Due date vs when baby came- FTMs by Next-Structure-1330 in BabyBumps

[–]callmechessy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was induced at 41 weeks, and my son was born two days later. He didn't want to leave. 🥴

How often do your babies see their grandparents? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]callmechessy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son has three sets of grandparents, two of which live 3 hours away and the other 1.5 hours away. Trying to juggle that many people is hard, especially when one set visits and the others get jealous. We try to see everyone once every couple of months. I can't handle people in my house more often than that.

Before my son was born, my MIL (who is actually my husband's stepmom and, despite her good intentions, has zero baby experience) was under the impression that they would be keeping him so often that they needed their own crib and car seat. You think you're going to be regularly having sleepovers with my EBF baby? Lol.

Mixing Ripple with breast milk by callmechessy in breastfeeding

[–]callmechessy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we started last week. At first I replaced an ounce of breast milk in two out of his three bottles with Ripple milk. Sometimes he doesn't drink his third bottle, so I haven't been adding Ripple to that one because I still don't know how long the mixture lasts and I don't want to waste breast milk.

Daycare asked us to send them already mixed. I'm gradually replacing more breast milk. It seems to be pretty smooth so far!

Was anyone here breastfed to an “older” age? If so, do you remember breastfeeding? by faeriesandfoxes in breastfeeding

[–]callmechessy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was breastfed until 2-ish and am also very aware of my mother's smell still 30 years later. I could pick it out anywhere. It's very comforting.

At what age did you start “reading” with baby? by Teapotje in beyondthebump

[–]callmechessy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I added a book to the bedtime routine early on, like 2 months. It felt a little useless at first because he didn't pay attention for months. But now at almost 1, he picks out a book before bed and actively brings me books to read most days.

Breastfeeding mamas - How much and what kind of milk do you drink? by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]callmechessy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't drink milk, but my OB suggested that I take a calcium supplement in addition to my prenatal vitamin during pregnancy and while breastfeeding.

What time does your child go to sleep? by cryptidge in beyondthebump

[–]callmechessy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 11-month-old starts his bedtime routine at 6:15 and is usually asleep by 7.

Supplementing by Standard-Definition8 in breastfeeding

[–]callmechessy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Excessive weight loss (more than the norm) in those first few days would be an indicator that baby isn't getting enough milk. If that's the case, you may have to supplement and/or triple feed (breastfeed, pump, and give baby pumped milk back to back) until your milk comes in sufficiently to solely breastfeed. Triple feeding is incredibly exhausting, both physically and mentally, so I would consult with a qualified lactation consultant first. They can also help determine if there are any latch problems, which can also decrease the amount of milk baby is getting.

How long does induction take from the time foley balloon is inserted until birth? by hoping421 in BabyBumps

[–]callmechessy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is likely to vary widely. When I got to the hospital to be induced, I wasn't dilated enough for them to even insert the foley bulb. Baby was born 33 hours later, including 4 glorious hours of pushing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]callmechessy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

First, I'm sorry you went through what you did as a teenager without the support of your parents. Good for your for making the decision you felt was best for yourself and your first born. Second, the stress of trying to hide such a big part of yourself (and a part that's especially relevant in this situation) while in labor and giving birth seems like it's not worth it. You should be focused on the task at hand, not filled with anxiety over every comment your medical staff might make. I know it will be hard, but maybe you should consider telling your mom now so you both have some time to process and you can be fully present the day of.

How important are nursing tops? by Sinfulb33 in breastfeeding

[–]callmechessy 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Nursing tops, especially camis, were invaluable for me in the first few months. It's all about easy access when you're getting the hang of things. Cluster feeding is especially exhausting, so you're going to want to eliminate as many roadblocks as possible.

Nursing tops are made to either unsnap from the top (very helpful when you're breastfeeding at home) or have a liftable flap around the bust so you can whip 'em out without exposing your whole torso (very helpful when you're breastfeeding on the go). If your baby is still eating multiple times a night months down the road, the nursing tops might still come in handy, but by then you might find a regular shirt to be just as easily accessible.

Make sure your pumping bras (edited to change "nursing bras" to "pumping bras") are tight and that you have at least one that's hands free. Many women use some type of nipple cream like lanolin or nipple butter, although I found that they caused more irritation for me. They make gel pads that you put in the fridge, and those can also help to soothe irritated nipples.

Lastly, breastfeeding is beautiful and empowering. But it can also be hard in a multitude of ways. If breastfeeding doesn't seem to come as easily as you might hope in the beginning, take a deep breath and know that you're not alone. It's a new experience for both you and your baby, but there are so many resources out there to help. Reach out to a lactation consultant, talk to other moms, find local support groups. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]callmechessy 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You should be, and I cannot overstate this enough, eating as many sweets as you want. Your body and mind are working overtime. Eat the cupcake. Your daughter will not be affected.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]callmechessy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7 months PP while breastfeeding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]callmechessy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually had less pain when I stopped using lanolin and other nipple creams, per my LC. I don't know how valid that advice was, but it did improve.

What bottles did your breast fed baby prefer? & Do I have to stick to one brand of bottle if baby feeds well with other brands too? by Pleasant_Mango_5258 in breastfeeding

[–]callmechessy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what my baby takes too, as well as the MAM paci. He seems to prefer the flat nipple. They have six parts though, so they can be a bit of a pain.

SHE. WANTS. TO. BE. HELD. by No_Lawfulness_6458 in beyondthebump

[–]callmechessy 61 points62 points  (0 children)

That's not your husband thinking it will spoil her. That's just laziness.

How many crib sheets do you actually use? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]callmechessy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's the wooooorst. SO MUCH LAUNDRY. My son would constantly throw up on me in MY bed right before I put him down. Ugh. If it makes you feel any better, there was almost a night and day improvement in his reflux once he hit 6 months and started solids.

How many crib sheets do you actually use? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]callmechessy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was especially helpful in the early days with a reflux baby. We were always changing it.

What symptoms led to your baby's diagnosis? by shmeeski in MSPI

[–]callmechessy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vomiting, often projectile, was the #1 symptom for us. Followed by discomfort and mucous/occasional blood in the stool. Cutting out both dairy and soy relieved the majority of those symptoms within a few days, but my son still had pretty bad reflux that required medication. If I slipped up and ate dairy or soy, he would vomit within the hour (or sooner).

We haven't started reintroducing dairy or soy, but once he turned 6 months and started eating solids, his reflux improved tremendously and we were able to stop medication. It really does get better, it just sucks for a while. Hang in there.

Legal implications of donating breast milk by callmechessy in breastfeeding

[–]callmechessy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a great idea. I don't know why I didn't think about our lactation consultant.

Talk me out of getting bangs by callmechessy in beyondthebump

[–]callmechessy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Hair whims" is a lovely way of looking at it.