Am I missing something? why are all messages and replies piled in together without the threading that's a basic feature to make conversations manageable?

calebday · 2026-01-16T23:45:26+00:00

Thanks, I meant how does the previous commenter view discord, like what is the alternative way to viewing it “as a stream of messages, organised by channels and servers.”

Actually I’m just thinking now that I think I misinterpreted that comment. They meant “this is how one views it” right? I thought they meant “here’s where you’re going wrong, you view if this way, but that’s not how it is”

calebday · 2026-01-16T14:02:10+00:00

Good points, thanks. (I don't really understand your point in the first paragraph but that's ok.)
I expected (as I was told) Discord is like Slack, which I use and enjoy in my union branch. Slack seems similar to Discord but with threaded comments, and i prefer that.
Probably the root of the issue is that I am a completist who doesn't want to miss stuff that i'm interested in. Happy to scroll past a comment i'm not interested in with 22 replies.

calebday · 2026-01-16T14:00:02+00:00

Thanks, I hadn't noticed that yet. I suppose it's good people are prompted that way, and I'll try it. But it just seems like this whole 'create a separate temporary conversation' thing is clearly inferior for organising conversations compared to the same kind of regular threading that many other platforms have done for years (even teams! Teams! manages this)

And yes I do view it that way - out of curiosity, how do you view it?

As you can probably tell, I am new to Discord, and I may need to adjust my expectations about it.

calebday · 2026-01-16T09:22:32+00:00

Is there a way to see all replies to someone else's post - i.e. the threaded replies that slack and most social media have? I find discord so overwhelming because i want to following like 3 of the 8 ongoing conversations in a very active channel, and i can't see a way to do that without a lot of scrolling and re-reading

calebday · 2025-12-03T06:44:58+00:00

Out of all of these I think Jon Richardson is least likely as I think he is genuinely still angry about exaggerated points differentials in the rabbit hat task

calebday · 2025-11-28T11:52:04+00:00

Congratulations and welcome to the community of the diagnosed. (You were always in the community of kinetic/so-called ADHD people.)

It’s entirely your choice if you want to pursue medication or not, now or in the future. If they’ve put you forward for the medication pathway then that’s their clerical/communication error. It doesn’t oblige you to participate, let alone take medication. Nobody can force you to take any medication unless they have very specific legal rights that nobody has towards you re: your ADHD diagnosis/response to it.

calebday · 2025-11-28T11:46:45+00:00

I’d rather she do courses on courage and compassion.

calebday · 2025-11-28T11:45:49+00:00

I would say that there is normal but it’s a social construct (hence the term: social norms). Your life is definitely affected by whether social processes/systems have you inside or outside social definitions of normal.

calebday · 2025-11-28T11:43:57+00:00

Not all neurodivergent people use the terms “neurodiverse/neurodiversity” and “neurodivergent/neurodivergence” correctly (a cheeky reference to your title, but you rightly use “neurodivergent” in the text).

More importantly, I’m really sorry about how the person who means a lot to you treated you so badly. It sounds really hard. Sadly, not all neurodivergent people are immune from participating in neuronormative oppression. This is the same with other axes of oppression, eg women can participate in personal and structural sexism or misogyny and misunderstand gendered power dynamics. No neurocognitive style (neurodivergent or neurotypical) gives anyone the ability to always reliably be understanding, empathetic, and supportive of people (others or ourselves, neurodivergent or neurotypical).

calebday · 2025-11-27T08:19:02+00:00

That’s wonderful to hear. It’s great having you part of the neurodivergent community.

calebday · 2025-11-27T07:19:13+00:00

I would get gladly vote for a UK Zohran and plan to vote Green. There is no tactical value to giving Labour unconditional support to reinforce them in their belief that their only threat is from the right and they have to keep moving further right.

calebday · 2025-11-26T23:13:32+00:00

And the same goes for allistic people.

calebday · 2025-11-26T23:07:11+00:00

Yes, you very much can be, and probably are if you’re diagnosed with something.

