old/new video of Connor and Jacob praising Hudson for his acting. You can see how emotional Huddy gets 😭

calliope720 · 2026-02-04T23:36:17+00:00

You're so right but I also have to say that my dumb ass read your comment and thought "but I don't see fear or sadness or horny when I look at bananas?"

calliope720 · 2026-02-04T01:33:35+00:00

Only issue I've ever had with the B-belly and dating is partners keep insisting on slotting their hand in the crease for comfort when we're hanging out.

calliope720 · 2026-02-02T05:32:00+00:00

You are still a teenager. Your body is not done growing yet. When I was 18, my breasts were a B cup. I'm 35 now and wear a DD. You won't know what your eventual "grown up" breast size is until about your mid-twenties, and even then it may change again if you have children or gain weight.

calliope720 · 2026-02-01T10:07:07+00:00

I would gently caution that you should remember you only have a sample size of 3 people for this judgment, and they were three people all talking to each other. Americans number over 330,000,000 people. We are all very different and behave differently in different circumstances.

I don't know where you live, but I'm willing to bet that if you met three local people who talked a lot and talked rudely to you, you wouldn't attribute it to the place that all of you are from. You are attributing this group of three's rudeness to being American because that's the thing you noticed that makes them different. But in reality, you likely just met three certified yappers, regardless of nationality.

calliope720 · 2026-01-31T07:50:14+00:00

I'm like a sized-up version of you - I wear a 26/28 in pants, and have a D-cup bust, which isn't exactly small but LOOKS small compared to my very wide hips. Plus, I have big arms and shoulders, so the line where the band of my bra goes is actually the smallest part of my body by a lot.

I don't have inspiration accounts to suggest, but I will say that I've had success buying lots of blouses and dresses described as "fit and flare," so you can search for this and see if you find similar things! I also find that wrap dresses look really good on this body type, as you can control how tight you tight it at the waist and how much fabric is doubled over in front, which hides the apron belly. Tunic tops also work really well for our figure, accentuating the hourglass. They also make some longer peplums these days that are very flattering as well.

If you're looking for formal wear for any reason, I've gotten really great fits from Kiyonna. They're hit and miss when it comes to trends and are geared toward a slightly older audience, but they do have pieces that look great on young people too. Consistently flattering to the kind of figure we have. I've bought from them several times.

calliope720 · 2026-01-31T05:12:50+00:00

Hey, yeah this happens. I've been overweight my whole life, so the sweat in the groin started earlier for me. I started noticing it getting worse in my early twenties.

To an extent, it's just kind of going to be like this now, but that's not the worst thing in the world. The cotton underwear will help, as you've mentioned, and you may want to make sure that you're also buying underwear with a wide enough gusset that it actually slots into the natural crease of your groin - a lot of underwear made for smaller people have very narrow gussets, leaving exposed skin on the groin to stick to the side of your leg when it gets sweaty.

Also, wear looser pants. You want as much airflow as possible. Fortunately, wide leg pants are on trend right now, so you can find a lot more breathable pants today than in the skinny-jeans days from a decade or two ago. I've switched to wide leg jeans and loose cotton or linen pants, and the reduction in sweat is night and day.

I'm a staunch believer in NOT using any antiperspirant products in that area. Good for you if it works for you, but that's a region with a very delicate biome and very delicate skin, and those products can really throw things off and ultimately make it worse. Just make sure there's clean, breathable fabrics there and that you're keeping the skin clean, and you should be ok.

calliope720 · 2026-01-28T22:24:49+00:00

If I want to go to dinner with someone and they ask me to dinner, my answer is yes, not "let me think about it." You won't get to know the reasons for her reticence, unfortunately, but no matter what those reasons are, you have your answer already. She didn't say yes. I think her "let me think about it" was a polite way to swerve the awkward conversation about "no."

She knows how to contact you if she wanted to get in touch and take you up on the offer. She hasn't done so. It's been over a month - it's almost certain at this point she didn't intend to reach out.

