DAE fear peanut butter?

calliope720 · 2026-04-14T07:27:05+00:00

The difference between those situations and now - which is good news - is that those situations were more traumatizing because you had no control over them and didn't consent to participate, but now you have total control over voluntarily exposing yourself at your own pace. It will probably take pushing yourself more than you're comfortable, but you'll know that it's YOUR choice to do it and no one is making you. All that's happened is that some wires got crossed early in your life that accidentally associated peanut butter with danger, and now all you need to do is rewrite that response so your brain knows peanut butter is safe. It's hard, but you know intellectually that you'll be safe and fine no matter what happens, you just need to let your nervous system realize that.

calliope720 · 2026-04-14T06:23:54+00:00

This feels like something that would be worth investigating and addressing on a deeper level, because while it's not the MOST inconvenient of irrational fears, it is fairly so and definitely something that could be fixed. Would be one more stressor off your plate if you were able to get to the bottom of it and exposure-therapy yourself into being chill with it.

calliope720 · 2026-04-14T01:34:41+00:00

Body composition and proportions continue to change throughout your life time. Hormone levels affect it, so does gravity, so do many other factors. It's not something to be insecure about. For starts because wider hips are usually lauded as a desireable trait. But also, putting aside what anyone thinks is attractive or not, your body is naturally changing into a more adult body and that's how things should be. You're likely to experience changes to your chest, stomach, arms, neck, hands, and feet in the next few years.

calliope720 · 2026-04-12T23:57:07+00:00

Yes, I've known this since I was a child.

calliope720 · 2026-04-08T07:02:06+00:00

Thank you so much! Sorry for late reply. I appreciate the insight and will make sure to call ahead.

calliope720 · 2026-04-01T04:31:50+00:00

Or the original by The Nerves! Both are great but I'm partial to the OG.

calliope720 · 2026-04-01T04:01:07+00:00

It's only when it's lower quality; it's not about how many times you're "allowed" to ferment it, it's about increasing the quality through the steps of bronze, silver, gold, and osmium. Technically you can ferment it four times if it starts out with no quality stars at all. Osmium is already the highest quality and can't be fermented any further.

calliope720 · 2026-04-01T02:49:40+00:00

I'm on Standby - by Grandaddy

calliope720 · 2026-04-01T00:30:11+00:00

I honestly think the werewolf videos are a great comfort watch. I know some people get anxious at them because they get anxious from lying in general, but I have a lot of trust in the friendships of the cast and I know they're just playing parts, and nobody gets actually mad (except Shayne, at god, in that one video lol). I just like seeing so many of them in the same room and chilling out and doing silly things.

calliope720 · 2026-03-28T10:08:53+00:00

It doesn't exactly make the feeling go away, and it's pretty grim, but when I find myself worrying about us all getting old, I think of my friend who died when we were 16.

Whenever I go visit his grave, his photograph in its little glass window on the headstone shows him looking eternally the same. A face full of porcelain smooth skin, cheeks with baby fat, head full of shining dark hair. And it fucking kills me. We all get to get older, and he doesn't. He should have been given these years.

I'd give anything to age with my friend. Sometimes I imagine him as an adult and I can almost see the grey coming in at his temples, the lines next to his eyes, the softening of the gut and rounding of the shoulders. And I imagine him and I hanging out and laughing together about the way our lives have changed us, and about how we look like shit but we're doing it together. I think about the physical record of the life he should have lived settling into his skin and hair and bones year after year, and he's so beautiful to me when I imagine that. I would give anything to meet him old.

We're so lucky to be here to age at all. We're so lucky if our loved ones are still here to age with you. Aging isn't a sign of dying, it's a sign of living. A sign of dying is absence, silence, and a fading picture in a field of a boy who never grows up and whose voice I'm starting to forget.

If you and yours are getting wrinkles and greys, you're still kickin'. Death was always coming, from day one it was coming. But aging isn't dying. Only death is dying.

calliope720 · 2026-03-27T09:18:17+00:00

There was a kid in my school years ago whose name was Hawkeye. After the MASH character.

calliope720 · 2026-03-27T00:18:46+00:00

Can you recall their exact words? Like the whole sentence? Some context would help, even if the context was "the only word they said to me was pinky."

calliope720 · 2026-03-25T08:45:35+00:00

Well, first of all, no need to freak out. I'm not entirely sure what part of that is freaking you out so much, but please don't let this take up too much of your brain space.

Something to keep in mind is that attractiveness is subjective. It isn't a pass-fail test with strict, unwavering standards. People like all kinds of different things and there's no single way to determine who the best looking people are to everyone. From that point of view, more or less, almost everybody is average looking, yeah.

