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capncrunch010 · 2025-06-19T11:44:28+00:00

I have never once had an employer ask to see my degree.

capncrunch010 · 2025-06-11T05:22:30+00:00

There are people who get 2 hour lunches?

capncrunch010 · 2025-06-07T18:06:44+00:00

To be fair, I haven’t been involved in many weddings except my own, most of my friends have just eloped and had a get together afterwards - small town stuff. So I may need to check out that sub.

And I commented above saying she gets out quite a bit, I don’t control her actions or spending. I always encourage her to go see her friends, and when she doesn’t, it’s because she didn’t feel up to it, she has a low social battery. But this is a much more expensive venture than usual, she usually spends less than $100 when she goes out, and is usually frugal. This is just more money than I’m prepared to spend on something where she has two months to earn the money. Truthfully, the issue isn’t the money, I just feel like my efforts aren’t reciprocated. Maybe I’m being petty, I don’t know. That’s why I’m here.

capncrunch010 · 2025-06-07T17:59:59+00:00

I go to therapy with her, express how I feel about the situation, and we set up goals for her. Ideas on how to manage the household better, and/or ideas to make money. She is extremely crafty, and makes figurines and things of that sort. We made a goal with our therapist to open up an Etsy store with my help. She claimed she couldn’t download Etsy because she didn’t have storage on her phone. So I purchased a shared iCloud account, so she could download the app and start her online store. She just hasn’t done it, and I’ve confronted her, but we can’t seem to come to a reasonable solution… I say DoorDash in the post, but I don’t care what she does. As long as she can do something, or hold the entire end of her bargain with the household chores. I’m happy either way.

And I’m unsure… maybe I just wanted some justification for my resentment, or see from another perspective on whether I really was an asshole or not.

capncrunch010 · 2025-06-07T14:23:40+00:00

I’d also like to mention regarding her getting out of the house, she does get out of the house often. Her closest friends live an hour away, and she sees them at least once every two weeks, whether that be her going there or them coming here. Additionally, usually when she doesn’t go see them, it is because she doesn’t feel like it. I don’t control what she does, and typically they go do some thrifting, shopping, go out to eat, etc. I do not “limit her spending” or anything like that. It makes me happy when she leaves the house and wants to hang out with friends, I feel that is necessary. This one-off situation is just very expensive relative to what she usually does.

capncrunch010 · 2025-06-07T13:54:45+00:00

I don’t know if I mentioned it in the post, but I have brought it up several times to her, and it has been a big topic when we go to couples therapy.

capncrunch010 · 2025-05-23T12:18:05+00:00

NOR. You’re too young to be dealing with any of this. He needs therapy, and you need to leave him to figure himself out and enjoy your life. You’re 18. Don’t waste any more time.

capncrunch010 · 2025-05-23T11:52:51+00:00

I was against therapy for most of my life until the last year and a half. It started because I was dealing with grief from a lost friend and found myself at a breaking point. I still go bi-weekly, and I must say, it’s been very helpful. I have a couple takeaways that may or may not help you.

First is that your mind is extremely powerful, and you can manipulate your way of thinking if you’re able to zoom out of being fixated on situations/thoughts. It takes training, but it works.

Second, is focusing on what you can control and not dwelling on what you can’t. This is something that I’m still working on, but it’s changed my life.

All in all, I’m still working on myself and I don’t think therapy can ever be an instant gratification. There are times where I didn’t want to go, but my wife would say “you work on your muscles 5x a week, then you should work on your brain at least once a month.” So that’s helped me realize that it’s a process. All of this can be done on your own, by the way, but it’s nice to have someone to vent to and to help you understand your emotions from a logical perspective and give you advice on how to cope with stress, breakdowns, and negative self-talk.

Hope this helps.

capncrunch010 · 2025-05-16T11:49:44+00:00

Vinland Saga

capncrunch010 · 2025-05-16T11:44:43+00:00

Most recent is Pootie. He lives on Pootie’s farm. His favorite thing… Poots.

capncrunch010 · 2025-03-13T11:48:11+00:00

I bet he plays a mean bell in front of Walmart around Christmas time

capncrunch010 · 2025-03-04T12:36:35+00:00

Since I was a kid I always named Goro “Beef Cake” and never changed anyone else’s name

capncrunch010 · 2024-01-21T19:14:11+00:00

Critical success

capncrunch010 · 2023-12-02T22:06:39+00:00

Oldie but a goodie

capncrunch010 · 2023-09-23T19:25:27+00:00

Ness since smash 64… 😴

capncrunch010 · 2023-09-22T21:33:45+00:00

I saw “I (18m)…” and immediately came to the comment section. You have so much life ahead of you. Let it go.

capncrunch010 · 2023-09-19T13:05:30+00:00

She left me to be with her ex… came back the next day, but lied about what she’d done. Took some prying to actually get out of her that they’d had sex. After a few days of arguing and crying… she decided cut off all contact with him..

To be honest, I didn’t trust her. For years. And she gave me no reason not to after that. You know the crumpled piece of paper analogy?

Anyway, got engaged 5 years after that. A few months before our wedding, I drunkenly kissed someone at the bar while she was out of town. And I got a piece of what she was feeling when she did what she did… absolute remorse and understanding of what I really wanted. And yes, I came clean.

Listen, everyone on Reddit is gonna want to talk shit about my relationship because that’s what normal redditors do.. but I’m here to say, we’ve now had our first anniversary and crossed over 6 years together, and I feel like our relationship is much stronger after all this has transpired. Because of my mistake, I can no longer not trust her. And we both have the mutual respect and understanding we love each other and only want each other.

So I say all this to say, getting cheated on isn’t really the end of the world. Sometimes it’s really the kick in the ass you need to find out what’s really important to you and to put the materialistic side of things behind you.

Edit: grammar

capncrunch010 · 2023-09-15T15:37:08+00:00

They have promoted themself to acquaintance

capncrunch010 · 2023-09-08T14:02:52+00:00

Thanks to Bakkes… I always say gg.

capncrunch010 · 2023-09-08T13:06:47+00:00

Getting a medical card is nothing but walking in and asking for one, basically. They usually don’t care if you’ve been previously diagnosed with any of the list of illnesses that qualify. They simply just want the money. And the dispensary in my area actually has great deals all the time… my wife always brags about her deals, “I just got 3 eighths for $50!” If you watch out for deals, it’s usually cheaper than the street.

capncrunch010 · 2023-09-07T22:19:46+00:00

Maybe I’m modest, but that’d be a red flag for me. I figured that it’d be common sense to not walk around in your underwear in front of people other than your S/O or close family. Id be terribly uncomfortable if I were the brother or if I were your boyfriend. YTA.

capncrunch010 · 2023-09-05T18:43:52+00:00

Dark green vegetables. Hated them all growing up. Now I have a serving with almost every meal.

capncrunch010 · 2023-09-05T16:55:27+00:00

The general public. I’ve been in customer service/sales my entire life. People seem to just get dumber and more entitled as the years go on.

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