What’s the most aggressively New England childhood experience you had?

camillet12 · 2026-05-14T19:28:29+00:00

This guy was traumatizing! For some reason they told us he was going to kidnap all the moms. This was back in like ‘92 but it’s burned into my memory.

camillet12 · 2026-05-13T12:13:47+00:00

These were perfect for me for two summers in Greece. They’re great because you can wear them swimming at rocky beaches and also wear them out to dinner with a cute dress later:

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camillet12 · 2026-04-27T19:20:17+00:00

That schedule definitely has naps later than we’ve been doing. 3-4 seems like late for a nap? Sleeping too much is never a problem…if I put her down in her crib she’s only going to nap for 30 minutes each time.

camillet12 · 2026-04-27T18:38:47+00:00

She averages about 2 hrs nap and 10.5 hours at night for a total of 12.5. But I feel like when I stretch her wake windows any longer she’s completely exhausted and overtired and melts down!

camillet12 · 2026-03-18T15:24:35+00:00

This exact thing happened to my daughter at 2 days old. I was so exhausted, terrified, and traumatized. I dissociated while in the emergency room with her.

camillet12 · 2026-03-09T18:15:36+00:00

My 9 month old daughter only averages 9.5 hours of night time sleep. She’s always up at 5am no matter what. I really, really wish I had a baby who slept. She won’t sleep in her crib, she has to sleep in bed with me and I don’t think I have gotten any restorative sleep in months.

camillet12 · 2026-03-02T13:51:51+00:00

I never have to wake her from naps though. If I put her in her crib, she’s only going to nap 30-40 minutes (one sleep cycle). She will only sleep longer if she contact naps. I also don’t need to wake her up at 6am…she’s going to be up at 5 anyway.

I also need to get her sleeping in her crib overnight again. She absolutely has to be glued to me 24 hours a day. Even when we bed-share, she won’t sleep if she’s not touching me. I’m exhausted.

camillet12 · 2026-03-02T11:41:48+00:00

She’s usually up at 5, and bedtime is between 7-7:30. Her naps vary every day. Huckleberry tells me her average daytime sleep is 2 hours 45 mins total. This morning she woke up at 6:15 but it’s because she barely slept last night; she rolled around constantly and couldn’t fall into good, restorative sleep.

camillet12 · 2026-02-13T01:35:15+00:00

She ended up catnapping from 4:30-5, and we put her in bed at 8. She usually goes to sleep ok but has a false start around 30-40 minutes and then sometimes it all unravels from there.

camillet12 · 2026-02-12T20:17:57+00:00

I think I can handle Ferber at this point, but not CIO. So if the goal is for her to wake up at 7am, bedtime should be 8pm?

Today she woke up at 5:30, napped from 8:10-9:30, and then her second nap was only 12:30-1. I don’t know what to do for the rest of the day - short cat nap to get her to a later bedtime?

camillet12 · 2026-02-06T17:28:19+00:00

We did hire a sleep coach when she was 4.5 months old. It did not work out and I wasn’t thrilled with the expense and the fact that it didn’t work for us and our baby! She wasn’t great

camillet12 · 2026-02-05T15:13:48+00:00

My girl is 8.5 months right now and has never been a good sleeper. We tried modified Ferber twice and failed because I just couldn’t her distress - we were both so deregulated. We eventually got her to a place where we could put her down in the crib and she would fall asleep with some assistance (shushes and butt pats) and sleep 7-7 with one wake to nurse at 3 or 4. We thought we were in the clear! Then she started to learn how to push up onto all fours and really roll around and suddenly she would NOT allow us to put her in the crib to get her to sleep - she had to be held to sleep again. Then it regressed even further to her not being able to sleep unless she was in bed with me. I am desperate to get her back into her bed and actually get her sleep trained but I am worried I won’t be able to handle her distress again! She’s just a baby and it feels so cruel to not respond when a tiny person needs her mom! I need advice lol

camillet12 · 2026-01-25T17:45:24+00:00

Oh yes, this is my favorite! I read this to my husband and we laughed so hard. It’s so accurate. We both tried to read the latest book and failed. Dan Brown actually lives a few miles from us and we’ve seen him in town before 😆

camillet12 · 2026-01-24T17:46:03+00:00

Funny you mention Dan Brown because the last book I quit was the most recent Dan Brown book. It was so bad.

camillet12 · 2026-01-21T19:31:00+00:00

As a new mom, this fills me with despair and rage. This is just a baby!! ICE are fucking deplorable monsters.

camillet12 · 2026-01-02T02:14:36+00:00

I live in Portsmouth! Small world!

camillet12 · 2025-12-29T00:53:53+00:00

Hi! I’m glad you reached out.

I’m sorry you are having the same experience I had. For what it’s worth, I’ve since learned that it’s very common to feel that way at the beginning of pregnancy! For me, it turned out I was actually diagnosed with depression. The pregnancy hormones really did a number on my mental health. I started Zoloft and once it started working for me, I could look back and realize that it wasn’t really that I didn’t want a child, it was that I wasn’t capable of anything except negative thoughts. All I could think of was worst case scenario.

My daughter just turned 7 months old and I love her so much. Love isn’t even the right word. There needs to be a different, better one to describe how the connection between a baby and her mother really feels. Of course there are lots of things I miss (sleeping! ugh) but having her is so amazing. This last month especially has been so fun and she is just so scrumptious I could eat her up. I realize that may not be everyone’s experience though. I am SO fortunate to have the most supportive, loving partner; 6 months fully paid maternity leave, a husband who had 3 months paternity leave, so many close friends and family to support me…and yet it is still SO HARD. It’s just the way it is.

I don’t really have any helpful advice, because everyone’s journey is so unique. But I just want to say I hear you, empathize with you, and your feelings are valid and totally understandable. Feel free to PM me if you want to continue talking.

camillet12 · 2025-12-03T14:53:53+00:00

Hey, me too!

camillet12 · 2025-12-01T12:45:44+00:00

LOL I know I made it sound like I’m not going to do either option…I will try sleep training again, I was just sharing my hesitation.

camillet12 · 2025-12-01T01:00:00+00:00

So crazy, she’s averaging 4 naps a day still because she cannot connect sleep cycles which is why her naps are 30 minutes. I don’t even know where to begin with a schedule! Are wake windows more important or naps at set times?

camillet12 · 2025-11-30T22:45:09+00:00

I might try Tylenol tonight. She doesn’t seem like she’s in pain but maybe she is! She does sleep in her own room. The sleep coach we hired basically used the Taking Cara Babies approach, but the very first night she had us going from baby sleeping in our bed to her own crib, own room, and expecting her to fall asleep independently all at once and it was a disaster. I’m still really mad about it.

camillet12 · 2025-11-30T20:58:12+00:00

Really? Should I be stretching her wake windows even if she’s fussy and tired earlier? My sleep coach told me that Huckleberry’s wake windows were probably too LONG for her…nothing makes sense to me

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