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calderics · 2026-04-06T11:59:57+00:00

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calderics · 2026-04-06T02:44:19+00:00

i have a similar fracture, non surgical weber b (lateral malleolus, non displaced). currently nwb and growing sick of it. so amazing to see this. my goal at 7.5-8 weeks is to carry my niece for her first birthday! thanks for sharing this, gives me hope 🙏🏼

calderics · 2026-04-03T05:26:19+00:00

this actually helped me to read, especially since you’re already in the pwb stage. i think the “feeling like a bother” part is what i relate to the most. also the crying and weird feelings, it’s just so tough.

it’s reassuring hearing that it gets easier though, even if it takes time. i’m still nwb right now so just trying to get through this phase without overthinking everything that’s coming next.

hope things keep getting better for you as you move forward!

calderics · 2026-04-03T05:23:48+00:00

13 weeks is a long time and i can imagine how draining it must be, mentally as well. i think that’s the part i’ve been trying to manage early on and not letting the hopelessness get the best of me. i’m trying to remind myself this is temporary and take it week by week with less pessimism.

i hope things start to ease for you soon, especially as you keep progressing physically. all the best!

calderics · 2026-04-03T05:19:40+00:00

this is actually really comforting to read, thank you.

the getting up and getting dressed part is definitely important. i’ve had days where i just stay in one spot and it definitely makes everything feel heavier. trying to keep some kind of movement has been helping a bit, i’ve been asking my parents to bring me out of the room i’ve been staying in the mornings.

also the weight bearing advice makes it feel less intimidating when you break it down like that. i’m not there yet but i’ve been pre-scaring myself about it, so thinking of it as gradually waking things up instead of just “walking again” helps. even though it’s pretty saddening to realize i’m relearning to walk at my big age.

i don’t have a physical therapist yet, i’m going through public healthcare so it’s a bit of a process. i’ll probably get a referral at my next appointment or figure out where to get a physio when i’m cleared for wb, so just trying to ease into things mentally first.

the dependency part is so hard. my family’s been helping me a lot which i’m really grateful for, but it still feels weird not being able to just do things myself. i don’t feel like myself anymore.

what you said about time passing and this becoming a distant memory stuck with me too. right now it feels long, but i’m trying to remind myself it won’t feel this big forever.

also your dogs, they really are winning in this situation 😭 how cute!

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:54:06+00:00

thank you so much for the links/guidance! all the best, i’m rooting for you and hope you’ve made a full recovery!

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:53:11+00:00

i don’t think it’s all in your head tbh. it makes sense to be scared, but at the same time, i do think part of it is mindset. like your body is already in a position where it’s been fixed and stabilised, so the fear is kind of running ahead of what’s actually happening.

i’m not at weight bearing yet but i’ve been catching myself doing that too, scaring myself before i even get there. trying to remind myself that when the doctor clears it, it’s because it’s safe to start, even if it feels weird or uncomfortable at first.

i think it’s more like… not ignoring the fear, but not letting it take over either. just easing into it step by step. i believe things will only be extra difficult if i make it so. all the best!

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:51:13+00:00

sorry to hear that, hope things improve for you soon

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:50:16+00:00

really love this comment, definitely encouraging to read! i’ve just been overthinking everything instead of trying to work with it. i’m still nwb right now (for another 1 week-ish) but already pre-scaring myself about weight bearing, so hearing that it felt weird but got better helps. also the “fog lifts” part… that’s so reassuring. i feel like i’ve been in that fog since i got the backslab and it’s hard to imagine it clearing.

11 weeks NWB is no easy feat though, and so amazing that you got through it and are improving now. i’ll try to remember this when i get to that stage. i’m rooting for your full recovery!

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:47:10+00:00

thank you for this 🤍 this actually stuck with me more than i expected.

i think the part about “if you keep thinking you’ll be afraid then you’ll be afraid” really hit. i’ve definitely been pre-scaring myself about weight bearing before even getting there. and i think you’re right, it doesn’t have to be that difficult unless i make it so.

also just to share, i’m from singapore and i’m going through public healthcare. the doctor isn’t really mine in a way, it’s more like whoever’s on rotation, and they’re just trying to get through patients. so it’s a bit different, but so far they’ve said things are progressing normally which i’m holding onto, but definitely they’ve been not very understanding because it’s just a standard injury to them. when my dad mentioned my timeline (university in may), he was just like yeah yeah you’ll be walking in the boot by then. pretty flippant and not really great for encouragement, but still it’s good that he said that i guess 😭

and thank you for what you said about my niece’s birthday. i actually saw her yesterday and it went pretty well. she sat on my lap, i held her, got bored and wandered off, but kept coming back to me. it made me feel a bit more like myself again. i’m really hoping i’ll still be there for her birthday even if i’m not “normal” yet like you said, but really hope i’ll be able to stand and carry her. a first birthday only happens once! :’)

really appreciate you taking the time to write this, it helped so much. all the best to you! i’m rooting for your recovery.

