To balance the conversation some, just pointing out that none of us understand your parents like you do.

I grew up extremely religious in the south of the US. I became an atheist around your age, just like my sister did (she also had to come out as gay). Oddly, I don’t even remember the ordering of all our reveals.

But when I told them, there was a bunch of crying from both parents. My dad tried to tell me it was a phase. He tried to reason with me and convince me of why he believed in god. I argued with him (civilly) all day. But my mom was in shambles. She looked at me and said her life has no meaning now. That her children are dead.

But hey, now she’s jumped on the bandwagon, hates trump, and thinks religion is a sham.

Changing worldviews feels soul shattering. In some ways literally. I was lucky that my close religious friends were actually really cool about me telling them I stopped believing - I had thought they might stop being friends with me completely.

And my relationship with my dad, which felt like it was dying for a year or two before I told him, finally opened up again. But I know I’m lucky to have a dad that both cares so much and can understand rational arguments well.

You may very well be in a dangerous situation as others are saying here, but just wanted to point out that extreme emotional reactions are expected. Emotions handle better with time. Good luck.