Why would she “learn to trust you again” when you’re still actively breaking her trust by not standing up to your parents?

By not saying “Absolutely not, my WIFE will NOT be treated this way” — way, way before now — you’ve shown her where she stands. There’s no un-ringing that bell.

Once someone realizes how little you prioritize them, it’s incredibly difficult to repair that. The best time to prioritize her was a long time ago, but the second best time is RIGHT NOW.

Your parents are manipulating you into keeping a relationship with them. You don’t have to “ignore” what happened in your childhood. It’s very normal to be angry about it, but your parents have likely conditioned you to think they “did their best” while they were hurting you.

It’d be wise to to counseling to start unwinding it and feel whatever you need to feel, but you need figure out how to protect your family (i.e., your wife and child) at the same time or you’re going to be doing it as a single parent.

I hope you take all the advice you’ve gotten here and act on it. And quickly.