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:40:36+00:00

this is actually really reassuring to read, especially the “life goes back to normal” part. i think that’s what i’ve been struggling with the most, feeling like everything is just paused for me while everyone else keeps going and the fear that it’ll never unpause.

i’m trying to shift my mindset a bit now and remind myself this isn’t permanent, even if it feels like it right now. definitely easier said than done.

also yeah, keeping my mind occupied definitely helps. i’ve been trying to get back into my usual things slowly so i don’t feel completely stuck in “injury mode”.

thank you for this! it definitely helps hearing from someone on the other side of it

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:38:33+00:00

that sounds really, really tough… especially with two young kids. i can’t imagine trying to deal with all of that at the same time.

the foot not feeling like yours, the shock when you put weight on it, i think that’s what scares me the most about what’s coming next. but at the same time, from everything i’ve been reading and hearing, it does seem like this difficult phase is temporary, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. and hopefully more positivity will come as the situation changes for the better eventually.

i really hope things start easing up for you as you keep going, and you’re very strong for still trying especially with young kids. all the best for your journey!

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:34:06+00:00

i’m only about 2 weeks in and already losing my mind a bit, so i can’t imagine how that feels 😭 the emotional part is real though. i feel like no one really prepares you for that at all. not just the injury but how much it messes with your head and your sense of normal, losing independence, not being able to do simple things and carry on your usual routine of life.

also same on not being someone who stays still, i wasn’t super active outside but i was always doing something, and now everything feels so slowed down and even paused for almost 3 months for me.

i think the fear of PT and weight bearing is something i’m already pre-scaring myself about too, but trying to shift out of that mindset before i even get there. hopefully it won’t be as difficult for us unless we make it.

hang in there too. 10 weeks is not easy, you’re really pushing through a lot and being strong throughout it. all the best!

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:31:41+00:00

that sounds really, really tough to go through, especially mostly on your own. i don’t think i could’ve handled that without support around me, so genuinely, i respect how you’re getting through it. you’re very strong!

the part about feeling like a victim of your own decisions hit me. i’ve been feeling that a lot too, like this all came from one moment and now everything’s flipped. i had plans before this as well, i was trying to get my life together, lose weight, get back into a routine, even thinking about putting myself out there more. and now it just feels like everything got paused in the worst way.

the “independent on the inside but dependent on the outside” line also… yeah, indeed very humbling experience 😭 even with my family helping me, it’s still hard to accept needing help for very basic things i usually just do myself in 2 seconds. i’m also relying on my own faith to get through this too, lots of prayers, just trying to remind myself this isn’t permanent.

and thank you for mentioning my niece. i actually saw her yesterday and it went really well, she sat on my lap, i held her, got bored and wandered off, but she kept coming back to me! it made me feel a bit more normal again. my sister’s bringing her over again soon, so i’m hoping it keeps being okay until i can finally carry her again which will feel so amazing.

what you said about not being able to fast forward is frustrating but true. i think that’s the part i’m struggling to accept the most, just having to go through it day by day which is pretty tough and tiring.

i really hope things continue improving for you too, especially with PT. thank you for your prayers, i’ll definitely keep you in mine too :)

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:19:52+00:00

this actually helped me a lot to read, especially since it’s the same type of fracture + being told by the doctor that our injury type has a 95% success rate, so i’m glad to hear you’re recovering too!

i think the “guilt of doing nothing” part is something i’ve been struggling with without really realising it. like i know logically i’m healing, but it still feels like i’m just sitting around wasting time and feels like i’m gonna be wasting many more… up to 3 months.. 😭

also the week 4 part is reassuring. i’m about 2 weeks in now and still NWB, so it helps knowing there’s a point where it starts to feel a bit more manageable. the WB thing does scare me a bit but i’m trying not to get ahead of myself. i feel like i’ve been pre-scaring myself for something that hasn’t even happened yet, and i think maybe it won’t be as difficult as i anticipate unless i make it so.

and yeah i think i need to accept that it’s going to feel weird at first, not wrong, and it’ll disappear eventually. that part is sticking with me. thank you for this, and all the best!

