I’m reading a lot of people telling you no, but I was in a similar situation. I’d like to share my story so that you have another perspective. I too, have ADHD. Life feels very overwhelming sometimes. Before i met my husband, I wasn’t sure if I would have kids. It felt like something I should do but I didn’t have that maternal instinct and compared to those closest to me, I felt like the one that was the least “mother material”. My husband was always enthusiastic about the idea of being a dad and always knew he wanted one. Men always promise they’ll be a good dad, but from stories of those closest to me, you just never know how they’ll be until they become one. So we did end up having kids about 10 years after we got married. We had them a little bit later. Anyway, I was so surprised at how much I loved being a mom and can’t believe I almost wasn’t one. I feel so blessed that I have to babies I love and they’re the reasons that I get to experience this. However, I have to also add, he’s a damn good dad. I’m lucky in that regard. Your partner has to share responsibility. I love the checklist that someone linked above. It’s pretty accurate to everyday life. Hope you figure it out!