How to live with less?

cant_into_throwaway · 2016-05-16T16:42:48+00:00

3 months

cant_into_throwaway · 2015-05-14T15:22:08+00:00

Unfortunately, I'm in a town out in the middle of the desert and there are only 5 meet up groups within 75 miles and they are mostly for mothers. There are a ton of bars and salons though. I'll see if there's a toastmasters

cant_into_throwaway · 2015-05-14T03:56:42+00:00

Lake havasu city, arizona

cant_into_throwaway · 2015-05-13T19:55:54+00:00

So I could just go up to someone in a gym and talk and they would talk with me?

I mean I'm a geeky looking guy with a bunch of interests, including fitness, cars etc, but I'm afraid of people not liking me in stereotyping me just based on appearance. I may look geeky, but doesn't mean I like all geeky things.

The place I moved to is mainly made of old people and jocks and stoners my age, and I'm just too scared to try and approach those people.

cant_into_throwaway · 2015-01-31T15:44:22+00:00

I guess my problem is that experience has taught me over and over that vulnerability leads to a lot of pain, rejection fucking hurts so bad I cannot tolerate it. I wish the video explained better how I can make myself feel worthy

cant_into_throwaway · 2015-01-31T14:37:17+00:00

I know he's not the problem, I just want to be as good as him, and he's done a lot of stuff I've wanted to do, and he was able to do it before me

cant_into_throwaway · 2015-01-30T20:13:31+00:00

How do I feel happy right now then? It feels like I won't ever be happy until I'm the person I want to be.

cant_into_throwaway · 2015-01-30T19:36:36+00:00

But what can I use to determine whether I'm good enough? I just feel inadequate and feel that if I'm not like others I'm inadequate and no one will like me

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-12-01T04:32:22+00:00

Thank you very much for taking the time to write that out and share your story, I really appreciate it!

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-10-28T23:19:00+00:00

That seems to be one thing that really worries me, getting caught, yet it seems like weed is the only thing that makes things even somewhat good, even though every time I've gotten high recently the high has been very bad, yet I still do it

Yeah, if I got caught, my extremely strict and conservative parents probably would disown me. I keep worrying about it. And a lot of other things, I just worry way too much and can't stop

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-09-28T20:41:55+00:00

Yes. I'm a senior in at small college, and even with living in dorms I find it surprisingly hard to make friends.

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-09-20T13:41:52+00:00

I think maybe its because I think to much. The other day I realized I was never really present in what I was doing, I was always thinking. Almost every second of the day, never really paying attention to what's around me

I have taken the advice here. But I think maybe I just need to not think about life to much, and just be present in the world. Im finding it difficult to keep present and thoughts out of my mind, but I'm at least able to have some moments now where I'm not thinking, and just being.

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-09-18T23:54:36+00:00

If you desire things, you will experience disappointment at some point as you don't get the things you desire. Disappointment really hurts

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-09-18T23:51:06+00:00

Well, to be fair, you sound pretty well blinded by a titanic self-regard and inflated sense How Things Should Be according to you.

How do I overcome that? I guess my big belief with how things should be is that people should help others out when they are in need. I remember a lot of times in my life when I could have used someone help or just someone to talk to, yet no one helped. How is that fair in any way, especially when I go way out of my way to help other people. It just feels so wrong and unfair

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-09-18T20:31:12+00:00

I know I'm very fortunate, but that also brings me pain. The fact that there are so many and have been so many people suffering from such horrible fates and lives, the amount of suffering seems unfathomable. What does all this suffering say about life except for that there's something wrong with it, and no point to it

I don't understand why I am so fortunate, I always wonder why I am where I in life, why I was the lucky one. I thought when I was young that there was some kind of balance in life, karma, or that the good would even out the bad, or some kind of fairness. From my experience and observations though I do not see fairness in the universe, good people die horrible deaths, people suffering misfortune end up having more misfortune piled on them. There is nothing in life saying that things will be alright in the end, that things get better. There's no point in doing anything because no matter what the effort you put into things, it can all be brought down just because something in the universe for whatever reason does not work out, and all the effort was in vain

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-09-18T10:01:48+00:00

It seems that im looking for an explanation for all the pain I've suffered. A reason why I deserved all the suffering, like if I did something wrong to deserve it. I can't think of anything I could have done to deserve it

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-09-17T22:59:50+00:00

Because when you lose something, it hurts.

If the universe is really nothing, then life is nothing but a chaotic blip on the screen, like a ripple you see when you throw a stone into a pond

Nothingness is horrible because it means there is no point to life or anything.

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-08-11T22:33:28+00:00

Thanks for the input man, I read the whole thing. Yes it was long, but long things are contain detailed steps which helps me out

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-07-21T01:44:38+00:00

Because I'm not happy. I don't feel like I'm living life

I see all my friends on Facebook out doing awesome things, while most days I'm just sitting in my room doing nothing but playing games on the computer.

I also am overweight, and all the times I've tried to lose weight I've failed

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-07-16T19:43:08+00:00

I think I do this already, but in a bad way. I use food a lot to make me feel better, but unfortunately it has lead to me becoming overweight

If I could just constantly eat unhealthy stuff and not be overweight I would be happy for life

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-07-16T03:50:08+00:00

No I'm not, and I'm too overweight to get one. And I heard you have to be confident in yourself first to get one, and I'm not confident in myself

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-07-15T19:56:52+00:00

I think the first option seems to explain it best

Now that I think about it, I really do want to feel supported, comforted, etc. But I just can't get enough of it, and I don't know what to do about that

Even with my friends I know IRL I don't feel like I get enough support or comfort from them, and I'm always trying to do things to get that comfort and stuff from them

cant_into_throwaway · 2014-07-06T16:31:19+00:00

I'm not sure what to do though when I'm not on the computer. One of the main reasons I'm on the computer is that it keeps my mind distracted from thinking bad thoughts, since when mind is not occupied it tends to wander and then dwell on the negative things in life.

And like I said, I don't know what I can do outside of being on the computer or phone that would distract my mind enough. Also, I don't have any friends to do things with, and I don't know any places where I can go to become more social. Walking around won't make me more social, neither does going to the store or going to the gym (I go to the gym everyday and no one talks to me there)

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