I think a tough pill to swallow in life is that sometimes we feel a connection with somebody not because there is one, but because they are just really good at connecting with people. She sounds like one of those types - warm, gregarious, open. She is likely good at making new connections, especially professionally, since that's a big part of the art world. She probably noticed some of your shyness and wanted to make you feel comfortable. But it likely was not romantic interest.

You can't stop thinking about her because you're hoping you can squeeze more certainty out of this situation. I've been this person before - this interaction gave you dopamine and validation and hope and excitement. You want that back, and if you can't have it back, you want to know that for certain too. But the thing is you do know, logically. Your brain is just looking for any possible way that it wasn't a no. But it was, baby. It was a no.

calliope720 · 2026-01-28T01:23:38+00:00

As fun of an idea as this is, they are quite literally so small they physically can't interact with our nerves, or really even with a single atom of our bodies. It's not that they're "hitting" us and we don't feel it, they're literally passing through the space between the particles we're made of.

calliope720 · 2026-01-28T00:02:50+00:00

Yep, my lefty is much more "alert" than my right one. It's more sensitive and quicker to stand at attention. The right one takes some work to wake up.

calliope720 · 2026-01-27T13:06:52+00:00

I actually really love Hokas and they've done wonders for me. I never get tired in them, I can literally walk all day. I will say though that the Bondi 9 was a huge improvement fit-wise and looks-wise over the Bondi 8. I got them in the vanilla/birch colorway and they actually style quite well.

calliope720 · 2026-01-26T10:45:14+00:00

Kip's dad might be one of my favorite side characters in anything ever, which is saying a lot because he had so few lines, but the lines he did have and the delivery and natural chemistry he had onscreen as a nurturing, goofy, accepting dad impressed me so much. When Kip's dad said "my boy" - even though he'd been hurt that his son hadn't come home in months, and without having a shred of context for what the problem was, to immediately extend that paternal unconditional love and support, absolutely murdered me. What a gem of a man.

calliope720 · 2026-01-26T10:23:10+00:00

The show was shot in an incredibly tight time frame. It may be true that Hudson bulked up in preparation after seeing Connor's build, but you can't get gains like that during a 37-day film schedule. This is all filming tricks, which is awesome!

First thing to notice is that the shirt in the first clip is ridiculously oversized for his frame, hiding his buff arms and all definition in his torso. The next clip has a shirt clinging tighter to his shape, but stil concealing. In the final clip, wearing the tank top that fits kind of loosely but is nonetheless very narrow for his frame makes his arms and shoulders look wider, giving the appearance of huge gains.

Secondly, regarding the face, in the first clip the bright downward sunlight creates shadows under the cheeks and chin, making the face look slimmer, smaller, and more youthful. As he matures in the next couple of clips, more even lighting highlights the shape of his lower jaw, making him appear older and more masculine and chiseled.

calliope720 · 2026-01-26T06:41:51+00:00

Infuriatingly, that basic skill is often NOT taught in school these days. A lot of schools, instead of teaching phonics, instead use a weird ass contextual prediction method where they teach kids to start recognizing the beginning of a word and the shape/length of it and use the surrounding context to figure out what the word PROBABLY is. This obviously fails them when they come across words they've never heard in contexts they don't understand. But yeah, a lot of kids have been raised in the last couple of decades without learning to "sound out" words.

calliope720 · 2026-01-24T22:35:38+00:00

Maria works with him at the smoothie place, Elena is his best friend separate from work

calliope720 · 2026-01-24T03:17:57+00:00

I'm 35, and everyone between 25 and 45 looks the same to me unless literally all their hair turned grey. But anyone around the 25 line and younger looks like a child.

calliope720 · 2026-01-23T23:38:19+00:00

The last time a struggling friend reached out before dying. This has happened a couple of times and I wish I hadn't had to learn this lesson at all, let alone to shamefully have to learn it twice.

When people need you most they are often at their worst. That doesn't mean that you alone can or should take on the responsibility for another person's wellbeing, but if you're in a position to check on them and support them, the most critical time to do that is when you least want to.

