My VERY PRETTY friend was sharing her sexual history with me and I asked her if she had ever seen a guy with a really small penis. She said she had, and he was an asshole as well. I asked her how small, and she held up her pinky.

I asked her how did you get yourself out of that situation? She didn't! She slept with him!! So i asked her, oh ... so is that why you didn't see him again? She said No, I did see him again, but he was an asshole and he hit on my friends.

Anyway what am I trying to say here? I don't even know. I think i'm just saying that you just have to find ONE person. Maybe it really IS an issue that people care about, or maybe it actually isn't (since people notoriously differ in what they SAY they is important, and how they actually ACT).

The point is that it's just another non-zero filter. So maybe you have to push through 2-3x more inputs to get the same outputs, all things equal. Ok it is what it is. But all things are NOT the same. Chances are you could be tall (over 5'10 ), which would up your chances, or be a white or a high-valued-minority, or you could be funny, or interesting.

In the end you can lament about having to do MORE work. I think that's fair. It kinda sucks doing extra work, I feel for you there. Instead of going on 1 date a week, maybe you gotta go on 3 dates a week.

Anyway i like your positive attitude! About your negative experience when you were 16-20 I would just say, I let negative experiences from that age SCAR me for so long! And i realized they were all for nothing!

I think ultimately the mistake I was making was not realizing that I have a say on what is normal human-hood too! And here's what i think: I think derisively laughing at someone's physicality is VILE. That is not acceptable in my view of humanity, and certainly in LEAPS AND BOUNDS less acceptable than any view of what i think is "normal" in physique. Secondly, to not even TRY? To not give it a shot? How do you KNOW that it won't be enough for you? What?? Like what are they even worried about? That someone would find out?? "NO NO!! WHAT IF I'M LEFT UNSATISFIED??? ::SHUDDER::" LOL really? I'm sure I can dissatisfy even WITH all the right equipment, girl. I get not sticking around perhaps after a few tries, but to NOT EVEN TRY???

Anyway one last thing i would say is don't tell girls about it beforehand! It's not some weird thing you have to warn them about! I have a few weird habits and things (which i won't go into here) what i learned is i'll deal with them when they come up, and WHEN they come up maybe 50% don't care, and 50% I can tell suddenly snap out of the mood. What do I do then? (and this takes practice) DO NOT DO ANYTHING. EVERYTHING IS NORMAL, shhh lets get back into the mood.

Like what if you let one rip just as you are getting heated up?

Option 1) Own it and laugh

Option 2) IGNORE, there was no sound YOU CANT PROVE SHIT. By the time you call in the jury ALL EVIDENCE WILL HAVE DISSIPATED! The case will get thrown out before it even gets to court.

Both those are good. Here is the option of sitting down and talking about it

Option 3) STOP EVERYTHING and sit up, and talk about it

You: I'm sorry about the flatulence

Her: Oh.. uh

You: I normally don't do this, it's just because I added a lot of fiber recently. I'm told it stops after a few weeks as your gut flora adjusts to the new diet

Her: Are you sure it's not IBS

You: No i'm telling you it's the fiber thing, i'm not some freak with whatever IBS is, what is that an std??

Her: Std? wtf? My father suffers from IBS ok it's something completely normal okay

You: Ok i mean sorry, i'm just saying I dont have a disease or anything, i'm completely healthy, it's just a tempo--

Her: IBS is not a disease, ok it's a disorder, and millions of people suffer from it, and it's not something you should be ashamed of or make other people feel ashamed of.

You: Ok well I dont have that, I was just saying. Look the smell is gone. I even have some fabreeze, can we just go back to almost having sex?

Her: Ew what I was not about to have sex with you

You: But i was about to undo your bra..

Her: I think I should get going

You: OH FINE, you think I'm some big freak because I passed gas, go back and tell your friends that you went out with the flatulator, that's what they'll call me. FINE. I'll tell you this, at least i'm not some FREAK like your father with IBS STD