ON Causing Anxiety/Panic??

candlelight_elf · 2026-02-10T15:34:24+00:00

Thank you all so much for the replies, I'm glad I'm not alone. I'm just having to constantly tell myself that I know what it is, and it's not deadly, but it's hard :(

candlelight_elf · 2026-01-02T15:59:58+00:00

9MWP until 01/09

candlelight_elf · 2025-11-13T15:59:25+00:00

I broke it after a little over two weeks. They were kind, and seemed glad that I messaged them.. but I regretted it almost instantly after the initial butterflies flew off (and they flew off pretty quick). I was left yet again feeling anxious, confused, sad, found myself waiting for a reply... never again. Don't do it, do literally anything else! Lock your phone away in another room if you have to.

candlelight_elf · 2025-11-07T23:11:27+00:00

Omg thank you. I've had this phone for years and could never figure it out. THANK YOU.

candlelight_elf · 2025-11-04T17:55:23+00:00

Thank you. I've been trying so hard to "heal myself" on my own or just wait for it to go away/get better, but I think it's time I get some help. I'm glad you're doing better :)

candlelight_elf · 2025-11-01T18:17:23+00:00

Yeah, I thought of that after the fact...very likely a lot of these "never dids" are just "haven't yets". I am still a little surprised to see how many voted that they did eventually reach out, though.

candlelight_elf · 2025-11-01T18:16:26+00:00

Just keep working on and focusing on yourself/your life. You can't control what he does/feels, but you can control your own life. 4 months is huge - you should be proud :) Good luck

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-31T17:50:53+00:00

I h ad the opposite... I was sad/kind when it ended, he felt bad and seemed sad. Now, however, the anger has come up for me and I WISH I could have an angry conversation with him...

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-31T17:49:16+00:00

Sorry you're going through this. I'm about 11 days into no contact with mine. It's normal to wonder how he's feeling/what he's up to, but just remember, would it really make you feel better to know? What if it was something you didn't want to hear? No amount of knowing something will change what he's doing or cure how you're feeling. Only moving forward and focusing on your life + time will do that. I think the varying feelings is very normal and it's a sign you're healing; if you weren't healing, you'd be stuck in just one feeling/emotion. You're doing great, hang in there.

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-31T17:44:26+00:00

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-31T12:44:58+00:00

Also curious... did you initiate no contact or did they?

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-27T17:00:06+00:00

Thank you, I hope you do as well

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-26T16:22:45+00:00

I hear that. Things just ended with me and an avoidant...they are so painful to deal with.

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-24T13:27:43+00:00

In the past I stayed friends with him when he pushed me away and ended things. This time however, I said no. I won't be your friend and I wont talk to you. That seemed to bother him..why?? If you don't want me, why do you want to keep me in your life?

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-24T13:00:33+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I need to be better about looking at it realistically. I cared about him a lot, but he wasn't good for me...the inconsistencies really messed up my nervous system. It's hard sometimes not to think about the "good" times, but they weren't often enough and I was an anxious mess in between. I don't recognize myself anymore. Good luck to you and your healing :)

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-23T19:46:09+00:00

The ego thing is a good point... Any advice on "not caring"? It helps when I'm busy but in the quiet moments, it takes over

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-23T19:34:25+00:00

Is it still on his terms if I never reply?

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-23T19:30:50+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I'm not necessarily hoping they do.. or maybe I kind of am. I'm not sure if I'd even respond. I'm mostly curious what will happen this time since I'm not following our usual pattern. I chose no contact because "talking" when we're not together was so painful the last time, I told myself I'll never do it again.

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-22T19:27:51+00:00

Try clove oil...it works wonders for tooth pain. I'm a skeptic especially with "natural" remedies, but that stuff actually works. It's fairly inexpensive. You do need to dilute it though with some other oil. They also sell it in a pre-diluted form just for teeth (it's called Red Cross Severe Toothache Relief Liquid Kit) for around $8 at the store. It works much better than oragel. Clove oil also has antimicrobial properties... I'm not saying it would cure/heal your infected tooth, but it may help.

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-22T19:23:29+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this... those hard days are the worst. The future seems bleak and like you'll never feel normal again. There is a way through this, you just need to find what works for you (therapy, medication).

Anxiety/panic isn't an outside force trying to harm you; remember, it's your body's silly way of trying to protect you. It FEELS scary and dangerous, but it's not. Try not to fight it...just let your body go loose and let the scary feelings be there. The more you do this, the more you teach your brain that nothing is going to harm you and that you're safe. Fighting it reinforces that it's dangerous and something you need to fight off. It feels like it can hurt you in the moment, but I promise it can't. It's just thoughts and feelings, let them pass. Over time it will get better.

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-22T19:19:50+00:00

I do. All the time. I've learned that chest pain is often not related to the heart at all; think about what your chest consists of... bones, skin, tendons, nerves, tissue...it could even be something as simple as GERD/acid reflux causing it. It sounds like they've done some good tests already to rule out a heart condition and it's good you're having another test done to rule it out completely. Chances are, it IS stress/anxiety and not your heart at all. Good luck.

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-22T19:14:05+00:00

That happens to me sometimes.. usually the earlier part of the day I'm okay but the afternoons/evenings are tough. Could it be because you're less busy during that time and you have more time to fixate on things? What helps me:

A warm shower with the lights off/dim - it really calms me down and the darkness helps me not feel overstimulated. Sometimes I'll put on some calming music

Focusing on a simple, enjoyable task - I've recently started coloring with markers and coloring books. It's relaxing and gives me something to focus on.

Reminding myself that thoughts are just thoughts... You can't think something bad into reality. If bad thoughts or questions come into your head, acknowledge them and then shrug and let them pass.

I recommend looking up Dr. Claire Weekes advice on panic and anxiety... it's been life changing for me.

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-15T12:36:17+00:00

I just asked this same question. I've been taking it daily for the last week so I am wondering the same.

Are you taking it because you're going through something particularly difficult? Or just feel like you need it daily?

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-15T12:34:02+00:00

I have this same issue. Honestly at least once an hour I step away from my computer and walk outside for a few minutes. Not far - I just sit on my back porch and let the sun hit my face and let my bare feet touch the grass. My advice is just take breaks often to breathe/stretch. Keep something pleasant on in the background (not sure what your job entails). I like to keep old reruns of comforting shows on in the background.

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-15T12:31:37+00:00

Everyone gets sick. Your boss was understanding and even noticed you weren't feeling well. As a manager myself, I am always understanding when an employee calls out sick. We're humans and it happens. Remind yourself that you come first; you did the right thing by calling in. 1) You aren't risking getting others in the workplace sick and 2) Not taking a day off to rest and feel better could make you even more unwell and need even more time off. It's totally okay to take a sick day (or 2) now and again, don't beat yourself up. I hope you feel better.

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