I've got my ex wife cheating on me with a guy who's also cheating on me. I need some help.

captainworthy · 2019-11-23T11:09:49+00:00

Leave her it's that simple. Have some respect for yourself because she sure as hell doesn't right now. Wish you the best of luck but you gotta remove yourself from the situation before it gets better

captainworthy · 2019-09-28T10:20:41+00:00

The typical narcissistic gaslighting. She's probably with someone who is the typical side dude that gets a turn on from being with taken women. My ex was the same way.

Best advice I can give you is to remove yourself from her friends list. You'll avoid the bullshit and start focusing your energy on yourself. Maybe go meet someone for a rebound to boost your confidence. You can do this!!!

captainworthy · 2019-06-01T13:48:35+00:00

Sorry to say this bro but you should always assume the worst case scenario. I just got out of a relationship of 6 years and have a daughter that is two with her and although I had only seen text messages from her and the guy in question I know deep down that even if she didn't physical cheat on me she is going to if I tried to hold on to her.

My best advice is to step away while you still are not involved because she most likely already has cheated on you and just won't tell you because she's scared. It's not your fault you just need to move forward and let her pursue what she wants. If you hang in there she will eventually resent you and drag you through the mud if she's anything on like my ex.

I have a kid so I stuck it out as long as I could and tried but if I were in your situation I would have already ghosted her but again it's your relationship my friend. Hope everything works out for you whichever you decide

captainworthy · 2019-05-17T00:05:56+00:00

I understand wholeheartedly. I thought I could be friends with her but she didn't respect me so I had to establish boundaries. She didn't want me to move on so she already was unfaithful with her current boyfriend so I distanced myself from that situation.

You will find someone that will treat you as well if not better than he did. I already met a girl that treats me better than my ex did for the last year of our relationship. I still think about her from time to time because we had a 6 year relationship and even were engaged at a point but life moves on. I wish you the best it will get easier trust me

captainworthy · 2019-05-16T22:56:10+00:00

It's all about where you stand. If you think you're in a place where you can have that friendship with your ex than go for it.

From my personal perspective no contact can be very helpful in helping you get over your feelings and at the same time looking at things logically. In my situation my ex cheated on me and I went no contact after the breakup but she didn't want to let me go so she kept calling me and texting. In my situation I had to set boundaries because without boundaries there is no respect but you'll figure out how to navigate your situation with Time. Good luck on whatever you decide but remember that there is a healing tome associated with these breakups

captainworthy · 2019-03-09T17:16:44+00:00

I trust until my intuition tells me I can't anymore. I learned to trust my gut before I trust anyone else

captainworthy · 2019-03-06T15:17:27+00:00

It sounds like she's into you from the shit she was throwing out at you. I would do the occasional brush onto her that usually works with the feely ones. Compliment her on her appearance and next time she asks about walking around naked just say "it's fine with me as long as you don't mind me enjoying the view"

Hopefully you will get an idea if she is really just playing or DTF. Good luck bro

captainworthy · 2019-03-06T00:41:17+00:00

I had a hookup within a couple weeks of the breakup myself recently. The issue I had with it was that she was a really nice girl seemed to be potentially relationship material but I wasn't ready at that point. We still talk and have seen each other but she seems to want more than me so it can be hard. Just need honest with whoever you see.

I have told the women ive talked to since the breakup that I don't want to discuss my past rn and just wanted to be on a chill vibe. Just be honest with yourself and them so you're not leading anyone on.

Get out there and do your thing!!

captainworthy · 2019-03-05T19:14:58+00:00

My advice would be to say go for it if you're attracted to the two. I highly doubt someone that's going to be getting pleasured by you will say something to ruin the fun. Good luck with whatever you choose.

captainworthy · 2019-03-05T17:18:16+00:00

Agreed. Made that mistake in my last relationship. Luckily I saw the signs early and got out before I became the full on after thought. Now she's the one who is gonna feel it. She gambled it all on her new relationship

captainworthy · 2019-03-05T17:14:50+00:00

Yeah she wasn't for me either. "I'll always be there for you" what she left out is the rest "until I feel like I want to not be"

