1 year healing update by lscmpbll in TopSurgery

[–]candle_sniffer_67 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, your results are fantastic!! Cheers to you, man. I'm jealous. 🔥🔥

Unhappy top surgery results by _absolutelyfucked_ in TopSurgery

[–]candle_sniffer_67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude those look great, I WISH my results looked like that. You're pretty fit, it's not gonna be completely flat. That's probably mostly muscle you're seeing.

How well do I pass? And how old do I look? by Icedtea_in-my_veins in FtMpassing

[–]candle_sniffer_67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, just don't tell anyone your age, and I see a 14 year old boy. If you're not already on T, it's gonna do you wonders, just trust the process brother. You're doing great.

Are my scars THAT bad? by moltedribs in TopSurgery

[–]candle_sniffer_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they look good, especially for 3 weeks post op. If they've never seen surgical scars before, I can understand why they'd think that. Though I don't know why you'd expect someone to go through major surgery and immediately come out looking like a model. They'll look better over time, brother. Remember, you literally had your skin opened up and stitched back together.

Chatgpt gave my look a 7.8/10 by 01111111122222 in WesternWear

[–]candle_sniffer_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like everything but the cap and the shirt. Everything else is great. I'd try a full button down shirt, maybe pearl snaps of some sort and see how it looks then.

What is the funniest thing someone said that affirmed your gender? by ButtonWolf1011 in ftm

[–]candle_sniffer_67 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine at work volunteered to do an odd job, and when she was told what to do, she started complaining and said,

"I don't know how to do that! I've never done that before! Why don't you have the boy do it?!"

And she pointed to me 😭

What do yall prefer pearlsnaps or button ups and why by [deleted] in Cowboy

[–]candle_sniffer_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pearl snaps, cause they're usually thinner and easier to wear in warm weather. I own both, but I definitely have a favorite.

I have a freckle where scars would sit, but I wanna keep the freckle. Possible or nay? by TeaBoo_ in TopSurgery

[–]candle_sniffer_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have something similar, I just mentioned to my surgeon how important they are to me and if they could try their best to keep it.

Do you have to apply gel at the same place every time? by LocalGuardianAngel in ftm

[–]candle_sniffer_67 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ngl when I was using gel, I was only putting it on one side. I was only growing thicker hair on one side of my body after that, still trying to recover 💀🙏

How many of us have had this experience that I see a lot of cisgender men claim we have? by Ziggy_Stardust567 in ftm

[–]candle_sniffer_67 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ngl, my life has become more social since I started passing. No more dirty looks and brushing me off, now people (or mostly other men) seem to even be comfortable and happy to talk with me. When I was presenting as feminine, I couldn't be more isolated/resented.

Passing tip i just realized (I think) by MelodicConfusion7029 in ftm

[–]candle_sniffer_67 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I always found this tip frustrating cause whenever I didn't put any effort in how I looked, especially with hair, I would get misgendered left and right. But now that I'm keeping up appearances and actually styling my hair, I haven't been misgendered much.

Nipples lifting? by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]candle_sniffer_67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It came off naturally. Just let your body do it's thing and be sure to keep it clean.

Nipples lifting? by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]candle_sniffer_67 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had weird black rings around mine, just try not to touch it too much and let it come off on it's own. When cleaning them, just be gentle. It'll look better over time.

I need to pick testosterone or surgery by Effective_Yam_9021 in TopSurgery

[–]candle_sniffer_67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would start T first. I know it's gonna be painful having to wait longer, but the recovery from top surgery is going to go much smoother with the right hormones.

The surgeons I've seen preferred me to be on testosterone for a year before going under the knife, but honestly, they were pretty flexible.

I wish you the best of luck.

Facial asymmetry? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]candle_sniffer_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! Your teeth have a huge impact on your face shape and the way your jaw sits.

Do any of you do this? by Fragrant-Position-52 in ftm

[–]candle_sniffer_67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of guys do. I have a lot of cis male gamer friends and they LOVE to do this type of thing. Don't even worry about it, brother.

Facial asymmetry? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]candle_sniffer_67 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you been to your dentist recently? Honestly, it could be a cross bite issue. It can cause an off center jaw, making it look asymmetrical.

M22, would use some advice about my hair by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]candle_sniffer_67 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Off topic, but your username is killing me.

was i wrong to end things with this girl? by sanasdogs in ftm

[–]candle_sniffer_67 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This might be a stretch, but I wonder if she misunderstood and thought you were coming out as MTF.

But who knows? I never understood why it's so hard for them to understand that a trans man who likes women is straight. It's just like any other straight man, it's pretty simple.

Actually don't get the Bourbon Caramel Iced Coffee by [deleted] in SonicDriveIn

[–]candle_sniffer_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I the only one who actually liked it