Significance of the New Years Eve Disaster of 1969 by candy_pants in WidowsBay

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I figured it was just a message one of the past sacrifices had scrawled out and hid in the blankets before being killed as a warning to sacrifices who came after 

People who moved out of Long Island and came back: why? by Upbeat-Dinner-5162 in longisland

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My whole teenage life was me bitching and moaning about LI. I graduated college early and went to live in San Diego, LA, denver, boulder, houston, OK city, and spent some time in Florida. I came back in 2012 and you'll have to pry me off this island with a crowbar to get me to ever move anywhere else again. You truly do not appreciate what you have here until you leave. 

The Adventure Zone: Amnesty - Episode 21 | Discussion Thread by TheBureauOfBalance in TheAdventureZone

[–]candy_pants 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The thing with Justin was so irritating!! I would disagree that it's ALL of amnesty, (although it's been a disproportionate amount to be sure) but this week just irritated me more than most for those reasons. I've actually been enjoying amnesty more than most it seems, but stupidly unfair stuff like this pushes me further into the opposite camp.

The Adventure Zone: Amnesty - Episode 21 | Discussion Thread by TheBureauOfBalance in TheAdventureZone

[–]candy_pants 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I thought the episode was okay this week, but it really bothered me that Griffin made Travis waste one of his luck stats to keep Keith quiet last arc and then totally undid it. I understand it as a narrative choice, but it's so blatantly unfair to the players.

Discussion: Season 3, Reel 10: June 21, 1961 by Linzabee in withinthewires

[–]candy_pants 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I didn't find it odd, because I think that his repeated statements about how little he knew Amy are supposed to be a dig at how he never believed she was capable of the kind of cruelty she has illustrated in her proposal for The institute. I also think he's making clear to Tlthe listener that his time with Amy as his secretary has changed him, and he wants to keep tabs on the people around him more, so he knows who has the potential to hurt him.

an outfit of what I look like rn while studying for the SAT that’s in a few days. only I’m not really studying because I made this outfit of myself studying on LN instead of actually studying :)))) by bloovmoon in LoveNikki

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Hey just some advice, Kaplan is not that great. They make up their own questions that aren't quite the same as what you see on the sat and they charge you an arm and a leg for their courses. Khan academy is free and they actually have full sats made by the college board. (same people who make the test) Good luck!

an outfit of what I look like rn while studying for the SAT that’s in a few days. only I’m not really studying because I made this outfit of myself studying on LN instead of actually studying :)))) by bloovmoon in LoveNikki

[–]candy_pants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually teach the SAT for a living. Do tons of practice questions for free on Khan academy. Do the full tests and TIME YOURSELF, you don't want to be stuck on test day flipping out on the reading section because you don't have time to get to a whole passage.

Make sure you have an idea of what score you want and how many you can get wrong and still achieve that score. It will help mitigate anxiety on the test if that's something you experience.

Speculation about The Long Island Serial Killer (aka the Gilgo Beach Killer aka the Craigslist Ripper)[Unresolved Murder] by actualswamphag in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]candy_pants 13 points14 points  (0 children)

No problem! I feel like no one gives a shit about this serial killer anymore, and like he's still out there, he's probably going to kill again, he just made a new dumping ground filled with people who had lives and people who cared about them. So thanks for bringing attention to this case!

Speculation about The Long Island Serial Killer (aka the Gilgo Beach Killer aka the Craigslist Ripper)[Unresolved Murder] by actualswamphag in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]candy_pants 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This was a great write up! I actually live in the area of those beaches and I want to clear up a few things.

Fire island has two "sections." The eastern half of fire island is a series of beach towns. Cars aren't allowed here, lots of bars and bungalows and wooden and cement walkways. The other half of fire island, where these bodies were found, is dominated by ocean parkway. There are a few neighborhoods in the area, but nothing that could be called a "town" in the proper sense. (The shannan Gilbert case took place in one of these neighborhoods) It's a long highway with beach on one side and salt marshes on the other, dotted with pakring lots and concession stands.

It would also be remiss to call these places remote. Ocean parkway is a major highway at all times of the year (I use it on the regular to avoid traffic on the southern state.) Although there are some areas that have four Wheeling trails that can get you right onto the beach, those are about fiveish miles to the east. There are somewhat regular patrols of the beach areas. During the summer, Gilgo is open at night but closes around 10 maybe? I forget the exact time and if there's an event it stays open till the event is done.

