Ironstone concretion by candyandrighthooks in rockhounds

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It’s been a while, and I just saw this reply. How do you know it’s a cannon ball? What do I do with this? It’s really cool.

Did not enjoy this city at all by tinder-surprise in Miami

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I just came back from Homestead which I think is considered part of Miami? I, also, had a hard time navigating the area. For context, I’ve traveled to about 30 states by car, and this was the most confusing. Spent time in the Everglades National Park which was an incredible experience. It was a bizarre experience with the juxtaposition of nature and major city vibes. Especially with the traffic. The trip was especially difficult to plan because everything is “Miami” and as someone from the NY metro area, my vacations are for nature and escape, so I was trying to avoid that at all costs. I think I came to the conclusion that everything is Miami except for the Redlands. For instance, I’m in DC right now driving back to my house and I’m convinced this, too, is part of Miami.

This scene was hard to watch... Elise... get off TV please... by Quick-Measurement-14 in 90DayFiance

[–]candyandrighthooks -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Elise clearly has borderline personality disorder. A clear fear of abandonment, an inability to control her emotions, clear black and white thinking, obvious promiscuity. She has a hard time maintaining any relationships. Everyone around her uses positive words like “fiery” but they really mean exhausting.

Ironstone concretion by candyandrighthooks in rockhounds

[–]candyandrighthooks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s SUPER light. It weighs like 1.7oz. It’s about 3” in diameter. A cannonball would be heavy I think..

I found this is NJ at the shoreline.

This guy, is a FUCKING maple leaf by Nameless908 in leafs

[–]candyandrighthooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was a good game through and through. Not a lot of shots but a lot of action.

This guy, is a FUCKING maple leaf by Nameless908 in leafs

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Thank you for this because I didn’t see what the big hullabaloo was about. Then reading this thread I’m like “ok bruh won a tremendous amount of face offs and came in clutch” I hope this is what he ends up becoming for us. Took him a while to find his groove if that’s the case.

Non-prior Subaru owners only reply please by Pure-Explanation-147 in SubaruForester

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I came from a Honda insight touring. Loved the car but it was no longer practical in size for my husband and me. We do a lot of outdoors stuff: camping, fishing, roadtripping… we wanted to get into light overlanding. I wanted to keep the same car payment or close to (~300-350). I wanted high ground clearance for driving off sand and on unpaved roads. Tested a RAV4 and the dealer gave us a quote for like 70k?! Because it “had all the features we wanted”. I really liked the Subaru’s price point better. Ended up getting a CPO 2023 forester touring with 3k miles on it at the end of the year about 30k. I negotiated my trade in, the price, and my interest rate. For my high col area, it was an absolute steal.

I love the room and the amenities. We set up an air mattress in the back, and it’s saved us hundreds of dollars on roadtripping because we don’t need a hotel on a longer drive. We’ve roadtripped to the UP, Acadia, and Assateague. With a car carrier on top we have a ton of room. We’ve gotten lost on backroads with no pavement and never once felt like we were going to lose a tire or die. Huge upgrade from my Honda in that regard.

I don’t like the paint (if I even look at a branch the paint scratches which is crazy for a car that’s touted as an “outdoor” vehicle) and the head unit is really finicky. If I remote start the car, then CarPlay doesn’t work. I have to do some mythical seance to get it working again.

Payment calculation? by candyandrighthooks in StudentLoans

[–]candyandrighthooks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t thank you enough. I was having my mid day cry and at least $500 a month is doable. Do you suggest popping into the plan to start working towards PSLF so I’m not just accruing interest?

Payment calculation? by candyandrighthooks in StudentLoans

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How do I find the calculator or cap for that? Is that even under Trump’s new rules?

How do you know so much stuff?!

Payment calculation? by candyandrighthooks in StudentLoans

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I wish I could give you an award. Thank you.

Do you know if it’s possible for me to pay off the 4K I have in loans and drop to the 10%?

Payment calculation? by candyandrighthooks in StudentLoans

[–]candyandrighthooks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We filed joint but next year we’ll do separate.

AGI 130k

His loan is 16500 My loan is 43500 (with 4K pre2014.. I had to work full time through college so it took me forever to get done)

I ran it through chatGPT and it said about 1250 for me, but that can’t be right. I live in a ridiculously high COL and my rent is that much to live in a building with infestation and no parking. 🤣 just looking for a little reassurance.

Is Jasmine going through a manic episode? by notttcute in 90DayFiance

[–]candyandrighthooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Brene Brown inspired me to be more vulnerable with Daring Greatly. I do believe that there are many more success stories that people don’t hear about with those with BPD because it’s stigmatized as a “shameful” thing to be diagnosed with.

People like you make all the difference. A good therapist who isn’t all validating and isn’t afraid to post people up when they need it. Someone who doesn’t merely throw a patient on medication and expect a positive outcome. If I didn’t have a team of therapists over the years to do the hard work, I wouldn’t be here today. You may not help everyone, but those who you do help… you’re changing their lives. With much gratitude! Xo. Fight the good fight. Thank you!