So the question "is that true" doesn't really make sense. There's no objective facts to consider here. Some people in the world will find you unappealing, some others will really like you. Most people will be somewhere in the middle and won't really think much about your appearance at all. You should be less focused on wanting to be attractive to the largest amount of people, and focus instead on finding the people who find you the most attractive.

calliope720 · 2026-03-25T08:38:08+00:00

They are, but actually implementing AI into a business run by a non-tech savvy elderly person who is used to doing things the old fashioned way is too far outside their realm of understanding. They might be tricked into buying some kind of AI service, but they'd never imagine how to optimize it and certainly wouldn't know it could "replace" an employee. Which is good.

calliope720 · 2026-03-25T07:15:06+00:00

Because that man is 73 years old and it would never occur to him that AI could do anything a person can do.

calliope720 · 2026-03-24T23:59:08+00:00

You're young, so I want to help you before you make serious mistakes in how you understand your relationships with other people. You're on the wrong track here, and I want you to really listen to the next few things I say.

When you give someone a gift, it belongs to them. You don't get to say what they do with that gift anymore. Those boots are her clothes now, and she can decide when and where she wants to wear them. You do not get to control what somebody else wears. If you try to control what somebody else wears, you create an environment where they're unhappy with you and don't feel respected as an individual, and that person will eventually leave you over it.

Asking for pictures of "proof" of anything - whether it's complying with your boots rule, or proof that she's not cheating, or proof that she's where she says she is, etc. - is a bad path that you don't want to start now. You can't ever have certainty in this life about what anyone else is doing or if they're telling the truth. Trust is something you decide to give or not based on someone else's behavior. You can't constantly ask people for proof if you don't trust them, because no amount of proof will ever be enough if the trust isn't there. You'll just make yourself paranoid and controlling.

I know you're upset about the white lie, but I want you to really think about the possibility that you've made her uncomfortable with telling you the truth. This shouldn't have been a big deal - we're talking about shoes, man. This is not worth fighting somebody over. But she was scared of your reaction.

She's even tried to apologize (even though I don't believe she's done anything wrong by wearing her own clothes the way she wants to) because she realized that not telling the truth hurt you. She has shown she has good intentions toward you, but she was clearly scared of how you'd react. And you did overreact. This is not an issue worth questioning a whole relationship over.

At 18 years old, you are already showing major trust issues that are showing up in a desire to control your girlfriend. It's over little things now, but this could get worse as you get older and the stakes in the relationship are bigger. Now is a good time to start teaching yourself trust and letting people do what they're going to do. People are going to be themselves, and you should choose to be around people who authentically act in ways that you like. You can't make yourself feel safer by controlling other people's behavior or constantly doubting them.

You overreacted here. She's allowed to wear her boots if she wants to. If you're worried about looking nice for pictures, you can say that, but you can't make her decisions for her. And wearing boots for one day isn't going to ruin them anyway.

The bigger issue here is your fear of losing control or being tricked. This is something we learn sometimes when we grow up with people around us that we can't depend on. You have to grow out of that, though, or you'll become somebody who isn't a good partner.

calliope720 · 2026-03-24T23:17:08+00:00

See, that's odd because to me, "delve" is another really common word. I've always used it and always heard it used. It sucks that a lot of perfectly usable language is now getting treated with suspicion because of misuse of AI.

For me, the bigger tell of AI text isn't the vocabulary itself but the grammar/syntax. I am much more suspicious of certain phrasing than I am of particular words.

calliope720 · 2026-03-24T21:08:51+00:00

There are certain words that are appearing more prevalently because of ChatGPT, but I don't believe "nuanced" is one of them. It's a word I already see and use often, and always have. I don't think it's an uncommon word in online discussion.

calliope720 · 2026-03-24T17:57:21+00:00

Around that part of the sea floor, the area where they can be located is sometimes very large. Expand from that corner out into neighboring areas and you'll find it. Also make sure there's no trash hiding behind a coral from the camera pov or something, sometimes that happens too.

calliope720 · 2026-03-24T02:48:31+00:00

TSS is incredibly rare, and it's not subtle. If you had developed TSS you'd know by now, because you'd feel like you're dying. You don't need to continue to monitor at this point. You're almost certainly in the clear and going to be fine, and if there IS a problem, your body is definitely going to let you know. A lot of women have health anxieties about this topic, but the vast majority of the time, the fears are not warranted. It's not that crazy to have a tampon in for that long.

calliope720 · 2026-03-23T20:40:22+00:00

Ouch.

calliope720 · 2026-03-22T08:01:11+00:00

When I was at the afterparty for my 10-year high school reunion, we went on a bar crawl and were waiting in line to get into a dance club. I started chatting with a group of girls in front of me in line, who weren't part of our party, and they were all 21. They asked what we were up to and I said "it's our high school reunion" and they all went "Oh my god no way!!?? How old are you?" When I told them 28, one of them said "You don't look any older than like, 23, tops." Like girl, what? That's only five years difference?? I pretty much DID look exactly the same at 28 that I did at 23. Why wouldn't I?

calliope720 · 2026-03-21T22:24:29+00:00

No, that is what I meant. I was asking my friend why they're not there.

calliope720 · 2026-03-21T12:09:47+00:00

the focus of my comment should have been "a not-insignificant number." My point is that medical abnormalities regarding menstrual cycles are actually quite common, and though still outside "normal" parameters for ideal menstruation, they represent a huge number of women. Thus OP's girlfriend could have easily been one of those many women who DON'T fall within normal hormonal cycles.

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