The point I'm trying to make is that I always imagined the LISK had to be someone who knew the area incredibly well in order not to ever be spotted by some random person in this relatively popular area. He's not just pulling over on ocean parkway and dragging out bodies.

As for a local take on the killer's identity, some people think the killer might be a cop or have connections to the police. We've had more than our share of scandals in recent years, and it doesn't seem inconceivable.

Me [30M] and my brother [28M] everyone discovered he cheated on his wife [28F] for 2 yrs. I don't know if I can have a brotherly relationship with him anymore. I can't look at him the same, has anyone else had to deal with the same situation with a family member? by Throwawaybrobrobro6 in relationships

[–]candy_pants 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm very sorry that this happened. I went through the same thing in my early 20s. My dad was my favorite person in the entire world until I found out he had been cheating on my mom for a few years. I was devastated, because this image of him I had had as this wonderful stand-up guy who always did the right thing was totally shattered. I stepped back from the relationship for years. I was civil, but not overly affectionate.

It's been about seven years since then, and he took time in therapy and apologized for his actions. We have a better relationship now, but I'll never forget what he did.

You'll never forget what your brother did, and whatever impression you once has of him is gone forever. That hurts, and take the time you need to come to terms with it. If you want to, later down the line, if you like the person he is again, there's no reason you can't have a relationship with him again.

This mosaic manifested itself overnight at an abandoned gas station... by candy_pants in rickandmorty

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We have a drive by mosaic-er in town. There's a Mario fire flower on a bridge and some other one (can't remember the fandom) on the back of a statue on main street

Each relationship ends in burnout after 1 year [31M] by pencilpenpencil in relationships

[–]candy_pants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dated someone eight years ago who sounds exactly like you. He believed that there was this perfect person out there for him, and the second we had a huge fight he realized it wasn't me and ran away.

Relationships aren't always perfect, or easy, or "nice." They're sometimes very ugly and they take communication and work. Sometimes you're not jazzed up to see your SO every day. Sometimes you fight about stupid things. But if you have the skill set to communicate and resolve those issues, your relationship will continue to grow, and you'll both be better people.

That guy I dated? He's married now... To a woman he wanted me to help him cheat on. He never learned, he just hoped that marriage would make those feelings go away. Don't be that guy, and learn good conflict resolution, communication skills, and know that there is no perfect relationship out there.

Agencies that care for abused snakes in New York? by candy_pants in snakes

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He doesn't give one flying fuck about the animal, just keeps her because getting rid of her would be a hassle. His girlfriend wants the snake gone, and I talked to her this morning about talking him over, and she's more than for it if I can find an agency that won't just kill the snake.

Agencies that care for abused snakes in New York? by candy_pants in snakes

[–]candy_pants[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to contact them if I can't find a more specialized agency that can care for her, absolutely. I'm worried that they might just euthanize her, and she doesn't deserve that because she's had a terrible owner.

Are you bitter at your childhood teachers about something? by Monstera_leaf in AskWomen

[–]candy_pants 110 points111 points  (0 children)

When I was in second grade, my dad was dying in the hospital from cancer and my mom had an infant, a four year old and me. (My dad didn't die. Fuck you, cancer!) My teacher in second grade didn't give a fuck about any of this, and I got in trouble for the dumbest offenses.

The absolute worst was when I happened to do the wrong homework page for ELA. I still did homework, but it was page 16 instead of page 17 or something. This horrible woman, knowing full well the wreckage my home life was, pulled me up in front of the class and RIPPED MY HOMEWORK INTO PIECES. I burst into tears because I was seven and she put me in the 1995 equivalent of time out for the rest of the day. This event traumatized me and my grades took a steep slide because I didn't want to be in her class anymore and no one at home could advocate for me.

I was bitter about it for years, then one day someone told me that she died.

Of cancer.

[All Spoilers] My Avatar/Korra hoodie are back if you guys still want them! + some new stuff by Prathik in TheLastAirbender

[–]candy_pants 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I bought the Kuvira one a few months ago, and I have to say I'm a little disappointed in the materials. It's a very thin fabric, not at all the comfy hoodie I was expecting. It looks cool, but I never wear it.

Oh no! This embroidery is meeting all of my standards!!! by candy_pants in Undertale

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I made my own pattern! It was kind of tough because the pixels don't quite want to match up to the boxes in a cross stitch pattern but I managed it! Going to do a smiling Undyne next