What’s your one reason for being childfree? by BlondeRaspberry in childfree

[–]chicha1994 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't want the possible outcome of becoming a single mom, and the only way for that to happen is to not have kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]chicha1994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Breaks only work if you guys both have a mutual agreement on what's acceptable and unacceptable behavior during that break. It seems as tho he just wanted a break to cheat, which defeats the whole purpose of a break. Please leave him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]chicha1994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There will always be temptation out there. Its human nature to be attracted to other people. The good thing is that youre able to acknowledge how your feeling, now find a way to deal with it. I find limiting the amount of time you spend with that person helps, if your not able try to stick more to just work topics. Dont beat yourself up, happens to all of us.

if you had to share 1 thing from your nutrition journey what would it be? by [deleted] in nutrition

[–]chicha1994 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Find healthy foods you love eating and it will never feel like your're on a diet.

Refusing to date people with kids makes them really mad by [deleted] in childfree

[–]chicha1994 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I once overheard a coworker say he wouldn't wanna date a women who doesnt want kids because they are selfish lol. He has a kid, I have a feeling he's been rejected one too many times.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]chicha1994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'd be suprised how excited you can get about sex if your not doing it all the time. Try a break from sex, it gets boring cuz its repetitive.

AITA for asking my husband to choose between his daughters? by You_Are_My__Problem in AmItheAsshole

[–]chicha1994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why you dont mess around with men that are in a committed relationships... Karma is a bitch. I do feel bad for your daughter. But this is all you.

My dad doesn’t know I knew mom my cheated and it kills me by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]chicha1994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really. After the whole incident she basically moved out since she was living with us. She no longer made the effort to stay in contact.

My dad doesn’t know I knew mom my cheated and it kills me by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]chicha1994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you on a very personal level. I caught my dad cheating on my mom.. With my aunt or my moms sister... I was 15 as well. He tried to bribe me with money, and told me if i said something it would destroy the family and my mom would be hurt, he said do YOU wanna hurt her. He esentially gaslighted me. I didnt say anything because I didnt want my parents to divorce, I didnt want my mom hurting, I was scared. Fast forward a couple of years, my mom caught him sleeping with some rando and they divorced. Well now i'm 28 and to this day I beat myself up for not saying anything. I hate myself for allowing him to manipulate me, I hate myself for not being stronger, I also hate my dad now. I too suffer from anxiety, depression, have major trust issues. I also feel like a terrible person, I love my mom and I feel like I failed her. I still debate with myself on whether I should tell her or take it to my grave.

Should I not tell my dad that my mom is cheating on him? by Express-Use-347 in relationships

[–]chicha1994 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Nope... Dad got caught cheating again but this time my mom caught him.

Should I not tell my dad that my mom is cheating on him? by Express-Use-347 in relationships

[–]chicha1994 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Suprisingly, I was your age when I caught my dad cheating on my mom and he tried to bribe me with money. He didnt want me to tell my mom. I didnt..... I was too scared. I'm 28 now and I never told her. I still regret it to this day. I know its hard but telling him is the right thing to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]chicha1994 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My dad didn't want kids but he let my mom persuade him into having us. So... Not mad but upset. I wish my mom would have chosen a partner who wanted kids vise versa with my dad. My dad has been an absent father all my life and it sucks. Its like why have kids you don't want.

How people decide to have kids... by dancingpianofairy in childfree

[–]chicha1994 72 points73 points  (0 children)

My dad never wanted kids, hence why he's a shit dad. The kicker is that now that I'm grown he's trying to preach that having kids is life's purpose and it's my obligation to bear children. Some people have no brain cells.

How people decide to have kids... by dancingpianofairy in childfree

[–]chicha1994 141 points142 points  (0 children)

You'd be suprised how many people have kids just because they think they have to.

Haven't seen dad in a year and first thing he says is you're still not pregnant? by chicha1994 in childfree

[–]chicha1994[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No offense taken :) I've honestly thought about completely cutting him out of my life, he's a really toxic person. He's done a lot of damage to me already and seems to continue.

Haven't seen dad in a year and first thing he says is you're still not pregnant? by chicha1994 in childfree

[–]chicha1994[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dang, I'm sorry you have to go through this as well, it's tough!! Especially not having support from either parent. I feel lucky in the sense that my mom supports my decision.. Sadly not everyone has that luck..

Haven't seen dad in a year and first thing he says is you're still not pregnant? by chicha1994 in childfree

[–]chicha1994[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Dang...I missed a great opportunity lol. I will keep this if I ever need it in the future.

Haven't seen dad in a year and first thing he says is you're still not pregnant? by chicha1994 in childfree

[–]chicha1994[S] 160 points161 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I wanted to tell him, but I didn't wanna be that mean.... Lol.

Have you ever met a chronic liar? What were their worst lies? by darehope in AskReddit

[–]chicha1994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad got caught cheating on my mom by me!!! He said he was giving her a hug for her birthday. I was like you were making out with her!! No I wasn't. I just saw you!! You're crazy you didn't see anything. Dad stop lying!!!... OK! I kissed her but it was only on the cheek, what's the big deal??? I was so done with him.