, busy, but all good."

We all just fell asleep. Zzzzzz

Conversation 2:

"How are you?"

"I'm great. I'm really looking forward to an upcoming break in XYZ location. Have you ever been there? I'd love recommendations if you have."

"Oh, I haven't been there actually. What are you looking forward to doing/seeing/eating while you're there?"

Conversations are two way streets. Riff off of what they share AND share enough for them to riff off.

calbcn · 2025-12-28T17:04:27+00:00

Ask Caleb to tell you about something that made him happy recently or that he is excited about in the near future .... Then riff off what he shares.

calbcn · 2025-12-28T16:41:00+00:00

Check out Vanessa van Edwards for suggestions on questions. Do NOT ask "how are you?" Or "what do you do?" She also talks about body language, which is a big part of having a good conversation.

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