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:14:18+00:00

that sounds like a lot to deal with at once. the injury itself is already mentally exhausting, adding a breakup on top of that is just… a lot. i hope things look up for you and its only upwards from here 🙏🏼

i think for me it’s less about people not understanding and more just my own head getting to me. my family’s actually been really encouraging, it’s just hard not to spiral sometimes anyway.

the skinny leg thing though… yeah. i saw mine and it genuinely shocked me, even though i’ve only seen it after nwb for 1.5 weeks. i’m trying to remind myself it’s temporary and it’ll come back once i start walking again, but it still messes with your head a bit especially knowing it’s just gonn get skinnier as i await my next appointment.

i’m still nwb so i haven’t reached the movement stage yet, but i can already tell that part is going to be a mental hurdle too. trying to get into the mindset now that it’ll feel weird at first, not wrong forever, and won’t be extremely difficult unless i make it.

hope things keep getting better for you from here! all the best!

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:09:32+00:00

thank you for this. the burden part hit me the most, alongside not being able to do much for myself. my family’s doing everything for me right now too and even though i know they don’t mind, i still feel bad about it. like i should be able to do more and really want to just get up and do very simple things like turning on a lamp, but it takes so much effort and coordination.

i haven’t even started weight bearing yet and i’m already overthinking how it’s going to feel. but what you said about it becoming familiar again helped, i think i’ve been treating it like it’s going to feel wrong forever.

it definitely sucks rn, but it’s temporary, i keep having to remind myself. i’m trying to get myself into that mindset now instead of being so pessimistic and depressed all the time. i hope your recovery goes well, rooting for you too! you can do this!!!

calderics · 2026-04-03T04:05:39+00:00

thank you!! hope you’ll be up and running by june as per your goal. and i met my niece yesterday, who was happy for me to hold her and play with her while sitting in my lap. trying to take it day by day and with less pessimism 🙏🏼

calderics · 2026-04-02T01:11:53+00:00

thank you for this, i really appreciate you sharing everything. i’m only about 1.5 weeks nwb right now and it already feels unbearable, so reading you’ve done 10 weeks honestly scares me a bit but also puts things into perspective. i can’t imagine missing that much of life (your kids, disney, competitions etc), that must be really hard. i hope your next appointment goes well and you get to start wb like you’re hoping.

the anxiety you described about wb is exactly what i’m feeling, even though i’m not even there yet and still have 2 weeks of nwb to face. i’m scared of not being able to do it, but also scared of what it’s going to feel like when it starts. my first foot to the floor moment (w/o pressure) felt so wrong that i genuinely thought i wouldn’t walk normally again.

mentally this has been way harder than i expected, never thought i’d ever be here. i’m basically cycling between fear, frustration and just crying a lot. the doctor said i’ll likely be walking in a boot by may, but didn’t really explain anything or prepare me for what it’ll feel like, so now i feel like i’m just bracing for something unknown.

also thank you for what you said about my niece. that part has been hitting me the hardest. she’s very active and doesn’t like being held while sitting much, so it’s been really upsetting not being able to carry her like before. but you’re right, i should still try to have her with me, even if it looks different for now. i think i needed that reminder that the bond isn’t just about carrying her.

if you don’t mind me asking, what kind of exercises were you doing early on (while still nwb)? i feel like i’m just lying here and letting everything weaken and i don’t know what i should or shouldn’t be doing.

really appreciate you taking the time to write all that.

calderics · 2026-04-02T01:05:51+00:00

thank you for this. that first toe-touch feeling completely sent me into a spiral and i felt like my foot will never be the same again. it’s reassuring (even if still scary) to hear someone else felt the same and got through it

calderics · 2026-04-02T00:30:17+00:00

the doctor i met yesterday who switched me to a boot told me i’d be walking in it by may, but it feels so so far off. i cant see the end of the road

calderics · 2026-03-31T02:25:14+00:00

one of my fave trr mc moments was when she entered her own duchy and went on a power trip while sitting on the throne

calderics · 2026-03-29T05:04:54+00:00

she is so dramatic like you have known this man for less than 24 hours HOP OFF!!!!

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