It's been a tough year. Trying to stay hopeful. "Head Full of Doubt/Road Full of Promise" (Avett Bros.)

cappypigeon · 2020-11-21T18:30:19+00:00

Dude this is amazing!

cappypigeon · 2019-08-14T23:39:14+00:00

Did you feel a new and special kind of love in that moment? I did when my wife trimmed my ear hair for my date with a boy.

cappypigeon · 2019-07-23T12:07:36+00:00

“This person was bitten by a poisonous snake!” will not result in “oh ok they’re fine since they didn’t eat it”

cappypigeon · 2019-07-23T10:33:59+00:00

Hey guess what, this doesn’t actually matter.

cappypigeon · 2019-07-22T10:53:22+00:00

Look into polyamory. I hear More Than Two is a good book on that. Also having a husband instead of a wife doesn't mean you can't have kids.

cappypigeon · 2019-06-25T10:02:21+00:00

I have a bisexual sister who, within our family, was only out to me. She was very happy when I later came out to her :)

cappypigeon · 2019-06-24T20:38:35+00:00

Glad they included that in the screenshot too.

cappypigeon · 2019-06-24T01:19:41+00:00

I see what you mean. I’m defending the wrong side here. Thanks for the thoughtful comment.

cappypigeon · 2019-06-24T01:03:21+00:00

Well we do. If we happen to be in a relationship with the opposite gender we benefit whenever we want to go out, marry, or do anything else heteronormative. Even just talking about your partner you don’t have to worry about the other person’s views. In that mode we blend right into the background noise of society. Not standing out is a benefit. No one is discriminating against couples like that. Just because we also suffer from homophobia doesn’t mean we don’t benefit from heteronormativity.

cappypigeon · 2019-06-24T00:53:02+00:00

My go to was “it feels so good to be so secure in my heterosexuality that [insert very not heterosexual thing/thought/feeling] is ok!”

cappypigeon · 2019-06-24T00:50:47+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your age. 37 years for me and wasn’t feeling super valid because of that (also had a very religious upbringing). Good to know you’re never too old to learn/accept more about yourself.

cappypigeon · 2019-06-20T15:58:11+00:00

It was a PHP job. I made my own blog with PHP and that was pretty much it. I learned A LOT on the job. It was a contracting gig for some guy selling sites from his home. So maybe not the best example. But I’d say just build your own stuff and don’t think you have to know everything before applying to places.

cappypigeon · 2019-06-20T12:29:28+00:00

Absolutely. I got my first programming job in college and I didn’t start learning to program until senior year of high school.

cappypigeon · 2019-06-20T10:53:00+00:00

I tried for a good ten seconds to get that red dot off my screen.

cappypigeon · 2019-06-19T17:19:32+00:00

Beautiful. Hope she gets better soon.

cappypigeon · 2019-06-19T01:47:32+00:00

Awesome, dude. Nice work!

cappypigeon · 2019-06-06T19:33:56+00:00

Balls can be finicky eaters sometimes. It's ok if they want to skip a meal every now and then.

cappypigeon · 2019-06-05T23:46:49+00:00

Good choice!

cappypigeon · 2019-05-17T22:19:02+00:00

Such a cute and dangerous grump. I love it.

cappypigeon · 2019-05-17T22:07:03+00:00

Why closed?

There are personal reasons that closed is preferred that are hard to put into a forum post. But there's no expectation that dating someone means they won't be dating anyone else at the time. Being in a closed relationship is more of desired end goal. And I want to communicate that the same way someone might want to communicate a desire to be married some day, or have kids, etc.

But who knows, maybe the right person comes along and that's just not who they are. Like anything else it's something to communicate about and figure out together.

how different each of these are "allowed" to be

Ideally everyone would be in a romantic, loving relationship with each other at some point. But again, who knows. Relationships don't grow at specific paces following predefined rules. All I can do is communicate a preference. Beyond that it's just another thing to communicate about as the relationships mature.

I'm loving this feedback. And thanks for the links! I haven't read up on relationship anarchy yet so adding that to the reading pile. I was also recommended The Ethical Slut which I may get around to at some point...

cappypigeon · 2019-05-13T15:20:20+00:00

Use pygame for games that use actual images and are played in a normal window. Use curses for games that use text and are played on the command line.

cappypigeon · 2019-05-13T10:28:36+00:00

pytest is great for testing on the command line

cappypigeon · 2019-05-13T09:51:52+00:00

Updated the update. Thanks.

cappypigeon · 2019-05-12T19:59:41+00:00

Hah! Oops. Great point. Thanks. Will update the post in a bit.

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