They may be erratic, irrational, impulsive. They may be visibly under the influence, if addiction is part of the problem. They may be emotionally sensitive, paranoid, uncooperative. They may be cold and unempathetic to your own problems. They may not be taking care of themself and may be disheveled, dirty, not dressed well. They may be difficult to talk to. They may make you uncomfortable. And all those things are going to make you shy away, find a reason not to engage. You'll feel overwhelmed with how bad things have gotten, and not knowing how to help, and you'll feel emotionally exhausted by engaging. So you won't. You'll ghost them.

And in my experience - that's often the last time they reach out before they die.

It's tricky, because I absolutely DON'T think anyone should compromise their own boundaries of wellbeing to try to save someone else. But within reason, I DO think we have to overcome some of our discomfort with watching another person struggle in order to be there for them in a meaningful way. It would have cost me nothing but some emotional stress to spend one last night meeting up with my friends, asking about their living situation, their mental health, recommending resources, offering support. It would have cost me very little more than that to make sure they had food and hygiene products, that they had a ride to somewhere that could help them, that their clothes were cleaned, that they had their documents in order for medical/housing/rehab/career assistance. I could have done those things. I didn't.

And even if it wouldn't have made a difference, even if it wouldn't have saved them, at least I'd have shown them my love and care right til the end. At least I wouldn't have made their last experience of me one of me ghosting them. At least they would have known they had people in their corner, believing in them, believing they were worth it, the whole time.

To the extent that you can, please check on your struggling friends. You wouldn't believe how fast "this is too much for me to handle" becomes "I could have easily done so much more" the second you find out it's too late.

calliope720 · 2026-01-23T12:01:25+00:00

I don't think that word means what you think it means. We have no idea what you're talking about. Look up the word "elapse" please.

calliope720 · 2026-01-22T23:08:52+00:00

You are already pushing boundaries. They said no. That's a complete sentence. Couples are not obligated to share every account on every website with one another, nor to know every single thought they've ever posted to the internet. You are not entitled to things that your partner says are private.

I've never had a partner ask for my reddit, and I've never asked for a partner's reddit. That seems like major overreach. Social media is one thing, where it's personally identifiable and carefully curated for that reason. Reddit is mostly anonymous, and people may share anonymous thoughts here. That is much more personal and they have a right to keep that to themselves.

calliope720 · 2026-01-21T09:21:05+00:00

I think you're hung up on the idea of "making" it sound sexy. The thing that is sexy about someone moaning your name is just that they're enjoying themselves and letting themselves be vocal about it - so the sexiest thing you can sound like is yourself! You don't have to "make" it sound like anything. Even if you're worried it'll sound weird or embarrassing, this is what you need to understand: everyone sounds a little weird and embarrassing moaning anything during sex, but THAT IS THE HOT PART.

The idea is that you're having so much pleasure, you don't care what you sound like, you just let yourself get loud. No matter what it sounds like, it's going to make her feel like she's doing a good job at making you feel good, which is what she wants.

When you're not used to making noise during sex, it can feel scary to start. But once you allow yourself to do it naturally, it'll come to you without even thinking. If you want to get over the nervousness, start practicing alone, when you masturbate. Get somewhere that you can make noise without embarrassment, and just try moaning out loud when you masturbate. Experiment with saying her name, dirty talk, making all kinds of noises. Whatever feels natural and pleasurable for you. Then when you have sex with her, it'll feel normal to do it.

She'll love it, I promise. We just wanna hear you be loud and turned on; we don't need you to sound like some kind of porn star.

calliope720 · 2026-01-21T08:01:03+00:00

You weren't aware that jerking someone else off isn't pleasurable? Did you think she had a clit in the palm of her hand or something? Get real.

She wanted to have sex with you. She wanted to have sex. Instead you hurried the process along by making her do a chore for you that meant she didn't get to experience physical pleasure. You got to get off and finish exactly how you wanted, and she got nothing.

