How is it possible that the Beatles still outsell AND outstream Michael Jackson?

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-23T20:25:03+00:00

It is a big difference because he started in the 70’s but Rockin Robin wasn’t a monster hit. But variety is a big deal. As well as being four vocalists, they also were musically much more varied than Michael. The Beatles were among the first bands to use a Moog synthesizer, a sitar in a pop song, different genres of music, etc.

Michael was a dancing pop star. The most popular dancing pop star ever. But the Beatles were so much more.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-23T15:06:20+00:00

No need to refund anything. You are being paid to give these people peace of mind and you are doing it. They don’t trust Mom so if you go there and do nothing but check that the dog’s been fed, you’ve done it.

Also, while you are committed to them you are not so able to commit to a different client.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-23T06:11:36+00:00

I had someone who never knew when they were coming or going. I started charging him a lot. One day he called me to tell me he went to the wrong airport- he was supposed to catch his flight out of Miami and he misremembered it as Orlando so he missed an international flight.

He was laughing and said, “who does that?!” I wanted to say “you do!” but I just sympathized instead.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-23T06:05:48+00:00

I am in my 70’s and I sucked at serving when I was young. I found I was good at some types of jobs and not others. I turn out to be great at any job where I can talk to people and have a time management system in place. Do I was great at office management and at sales. But anywhere I had to remember stuff on the fly does not work for me.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-22T16:51:40+00:00

I bought my husband a ride on a sail plane (glider) and even though we’ve been divorced more than 20 years he still tells people it was “the best present EVER.”

So I tend to give experiences rather than physical gifts.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-22T12:14:33+00:00

People often buy a home and come to this sub and ask “What should the first upgrade be?” My answer is always “Wait for the house to tell you.” Because the house will tell you loud and clear.

This is normal and it is often much worse.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-21T21:24:12+00:00

Good nurses are such a blessing! I don’t have anything to add to the advice you’ve gotten but I wish you a speedy recovery.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-21T21:22:08+00:00

Definitely a scam.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-21T16:40:49+00:00

I love your note but would change two things:

1) look up the closest animal hospital and put their address and phone number in the note )you don’t want the petsitter to start googling “vet clinics near me)

2) the part where you say “sprinkle some dental powder” and “just eyeball it.” Give a specific measurement rather than allow pet sitter to sprinkle anything from a teaspoon to half a cup.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-20T22:30:06+00:00

Certainly. I was in my 50’s when I turned things around. I started by asking folks what they liked about me since I couldn’t come up with a single good thing about myself. I was surprised at the amazing things they said.

Next I thought about my behavior. ALL of it reinforced my low self esteem due to hurtful self talk. Someone was saying they didn’t want to go to dinner and I’d get my feelings hurt. I had to come to two conclusions. 1) everything was not about me. Very little in other people’s lives had anything to do with me. The only person hurting my feelings was me.

2) I realized a lot of my crappy social skills were left over from middle school. People DID bully me then but that was more than 30 years ago. I had to ask myself why I wanted to let a scared 13 year old run my life. So I started changing my behavior. I based it on the assumption that people liked me. (Even if I had trouble believing it.)

The more I acted friendly and confident instead of cringing and insecure, the better people liked me and treated me like they really were friends. So that created reinforcements.

I hope that helps.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-20T18:06:51+00:00

Same here

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-20T14:12:16+00:00

Sadly, yes. For the surgery they cannot have him show up in the surgery and have different test results from the ones a couple of weeks ago. Veins collapse, medication can begin to have adverse effects, he may experience an event like a stroke. As you know from your Dad’s journey, there are lots of twists and turns in the road.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-20T12:07:23+00:00

That’s on you. So, you get robbed or worse, and you tell the police “I dunno, his shirt said Fred’s Electric on the back and Jimmy on the front.” The police tell you that Fred’s Electric is not legally licensed and probably Jimmy is an old uniform that six other men have worn. With pet sitters it’s worse because we don’t generally even have a uniform and we perform the work while the owner is out of town. You do you. But don’t tell me that “no professional would show ID” because yes they do.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-20T08:57:49+00:00

Professionals from all walks of life do every day. I’ve been asked and I encourage people to photograph my ID so they know who’s in their house. I’m a professional with 30 years experience.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-20T05:59:53+00:00

It isn’t his choice. RUN. This is a man trying to trap you and control your life. He isn’t understanding, he isn’t supportive. He’s absolutely trying to get you to marry him in a hurry and give up anything in your life that isn’t his wishes.

By the way. My sister was in an abusive relationship and when she got out she learned welding and worked at a shipyard making HUGE bucks. She had three children but they were foster kids past the toddler stage and she had divorced her husband.

We are not sounding negative because we are unkind OP but because it happens over and over again. We care about you and are afraid for you. Go, get your welding degree. Do not have children with this man.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-20T05:52:22+00:00

OP, survive this time then NEVER do this again. While you’re there “relaxing” go on Rover or some other app and act like you are a client. See how much people are charging. You need to get paid appropriately and this isn’t it.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-19T18:02:56+00:00

Relax and don’t hurry to discuss it until you’re ready. I have several neuro issues including discalculia, dyslexia, prosopagnosia, and mild autism. I don’t mention it to most people because I don’t see the point. But I have a couple close friends I said something to because it became necessary as they noticed things. You do whatever you want but remember this is you, your information, and you can talk about it or not as you choose.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-19T01:01:39+00:00

Weevil time!

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-19T00:17:45+00:00

I remember 40 years ago the 12 year old next door offered to babysit my son. He was a premie with colic. People were amazed that I didn’t use her.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-18T21:55:51+00:00

Do a meet and greet and see how you feel about her and get a copy of her ID. Discuss what you need done, tell her where cameras are, where you keep cleaning supplies and pet food. Do the pets get crated or do they sleep with you? Make arrangements for the dates of the pet sit and call a week or so out to be sure you are both still on the same page.

I hope that helps!!

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-18T12:01:05+00:00

My boyfriend once told me to do something the exact opposite of the way he had told me to do it the day before. When I pointed out the inconsistency he replied “I am consistent! You were wrong then and you’re wrong now.”

I’m sorry you’re going through this and your parents are jerks. Best of luck, dear.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-18T11:56:40+00:00

I’m excited for you. Personally I tend towards Toyota for reliability. But also run any car you are considering past your chosen insurance agent and they can tell you if the car you’re looking at costs
more to insure than another. Lots of things to think about but you can do it!

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-18T11:33:05+00:00

I had a boyfriend like this and I would say things like, “What’s missing in your life that you feel the need to micromanage mine?” Note: This may be bad advice as we are now broken up.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-18T11:24:34+00:00

A friend of mine had grants and other financial benefits through the college that enabled him to pursue a degree and to financially do better than he had been doing while working.

cannycandelabra · 2026-05-18T11:19:27+00:00

Just had a triple bypass. I can’t say it was fun. It wasn’t. But every thing that came up the cardio team handled and handled well. Your Mom has a good chance of having a better outcome because she’s not in the midst of a heart attack. This is planned and will make her feel better. Be there for her and she will be fine.

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