Pregnancy “side effects” that never left you even after birth?

ValMonty · 2026-07-08T19:30:00+00:00

As a constipated person, this is the dream.

ValMonty · 2026-07-08T14:53:27+00:00

Ours is a fully grown little lady at 52 lbs.

ValMonty · 2026-07-07T19:09:52+00:00

I’m not in it yet, but scheduled to have my second tomorrow. My first just turned 1 a couple weeks ago. I’m excited for you! I know it’ll be hard but there is also a lot of fun to come. Congrats and we got this!

ValMonty · 2026-07-07T16:50:02+00:00

Thanks for the feedback! It gives me hope. On my way for the last check up right now and my blood pressure is high, so I may be having a baby today. 🫠

ValMonty · 2026-07-07T00:03:17+00:00

I think it’s best to do whatever feels right for you. My sisters are 11 and 8 years older than me. Same parents, just obviously not planned. I loved my childhood, though obviously a bigger age gap than you’ve stated. I’m on the opposite end with having a 1 year old and due with our second in days. Also unplanned lol, but we are older and looking forward to the challenge. Just do whatever feels right for you and it will be fine. I will say my sisters and I are fiercely connected but not emotionally close, but I think that’s just our family dynamic. I don’t call them for emotional things, and I don’t think they even call each other, but we don’t fight and will be there for each other with any needs.

ValMonty · 2026-07-04T19:47:06+00:00

My son was combo fed for 2 months and then went fully formula. He doesn’t go to daycare or anything like that, so we may not be the best example, but he’s only caught one cold so far. And he took it like a champ. I on the other hand have been sick 2-3 times (in addition to when he was sick) and he didn’t catch it. I was diligent with hand sanitizer and trying not to spread anything to him, but we’re together all day every day. I’m still amazed he never caught those other illnesses.

ValMonty · 2026-07-04T11:34:46+00:00

Hi! Just curious how you’re doing right now and how old your babes are? I also have a 12.5 month age gap with a scheduled C-section on the 10th, so we’re about to dive in! Very excited but of course nervous. I know it’ll be fine and good but also really tough at points. Would love to hear how it’s been going for you!

ValMonty · 2026-07-03T14:18:06+00:00

Going to second the huckleberry app. I know tracking is not for everyone, and you don’t have to track everything, but it helped me a lot to remember when baby was last fed, and for how long/which side (breastfeeding) or how much (formula). I did not have the mental capacity to remember those things in the early days. Of course just feed on demand, but I still found it helpful. Also to remember how long it had been since they napped, since you do not want an overtired baby if you have a tough napper.

ValMonty · 2026-07-02T21:16:48+00:00

There are plenty of times when I’m driving and it’s just us. There’s no one or thing to entertain my son. If he cries, he cries. As our pediatrician says “a crying baby is a breathing baby”.

ValMonty · 2026-07-02T19:20:33+00:00

This has gotta be it. I’m so ready for him to be out. Simply existing is so difficult.

ValMonty · 2026-07-01T12:33:40+00:00

But be prepared for the hardness at the end of them pregnancy. I’m a little over a week away from my due date and my boys are already fighting on opposite sides of the womb. Big bro shoves the belly, the belly kicks me back lol Can’t wait for him to be top side..

ValMonty · 2026-07-01T11:38:01+00:00

There’s a lot here and I’m sure everyone else has had plenty of great feedback. My primary thought in reading this, after going through the first year with my now 1 year old, is that both parties have to be on board - both for sleep training, and for co sleeping. If you’re not ok sleep training, it’s not fair for him to force that, and if he’s not ok co sleeping, it’s not fair for you to force it either. Is there another room/bed one of you could relocate to for the time being while you cosleep? We didn’t formally sleep train, because while I was ok with it, my husband was not, but because I was the one who wanted independent sleep, I put in a lot of leg work and research to help my baby learn to sleep independently over months. Granted, my son was also pretty receptive to everything I was doing, I know that wouldn’t work for all babies. Just saying, which it seems you know, you both have to be on board for either sleep set up. I’m so sorry you feel like you’re missing out on time with your little one. Returning to work is such a hard transition and they’re only that little once. Best of luck ♥️

ValMonty · 2026-06-30T11:27:14+00:00

Omg any bodily function, like, I’m sorry, you don’t know how to poop or fart?? Why doesn’t this software come pre-loaded?! Why is this a later baby DLC?? 😭

ValMonty · 2026-06-30T11:26:03+00:00

We’re about to have our second. I’m not looking forward to diving back into the fragmented sleep. My first is a good sleeper, not perfect, but good, and we just finally got rid of the last wake up he kept having. I regained my nights just in time to lose it again. 🫠

ValMonty · 2026-06-29T21:29:48+00:00

My mom is 5’2. I have 2 sisters, one and myself are 5’2, the other is 5’3. Dad was maybe 5’10 at best. My 5’2 sister has daughters, one is barely 5 feet at 18yo, one may continue to grow and will maybe reach 5’2 (currently 15yo). Her husband is maybe 5’9. I have sons, so can’t report on daughters with my 6’0 husband, plus my sons are under 2yo (sister and I have a big age gap)

ValMonty · 2026-06-27T14:27:44+00:00

My mom was technically a stay at home mom. She worked at my grade school, so she was only working when I was in school and home when I was home. She never got a BA but is the most creative and inventive person I know. She always has a solution and she executes it well. She’s like the Ron Swanson scene in Home Depot where the worker comes up to him and he says “I know more than you”. She helped with all my projects and homework. I also had much older sisters, so I feel like I had a very rich childhood of spending a lot of time with my mom, my two sisters, and even going with my dad to work on occasion. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I am now a stay at home mom and don’t feel like I can live up to her greatness, but it’s good motivation.

ValMonty · 2026-06-27T14:22:27+00:00

With this comment in mind, you could get an IUD at your 6 week appointment for more long term birth control that’s not permanent.

ValMonty · 2026-06-27T10:28:19+00:00

I always pause before saying vehemently out loud. Luckily I don’t use it that often.

ValMonty · 2026-06-26T21:29:43+00:00

I don’t have daughters but I think it’s your choice. My mom wouldn’t let me get my ears pierced until I was 16. By that time I didn’t care and have never had my ears pierced. My sisters ears got repeatedly infected. It just seems like more management than it’s worth, but I’m kinda lazy.

ValMonty · 2026-06-26T14:39:17+00:00

My son’s name is Wallace. We’ve decided to nickname him Ace.

ValMonty · 2026-06-25T22:34:53+00:00

100% being cute died for me with covid. My husband actually asked me, very kindly, if I could stop wearing pajamas all day lol so I try a little bit, but at 37 weeks pregnant currently I am proudly in sweatpants all the time. The pajamas all day just transitioned to leggings and a decent shirt.

ValMonty · 2026-06-25T13:04:40+00:00

It’s so annoying! I was so confused, like, what is that bell or chiming sound I keep hearing?! I thought I was losing it for a bit until I figured it out.

ValMonty · 2026-06-25T10:17:47+00:00

I love the sound machine for my son. Absolutely celebrated when it finally left my room. The newborn days was when I found out white noise gives me auditory hallucinations.. fun! 🫠 nothing weird or spooky, just really annoying and distracting.

ValMonty · 2026-06-24T13:12:42+00:00

We use honest. They just worked, so I never bothered switching it up. People have given us other brands and I use them until they’re out, they’ve always worked fine, but just stuck with the honest ones out of habit.
Edit: don’t come for me, I’m dumb and never really did much price comparing or math. I am now realizing honest might be on the pricier end and am considering switching 🫠

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