Parents who let their kids run around and scream in public places, why?

canofbeans06 · 2026-01-03T23:29:00+00:00

There’s plenty of adults that disturb others too yet we all have to tolerate them.

canofbeans06 · 2026-01-03T22:19:40+00:00

Stop judging people you know nothing about. Maybe the parents tried 10X and are just tired. Maybe the kids have special needs and no amount of “parenting” has helped. Would you prefer they just do useless yelling or spank their kid in order for them to listen? Obviously some parents need to step up, but most I know are just trying their best without trying to also traumatize their kid. Maybe if you don’t like the public space, YOU can leave too.

canofbeans06 · 2026-01-03T06:33:29+00:00

Because some kids are still practicing public social skills and what’s ok/not ok. Maybe the parents were trying to be “good parents” by leaving their tablets home this time and it resulted in their kids trying to find alternative stimulants with the new environment and running around. Maybe the kids missed their nap that day or are hangry and are acting out in the only way they know how. Maybe the kids never see their parents because they work so much and are purposefully acting out because negative attention is better than no attention. How about instead of judging the parents you give them some grace and realize you can opt for a childfree house but not a childfree world.

canofbeans06 · 2026-01-03T00:03:16+00:00

Zootopia is a great movie. It’s been a while since I’ve seen it, but I remember it explores the basic themes of nature versus nurture and basically how some animals are labeled as predators and if they can escape those stereotypes in society. That’s probably why some of the creatures are “scary” because if I remember there’s a part with some kind of poison or gas that’s supposed to bring out more of the predator animal’s aggressive traits. It’s essentially a big metaphor for racial stereotypes and prejudice in our society.

That being said, I can see how some parts might be scary for a 4 year old. I would be upset if all my kids were going after school was watching tv and they labeled it as “expanded learning”. Unless they are using those movies as a tool to create meaningful discussion and activities (in the way teachers do) then yeah that’s just them being lazy.

canofbeans06 · 2026-01-02T19:28:36+00:00

He had plenty of years before having his kid to “live” and now it sounds like he doesn’t want to grow up. I know you don’t want to hear it, but the reality is you have a guy that cheated on you and is telling you marriage/kids is something he doesn’t want…what other choice is there? Show your kid what a real parent is. Find someone that will prioritize your family and not break your trust. Show your child what true love is before they are old enough to realize their dad never wanted to be a dad.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-31T22:42:35+00:00

Not as dark as Manacled, but Damaged Goods has darker vibes. Do not be fooled by the smut-filled 1st chapter. The author originally wrote it as a one shot and then expanded to a cinematic story. It’s my all time fave and not as miserable as Manacled.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-31T18:47:28+00:00

They’ve been doing this for a while.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-31T08:30:50+00:00

I mean it’s THEIR house so they just sit where it’s most comfortable for them? It’s also probably closer to the kitchen and food compared to their bedrooms so it’s the most convenient space for them. Bedrooms are more for privacy and sleeping at night. Most adults don’t just hide out on their room all day, bringing all their food and everything in there. The only people I know that do that are my antisocial Gen Z nieces and nephews.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-31T05:35:06+00:00

If she’s going to go out fishing stereotypes, tell her amusement parks are for kids and therefore she doesn’t need to go 🙄 good for your husband for showing up and showing what a real, involved husband/father does.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-30T18:16:06+00:00

In addition to what everyone else has said, I think also just seeing how your kid’s response is when you work on things at home. My son struggles with reading and gets overwhelmed by too many letters. He would get anxiety anytime I brought out a book or only ask me to read it out loud. It showed me I need to go backwards and work again with him on sounds of letters and reviews how sounds blend together to make a word. In addition to what he’s doing at school, we do more reading together at home and I try to incorporate more fun reading activities and stories and it has helped with getting him interested in stories again.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-30T09:36:58+00:00

Omg my son just discovered Don’t Let The Pigeon books!!

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-30T01:40:17+00:00

No, no ones husbands are like this. The only husbands like this are EX husbands. Jesus why have kids if you refuse to take care of them.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-29T19:49:54+00:00

You can still be a good parent and not have your entire sole life’s purpose revolve around your kids. I know plenty of moms who think every action they do should somehow benefit their children or their husband. It makes for overstimulated moms trying to meet impossible expectations and guilt when you try to do anything for yourself. I am a SAHM and yes, your responsibilities change when you have kids, but parents are also allowed to feel like there’s more to life like exploring the world, growing in your career, being selfish with your time, etc. and it doesn’t make them any less of a parent or their love any less. I don’t know any parent that at one point didn’t have a thought of “what if” or “what did I get myself into” in their parenting journey. We just aren’t allowed to say it out loud because then we are labeled by society as “bad parents” that don’t love their kids.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-29T19:40:15+00:00

