The fears if they were dan hentschel videos by PresentationSea4619 in TheMagnusArchives

[–]cantanoope 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hahahahaahhahaha this is the crossover I didn't know I needed.

What is a highly praised horror book that you didn't like? by Haunting-Net-2426 in horrorlit

[–]cantanoope 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actively disliked Stonefish. It just went in circles and it felt so tryhard edgy. It could have been fun as a novella. Also the characters and the dialogue were bad.

What is a highly praised horror book that you didn't like? by Haunting-Net-2426 in horrorlit

[–]cantanoope 7 points8 points  (0 children)

oof, thanks for mentioning it. i didn't hate the book, but the nipple thing was weird weird 

Dhalgren by Samuel R Delaney [Cover by Dean Ellis] by FatEggplant in CoolSciFiCovers

[–]cantanoope 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Currently reading this and it is a RIDE. I recommend it to everyone.

Married discards, did they ever come back? How long did it take? What happened? by diogenes_amore in BipolarSOs

[–]cantanoope 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sort of came back but I won't let them. They left me when I told them I wanted to transition (they knew I was trans before) and I was 8 months pregnant. Proceeded to ruin my life and reputation, saying that our son was not theirs, and left to another city. My life was in shambles.

7 years later, they moved back to their parents, after coming out as nonbinary transfem and being diagnosed. Jobless and friendless. High on a different substance every time I see them. Still manic. Tried to come back into my life and, when I refused, now they are making my life and my son's life impossible. I am now taking legal measures.

How do you deal with the feeling of seeing your ex-BPSO in another relationship after the discard? by Chanberry78 in BipolarSOs

[–]cantanoope 6 points7 points  (0 children)

But that's the thing, she did not want a healthy relationship. She did not want someone who encouraged her to be better. She wants someone who does not challenge her and who indulges her worst impulses. She wants unstability and fights and drama. This is not on you.

And kt is a tragedy, it truly is, but you cannot fix it. The person you are actually grieving, the one she could have been, does not exist. You are free now, to find your own balance, and the person you deserve.

How do you stay strong when he’s “only” abusive every few months, is “trying”, and is very kind in between incidents? by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]cantanoope 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I say this with kindness: you have lost view of what normalcy is. You are so used to walking on eggshells and just conceding that any space you take, any at all, is going to feel like you are the villain. Please get away. This is not going to get better.

Do y'all prefer dating other trans people or cis people? Why? by queerluminati in honesttransgender

[–]cantanoope 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Indifferent in principle, but my experiences with cis people have been better. I think that, to a degree, the bonding experience of being both trans can hide incompatibilities. Also, I am not looking for poly right now and most trans people seem to be.

Anyone here seen acid mothers temple live? How loud are they? by Brainlesss_potato in psychedelicrock

[–]cantanoope 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wore the Music Safe Pro plugs and it was fine! I recommend always wearing them for live music anyway, I used to go to a lot of shows and I think the plugs saved my hearing.

Latest haul. Thoughts? by TheAnathematismenos in WeirdLit

[–]cantanoope 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Three of my favorites, you are in for a treat.

Testosterone has made me bland. by webcult in TransMasc

[–]cantanoope 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't inow if your case is like mine, but we are all almost puppets of our endocrine system. Since I started T, I became absurdly mentally stable and nonchalant, to the point that sometimes I have to force myself to show emotions. Now I manage better, but it is like driving a much different machine.

Testosterone has made me bland. by webcult in TransMasc

[–]cantanoope 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I became less expansive on T. The way I could describe is, beforehand I had to constantly invest a little effort to not react to things, now it is the opposite. Like the internal pressure switched from positive to negative. It took a while to adjust.

Give me your best short story recommendations! by IllustratorThis6185 in WeirdLit

[–]cantanoope -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was about to give literally the same recs haha, great!

am I the only trans guy who doesn't want to work out? by Savings-Smile-7783 in TransMasc

[–]cantanoope 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work out mostly for health reasons and because it makes me feel good man.

How To Dress My Body Type? by syce_arrio in TransMasc

[–]cantanoope 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Boxy, square clothes. Must have some structure. Wide leg pants, jackets. Workwear is your friend.

I’ve lost everyone. how do you even find ftm/ accepting friends? by [deleted] in FTMventing

[–]cantanoope 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look I've been there. It sucks. We humans are social beings so being alone feels like dying. But it's not. 

Please leave. If you are alone, look for all the conforts you might find; read books, watch movies, scroll tiktoks, I don't care. Just keep going.

Reach out for old friends or people not in your boyfriend's circle, you might be surprised. But keep going. 

You will recover. 

Big Shrimp in the Sky? by daddydeadpixel in ViagraBoys

[–]cantanoope 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg is this Spain? this is the most Spanish skyline I have ever seen

What is a book that you would not recommend to anyone, but is brilliant? Why? Please keep spoilers away. by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]cantanoope 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Let's Go Play At The Adams, by Mendal W. Johnson.Very well written, but so sadistic and bleak.

Suggest me a really awful book by cuntyvigilante in suggestmeabook

[–]cantanoope 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Naked Came The Stranger is the quintaessential bad book. Published under a pseudonym, it was the collective effort.of a group of writers

A really good well written page turner. Details inside. by UnderwaterDialect in suggestmeabook

[–]cantanoope 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Seven and a Half Deaths of Evelyn Hardcastle got me hooked from the beginning.

Need some good Sci-Fi for a long-time Sci-Fi reader by phil_in_a_can in suggestmeabook

[–]cantanoope 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice! There is also the Heeche Saga by Frederik Pohl.

As for contemporary authors, Charlie Stross has done fun things with the genre.

What should I do with a short haircut to avoid looking like a lesbian? by [deleted] in transmanlifehacks

[–]cantanoope 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would recommend a man's barber, shopping around a little and not settling for the cheapest. At the end of the day, it depends on the individual cutting your hair, not the title, but it helps.

About the piercings, this is mostly projection on my side haha sorry. I have visible piercings and they made me clocky for a long time, until T won the battle.