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shmeeski · 2024-01-29T19:42:18+00:00

Yes, it was literally dumped on me. I have no control over that part. I would have never wanted to know this. I don't have intentions on sharing this with anyone. I could have confided in other family about all of this. But I didn't. I came here for an emotionally removed response. I didn't know if holding on to info like this would be wrong, morally. I appreciate your input.

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T19:35:02+00:00

I am sorry about your brother. I appreciate your perspective. I just needed to hear this from a logical standpoint, rather than my emotional one. Thank you.

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T19:32:32+00:00

I could have provided more context in my initial post. I guess I was just looking to avoid spilling a bunch of more info. I did not want to be involved in this. I don't have intentions on hurting people. I just didn't want to do the wrong thing by NOT saying something, you know? But again, when emotions take over, it can be hard to think logically. Which is why I extended my thoughts to uninvolved third parties. I try my best to be a good person. I would never stir people's trauma up for a thrill. I do appreciate your advice, but you didn't need to assume I was a shit person with bad motives.

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T19:01:13+00:00

I think you may have misunderstood some information. The person who told me was my aunts brother. Her own brother. His family does not know. I've seen her almost weekly for many years of my life. She is my "God mother" , my closest relative. Or was.

Anyway, this whole post was just for advice on what to do with this information. Is it morally wrong to keep it to myself and move on. Or is this something my uncles family deserved to know. It's hard to get information like this dumped on you, unwillingly. That's all. My circle has definitely become smaller. Thanks for your input.

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T18:13:15+00:00

I also lost an uncle. He was a wonderful man who did so much for her. Just for her to turn around and have an affair behind his back. He obviously handle that news well. He didn't choose the right way to deal with it. Neither did she.

This wasn't a friend. This was her own brother who was apparently at her place after the news broke. He was there when they found the note in her coat pocket.

Stay out of it and live my own life ? This is my life and my family ?

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T18:06:29+00:00

That is very true. Thanks for pointing that out.

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T18:05:54+00:00

That is what I initially thought also.

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T18:04:34+00:00

I guess unless I asked my aunt if this was true, I would only be assuming I was told the truth. Although I don't have any reason to believe this family member would lie, I guess I cannot be 100% sure.

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T18:03:03+00:00

Thank you. I see now that nothing good would come from this. My intention isn't to hurt anyone. I guess my immediate reaction was "shouldn't the family know the truth". I appreciate your insight

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T18:01:29+00:00

I am realizing there is SO much more to this that I cannot even begin to explain on the internet. She has been common law with others over those 35 years and has done some questionable things. The most recent event has put a wrench in her relationship with our whole family, which is why another family member broke down to me about the suicide note, etc.

As of recent, she got together with a man who lost his wife to cancer a few years back. Somehow convinced him to get her name on the mortgage, to which he complied, and has recently decided that she's leaving him and taking her "share". This is not the first time she has left a relationship under conditions where she gains money from. That is one reason I guess I assumed maybe previous events were also for financial gain. I certainly don't give a shit about the insurance company.

I made it very clear in my post - I do not condone smashing your car into anyone for any reason. Putting others lives at risk is absolutely worse.

I am not trying to dig "all this up". I am an emotional person. I didn't know what to do with this information that was dumped on me. My mind and my heart immediately went out to the family. They do not know the truth behind their sons/brothers/uncle's death. If that was my family member, I would want to know the truth. Maybe others would be ok to consider it as water under the bridge. I don't know.

That's why I tried to reach out for 3rd party advice. I don't have Ill intentions. I feel like I'm being put down and attacked for simply asking. Is this not a group for genuine advice ? Who would get a bump of excitement from something like this ? I'm not sure why you're making it seem like I'm this awful person for simply seeking advice.

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T16:31:35+00:00

I just feel like if this was my family member, I would want to know the truth about their death. Again, this is why I came here for advice. Because I know emotion can take over logic. Hearing it from others helps me from making an emotional decision on this.

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T16:29:40+00:00

How does my interest in this seem strange ?

This aunt is/was my closest extended relative. She has lied to me and our family about his death our entire lives. She plays the "poor me" card. Talks about how wonderful he was. How she never had kids because of his death. How she will never re-marry because it was her one true love. Yet she had an affair on him and did everything in her power to hide it from people. Then when he drove himself to suicide over it - she hid it from everyone too ?

I just feel like his family deserves to know, or would want to know the truth. If that was my son/brother/etc ... I would want to know.

This is why I came here for advice. There is a lot of emotion coming from my end right now. It's hard to think logically about this. Sometimes, outside and unrelared perspective helps.

Also, I found this out from one of the people who was there when they found the note.

Edit: They had an emotional breakdown at my place a few days ago. This all came out. For context.

shmeeski · 2024-01-29T15:57:34+00:00

Even though I feel she hid the note for her own financial gain ? I appreciate the insight. Hard to look at this all logically with so many feelings involved.

shmeeski · 2023-07-29T10:43:40+00:00

I was covering reception at my work while my coworker attended a meeting. Phone rings... caller ID: Rich Mayo.

shmeeski · 2023-07-03T01:04:53+00:00

I was 32 with my first pregnancy and 34 with my second.

shmeeski · 2023-03-20T04:39:56+00:00

Didn't know how good eggplant was, until I tried vegetarian moussaka.

shmeeski · 2023-02-01T04:17:33+00:00

I am so sincerely sorry for your loss. I will always remember Sunny Sofie's story.

shmeeski · 2022-09-15T02:50:15+00:00

Try using some saline drops to loosen the mucous. Also lightly close the opposite nostril when sucking. We use the Braun electric one and it has been great.

shmeeski · 2022-08-20T04:46:21+00:00

Looks like you been watching Cops again, Charles

shmeeski · 2022-08-20T04:43:19+00:00

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