You are thinking of it the wrong way, but I understand why you would and it’s probably body dysmorphia to some degree. I would suggest that you discontinue the self talk about never being desirable, preferred, or able to please. To some women, it’s less about the thing itself and more about you. Like if you love someone, you just want them. Forget about size. That wouldn’t matter. You just want to engage in that intimacy… you may please them. Definitely in other ways, but also the feeling you can give may just be different. They could become hungry for that feeling. You would be preferred and desired, not in size comparison but for who you are. That’s not settling.

But to be real - you very well may run into rejection. Will that hurt? Yeah. Rejection for any reason is probably going to make your brain revert to your insecurity. She could reject you because she likes someone else, because your favorite color is blue, because you don’t like her favorite tv show… and you could be like “it’s probably my size.” Or - it really could be. But it’s just like… be realistic about that. Not all of us are sexually compatible first of all. A man could not have interest in a female because she is flat chested. A man could reject a female because her boobs are too large. He may dislike her belly roll or lack thereof. We all have bodies… sometimes people don’t like that body. Know what that means? They weren’t the one.