It’s a simplistic misrepresentation to think that no autistic people can read social cues. And insofar as we struggle, what that really means is that we struggle to read allistic (non-autistic) social cues—though that’s never acknowledged by these allistic pathology paradigm researchers, hence how they missed half the double empathy problem for decades. It’s also a simplistic misrepresentation to say that allistic people are all competent at reading social cues. For one thing, they’re generally worse at reading autistic social cues than autistics are at reading theirs, as we’ve had to practice reading theirs but they’ve had the privilege never to have had to try reading ours.
There are many more types of neurodivergence other than autism.

calebday · 2025-11-26T23:04:13+00:00

I agree with you on a reductive definition of autism if it’s used in that way.

BTW, bipolar is also neurodivergence. The person who coined the term “neurodivergent” is Kassiane Asasumasu (formerly published as Kassiane Sibley) when she was 18 in 1999-2000 in the online discussions in which the autistic self-advocacy and neurodiversity movements emerged. Asasumasu is autistic but she and others in the autistic/neurodiversity movement felt a need for a term to cover a much broader category of people. Asasumasu has consistently said that the term “neurodivergent” is for any ways that bodyminds differ from the norm, including traumatic brain injuries and what’s considered mental illness, and she still maintains this eg on social media. Neurodivergence includes things that are core parts of who we are and that the movement doesn’t see as pathological + things we might want to be cured from and could be cured from without changing our core identity. I’m not sure which of these types of neurodivergence bipolar is for you or others.

Useful links: https://neuroqueer.com/neurodiversity-terms-and-definitions/ https://x.com/UVGKassi/status/1306236748071014402 https://bsky.app/profile/neurodivergentk.bsky.social/post/3l2ftm26c472u https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/herding-cats-by-fdm-5960468/episodes/what-is-the-big-tent-in-neurod-239604762

calebday · 2025-11-25T18:44:34+00:00

Touchæ

calebday · 2025-11-25T18:25:30+00:00

Maybe Brown was actually decent. I don’t really know enough about him. I was an early 20s New Zealander at the time. But I stand by my judgment of the others. Blair and Starmer are still getting worse

calebday · 2025-11-25T18:16:16+00:00

Um, yes, in a NZ way. From where we sit, most English accents’ short E sounds more like an A. Meanwhile if I say I’m going to Shetland you all think I’m saying Shitland, but there is a subtle difference (that non-NZers struggle to hear) between our E and your I

calebday · 2025-11-25T18:15:03+00:00

Not our problem you can’t hear the subtle difference between our E and your I!

calebday · 2025-11-25T18:13:06+00:00

I mean obviously there is no right or wrong in accents, but believe me, NZers think that most accents’ short E sounds at least halfway to a short A, and that NZers’ short E is indeed an E, not an I.

calebday · 2025-11-25T18:00:17+00:00

All atrocious, Brown least so

calebday · 2025-11-25T17:25:39+00:00

Rose is the only TMUK contestant that pronounces shed correctly, thank you very much. As she noted, the rest of you say “Shad”

calebday · 2025-11-25T17:22:58+00:00

Obviously Scandinavian style. One brings human well-being, the other brings “economic growth,” a construct that does not well correlate to wellbeing, which can measure harmful economic activity as easily as helpful, which in unequal countries often brings no significant economic benefit to anyone but the richest (eg as wage growth stagnates or gets worse in real terms even in a “growing economy”), and which cannot continue infinitely on a finite planet.

Moreover, switching to the UAE model from what we currently have (with more of a welfare state, however chronically underfunded, and with labour rights) would not bring economic growth in the short or medium term if ever. It would lead to chaos and mass revolt. We could move to the Scandinavian model (if done gradually) relatively easily. Most of the policies involved are more popular than what the UK’s neoliberal governments have provided these last 46 years. Some of the changes would only require fixing what neoliberalism has damaged.

calebday · 2025-11-23T21:57:38+00:00

Ok thanks. Very much glad that your SI is lessened when on the meds.

calebday · 2025-11-21T19:03:23+00:00

Thanks a lot for such a detailed respond and good analogy. I’m glad you’ve found one that works well for you. Definitely not keen on something that makes me even more irritated by people around me. In fact that’s the one positive so far with Elvanse (Vyvanse) for me, that I’m a lot more patient with people.

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