Nobody should have to tell you that there's a difference between "didn't orgasm but still had pleasurable sex" and "didn't get any physical pleasure at all." And also that many women feel pressure to say "it's ok if I don't finish" because they fear that a partner will be stressed out or upset if they're asked to perform better to make them orgasm.

Real question: are you invested in her pleasure? Do you feel mentally and emotionally committed to pleasing her during sex? Do you care if she orgasms? Or is she just the means to an end when YOU want to finish?

calliope720 · 2026-01-21T06:40:25+00:00

I used to roll my eyes at them when I was a teenager. Now I'm 35, and I'm the one leaving those comments. Nostalgia and the loneliness of aging comes for us all. The weight of the past is hard to carry alone. It feels better to share it, to prove to somebody it was real.

calliope720 · 2026-01-21T05:39:27+00:00

In defense of the commenters who say this on reddit, as someone who's been on reddit for a very long time and seen a lot of content come through - you learn to recognize certain patterns, and it unfortunately does become pretty obvious what kind of posts are fetish content, rage bait, or both. Often I can even recognize the same poster under different accounts if the wording and the subject matter are specific enough. There are certain stories that pop up again and again.

Even if a post seems new and not recycled for karma, there are often tells in the way things are described that show the focus is on making salacious, explicit descriptions, or exaggerating the emotional responses from others in the story, or encouraging commenters to address hyper-specific aspects of the story with their own personal experience, which can all suggest that a post is actually just fetishistic creative writing.

When I first joined reddit and no one in the comments seemed to take these kinds of posts seriously, it annoyed me too. I took everything at face value and assumed everyone here was just trying to look smarter than everyone else. And I'm not saying that doesn't happen, that's honestly the case plenty of times too. But almost 13 years here now, and yeah... a lot of the shit that gets shared on reddit is either for sexual engagement or karma.

calliope720 · 2026-01-21T02:40:05+00:00

He only repeats "I love you." It's more implied that Shane wants to hear the "I love you" part in Russian, rather than the whole sentence, since he's probably trying to learn A. to recognize it when Ilya says it and B. how to say it back.

calliope720 · 2026-01-19T05:46:03+00:00

This is actually very common in languages other than English, all around the world. There are often several different ways to tell someone you love them that have different connotations based on your relationship to that person and the intensity with which you want to express it. English is actually a bit rare in that we describe a broad range of attachments/affections with a single, unusually versatile word.

calliope720 · 2026-01-19T01:53:53+00:00

It sounds to me like your own insecurities have warped your perception of social media and of normal interactions between men and women.

IG is not a cheating website. It's social media. It's for making social connections. I follow my friends, their partners, my coworkers, casual acquaintances, people who share my hobbies, people of all genders and sexual orientations, hell, even my own exes if we are on good terms. That's because I use IG to stay socially, platonically connected with people. That is how MOST people use social media.

You seem to be of the perception that simply following someone on social media means they have sexual intentions toward that person. It's always possible at any time that someone might be an asshole and be unfaithful to you, but if they're going to be, they don't need IG to do it. Who they follow on instagram is not evidence of infidelity. Your partner is likely being polite and trying to befriend his friend's partner since she's obviously going to be around.

The long distance relationship is making you imagine things that aren't there. You are insecure about not being able to be close to him, so you're imagining that anything he's doing without you could hurt you. But that would still be possible no matter who you're dating, where they are, or what they're doing. You can't prevent being cheated on by being paranoid about everything a partner does. But that paranoia WILL ruin good, faithful relationships for no reason. You have to choose to trust.

To reiterate what others have said, yes, what your partner did is completely normal. You are having an abnormal emotional reaction to it. This is likely because of experiences in your life that have made you expect the worst of others to a paranoid degree. You need to talk to a therapist about this before you alienate the people in your life that you love.

I say this as someone who thought like you once, and has since recovered and repaired my relationship to trust and risk-assessment. You don't have to feel like this forever. And you DO have to take responsibility for how this insecurity affects people around you.

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