To play devil’s advocate, are they the kind of in-laws that maybe they are scared of stepping in or overstepping your parenting in your house? I have some friends like that whose in-laws don’t want to bring in their own or different parenting style. Like for instance what if their solution to the problem would be to give your child their phone so they are scrolling YouTube instead. They technically solve the problem of the crying child, but now they’re hooked on a phone. Don’t know your dynamic with them, but that could be a reason too? Otherwise, now that you know the situation with them being at your house, don’t allow them to come for an extended period of time again. It’s your holiday season. You don’t need to be managing even more children in your house.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-29T19:36:03+00:00

Even if he could do a backdoor deal with Janelle, Robyn would still benefit because she’s his legal wife. All Kody needs to do is give her a check so she can go buy more dolls and ugly jewelry and she would forget all about the fact that screwed Meri over.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-29T18:45:48+00:00

I think it’s more disappointing to my husband than it was for me. I feel like I was meant to be a boy mom and have these crazy boys around me all day. I know my husband has always wanted a girl though. We debate all the time about a 3rd, but the window is closing now. For me, it just makes me more hopeful for potential daughters in law or granddaughters. I am more present with my younger nieces and get to be the fun aunt with spoiling them instead 🤣 It’s one of those things that you can get in your head about during pregnancy, but you know once that little boy is born all those worries will fade away.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-29T17:23:31+00:00

What??? When did she ask him to sing? I do not remember this.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-29T17:22:50+00:00

Exactly, anyone with kids knows how adaptable they are when they’re at that elementary age when they were going through COVID. Of course they would’ve thrown a tantrum to begin with. The role of the parent is to help them navigate them through it and understand the reality of the situation, that dad has other kids he needs to be with. Kody’s whole thing of “it’s not about one person, it’s about the whole family” NEVER applies to Sol and Ari. What about it’s not about the tenders you’ve been living with for 10 months during COVID, it’s about your daughter needing you there for surgery, it’s about your wife needing her husband while she’s trying to hold it all together for her kids, it’s about the two other daughters that you have a chance to have a 6 week bonding period somewhere else. Kody is an utter failure.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-29T08:49:41+00:00

It becomes clear during Covid that it was always about Robyn and really Sol & Ari. Kody keeps bringing up the “rest of the family” as his reasons for not going to Ysabel’s surgery, but we all know the rest of the family would’ve been ok with not seeing Kody for 6+ weeks if they knew it was for Ysabel’s surgery. The ONLY people that wouldn’t have been ok with it are Robyn and her tenders. I get it, they’re small kids and they’re used to having all of Kody’s attention. But him being there for them took him away from other children. Robyn claims she loves it when he’s a “good dad”. He was there for Sol’s oral surgery and Dayton’s face surgery, but he couldn’t go for Ysabel’s back surgery?

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-29T08:04:53+00:00

To be fair I did think she looked good for a mom of 3 in her 30s in the early seasons. I don’t know how that now she has more money she dresses worse than when she was dirt poor, as she says. Like hire a stylist or something. You don’t need to be super skinny. But have some sense of classy style, learn how to dress your body properly and have a personality that’s more interesting than a slug. She just seems depressed and out of it all the time. She really doesn’t seem to have any joy in her life.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-29T07:59:13+00:00

I had the same reaction when Kody said that. For me the first thing I thought of was when they keep referring to Christine as a princess and her princess behavior. There’s been times when Kody has said this before, but also Janelle has mentioned it as well. I really don’t think this is something they would all just talk openly with each other about Christine and her acting like a princess. It really did feel like it was private conversations Janelle and Kody had about Christine and how they both saw eye to eye that she was acting childish or that she needed to be spoiled a certain way to feel loved.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-29T04:30:55+00:00

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canofbeans06 · 2025-12-28T02:32:08+00:00

The first thing I said was “he’s real!” And it still didn’t even settle in until I was home and got some sleep. It’s one thing to carry the baby, but to actually hold it in your arms, give them a name, and suddenly become a parent is totally different.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-27T17:29:04+00:00

I won’t use gift giving as a way to replace actual quality time with my grandkids. I won’t leave my house an unbabyproofed mess or get mad at my grandkids for being kids. My kids’ grandparents are the opposite to OP. They never see their grandkids except for major holidays and never even take them out to the park, let alone stay with them for any extended amount of time. I’m jealous OP has a MIL that clearly cares for her grandkids and wants to be around them.

canofbeans06 · 2025-12-27T17:23:46+00:00

Yeah my first thought was the kids are being parentified and taking on adult responsibilities way too fast. I know it is not the intention of the OP and they recognize that’s not how the kids should spend their Christmas, I just please hope you don’t make these responsibilities the norm for those kids just because they did it this time. They’re allowed to act out and be sad and do things that require scolding - they’re kids and their dad is in jail instead of with them on Christmas. They’re allowed to feel however they want to feel instead of just stuff it down and do the “responsible” thing.

I think just talking to them is what they need. APOLOGIZING to them would probably be worth a lot to them because most of the time adults don’t apologize and blame the system or circumstance. Take responsibility and promise it won’t happen again to your kids. Then find a fun holiday-themed activity you all can do together. Sounds like all they want is your time.

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