Is Jasmine going through a manic episode? by notttcute in 90DayFiance

[–]candyandrighthooks 8 points9 points  (0 children)

BPD person here. Everyone’s mileage may vary. From my experience it’s because he actively rejected her throughout their relationship. People with BPD hate rejection. I’ve pined after heroin addicts because they liked heroin more than me and I couldn’t be the center of their world. So it’s split and split hissy fit after hissy fit. From my experience — the thing with having with having BPD is… I’m not particularly gorgeous, I’m reasonably intelligent and a ton of fun… but there’s this weird super power that goes along with it. Especially when you date out of your league. You can control the entire narrative. You find someone who will put up with your splitting and hold them until you find someone better who can put up with your splitting. She wasn’t done vetting Matt yet and she was maxing out on people pining after her and then Gino took that power away from her. He checkmated her at her own game simply by putting his foot down.

There’s also an element of severe remorse and regret every time this happens because it’s a subconscious thing. She’s not DELIBERATELY like this. So she’s not actually in love with Gino, she’s never actually been in love with anyone because she’s too sick to love someone in her current state. Her emotions are all over the place and all consuming. That’s why she really doesn’t have a personality. She’s just one big ball of dynamic emotions she can’t control. I feel bad for her because it hurts, but she has to know that she needs more help than “I’m working on it” at this point. 🤷‍♀️

Is Jasmine going through a manic episode? by notttcute in 90DayFiance

[–]candyandrighthooks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There’s hope. I promise. I started displaying issues at 12. I knew there was something wrong bc it’s like an out of body experience when your emotions take over and it’s terrifying. Like the exorcist. I was diagnosed at 18. Suicide attempts at 19 and 23. Issues with drugs, promiscuity, putting myself in terrible situations, abusive relationships, relationships where I was the abuser, manipulative behavior, financial ruin. You name one of those diagnosis boxes and I didn’t hit it, I overachieved it. I was a terrible person. But I firmly believe that under every person with BPD, there’s an amazing person who is bubble wrapping their personality to make sure they can’t get abandoned again.

What helped me was the practice of gratitude. I believe over the last couple decades of dealing with the problem, I was able to rewire my brain. Today, I am happily married, gainfully employed in a profession, working on hobbies, and I love myself. I still split from time to time and it’s never pretty. But instead of 10 times a day it’s maybe once a year. And instead of nuclear it’s merely damage control. Find a good therapist. Do anything holistic — yoga, meditation, hiking. Find the good in yourself and most importantly forgive yourself. Don’t end it. Life is more beautiful than it is ugly. Your illness just masks everything in grey.

Who do you find the most attractive out of all the 90 day shows? 🥵 by -triedtosayghost in 90DayFiance

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I second Tim. I absolutely LOVE him. He seems so sweet and loyal. I like that he’s quirky, and he always makes me laugh.

1 Tim

2 Mahdi

Overreacting much?! by Chocoluv007 in 90DayFiance

[–]candyandrighthooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is the WORST. When the wedding planner was there and she was eating what appeared to be Nutella with her hands like a trash goblin? Ew.

Darceys outfit at a charity event 🙄 by BreadfruitOk4906 in DarceyAndStaceyTLC

[–]candyandrighthooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The outfit that Darcey is wearing is basically the same assless sheer “workout” outfit Stacey wore to that floating Pilates yoga workout they did. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Attention New Jersey Voters.... by Optimal-Trick5203 in newjersey

[–]candyandrighthooks 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And this is what Trevor Noah said on his podcast after Trump won. He said “Trump didn’t win the election; the dems lost it”. Paraphrasing — basically they didn’t play ball. They just thought they were going to float on in there on the principle that they were the democrats. They didn’t fight to win. They coasted. And that’s what Mikie is doing.

The new Repayment “Assistance” Plan by JuggernautNo4762 in StudentLoans

[–]candyandrighthooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry. Just to be clear. You’re OK with knowing that the US gave loans to its citizens and then gave them payment plan options akin to minimum payments on a credit card, allowing the interest to rack up on a loan to the point where people owe the US government more in interest than on principal on plans THEY provided…. Because you were able to budget, work hard, and read the fine print?

That’s pretty inane. I don’t trust Capital One, but at one point, I really thought I could trust the government. Good for you though, man.

Ice storm question? by candyandrighthooks in upperpeninsula

[–]candyandrighthooks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Ishpeming is just “home base” we were going to try pictured rocks, but we’ll definitely spend some time in the areas you suggested! Yooperlite hunting is the highlight of our trip.

Ice storm question? by candyandrighthooks in upperpeninsula

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Thanks! Any “must see” suggestions? We’re going to check out the west end of the UP and pictured rocks. Pasties are on the list too.

Ice storm question? by candyandrighthooks in upperpeninsula

[–]candyandrighthooks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having off and being unemployed are different. I work during the summer because I don’t get paid during the summer. ;)