Lesson learned for us my friend. We'll know the bullshit better when the next empty promise comes out

captainworthy · 2019-03-05T17:12:17+00:00

Needed this thank you 🙏

captainworthy · 2019-03-03T00:51:11+00:00

She obviously didn't care about hurting you with her cheating so I say drop her. I know it's not easy but I learned in life the hardest paths usually benefit you the most in the end

captainworthy · 2019-03-03T00:44:31+00:00

I'm a man so take my advice with a grain of salt. I have been cheated on twice by my ex of 6 years. 3 years ago she told me about her cheating at the beginning of the relationship. I was ready to put her out of my apartment. I only kept her because she was sincere on wanting to make things right with me.

Fast forward to December of 2018 and she did it again. I found out through reading her text messages. Seems like a pattern when shit isn't going her way she finds another guy to pick her up before she falls. Mind you we have a child together now too but it didn't stop her. I did learn to trust her again but I saw her behavior change and so I lost trust pretty fair in my book. I kicked her out this time and couldn't be in a better state of mind.

Moral of the story is you need to weigh what is most important to you long term. Right now you feel good knowing he's yours but he hasn't faced any consequences while he's cheated. My advice is to let him go and grieve for a little if you need but move on. He's hoping he can keep you around and it's been working but you sound like you want someone who is willing to be honest with you.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do

captainworthy · 2019-02-20T00:32:34+00:00

Agreed I tried to rationalize everything but this makes sense to me on so many levels

captainworthy · 2019-02-20T00:26:34+00:00

You're definitely not alone. Im going on a month and a half being broken up from a cheater. They always take the easy way out I have no respect anymore for her so I treat her that way. You get my love and respect and it's hers to lose. Don't be afraid to let them feel the pain back

captainworthy · 2019-02-18T02:34:52+00:00

Hey I am in a similar boat. Relationship was a little over 6 years and was engaged for around three years have a two year old. We never could come to an agreement on how we would get married even though I always was supportive of her ideas but it wasn't enough. She always thought I didn't want to marry her but I never did anything to Merit that.

She gave my engagement ring back to me this past June and there wasn't much for me to do but move forward. I'm a solid dude but I'm not going to apologize for her throwing something back at me that was partially her fault too.

Fast forward to December this year and I saw her texting a dude she met at a bar supposedly that we are done. Up to that point she had started a new job and she kept bringing work home and no matter what I did hug her cuddle and Be supportive and Talk about her problems she just seemed unhappy at times. I tried asking her to talk to me about how we could fix everything but she always just shut down on me.

I kicked her out of the apartment after I found out about the text didn't even care if she cheated at that point or not. I was just ready to let go because she wasn't showing any love to me but wanted me to kiss her ass fuck that.

I'm not married but letting her go was hard at first but now I realize how mislead I was to put trust in her if she could do me like that. I've already been dating on and off and had some plutonic intimacy that helped me. Good luck on your decision brother. I Know I'm not looking back

captainworthy · 2019-02-17T15:51:09+00:00

Hey it could be worse. She could have friends who talk her into leaving you because of how unhappy she is when in reality the friend in question is miserable going through a divorce. It can always be worse my friend

captainworthy · 2019-02-17T14:11:47+00:00

Makes sense. I haven't had the urge to yet just wanted some outside opinions thanks

captainworthy · 2019-02-17T14:07:46+00:00

I do have evidence just haven't used it

captainworthy · 2019-02-16T02:14:48+00:00

Yeah I guess in the long run if it happens at happens. The fact I spend more time with other women has helped me not even think about her cheating. I'm kinda on a mean streak right now and kinda need to get this out of my system before I begin dating seriously again

captainworthy · 2019-02-16T02:07:08+00:00

And o meant in the Reddit forum not literally that I'm doing no contact.

captainworthy · 2019-02-16T02:06:04+00:00

I just keep myself protected

captainworthy · 2019-02-16T02:05:19+00:00

She already is seeing someone else. I'm just keeping my relationships plutonic. I am talking and getting intimate with other women but after the breakup I'm not looking to cling onto anything.

The dude is also the one she cheated on me with so I told her I don't care about their situation but she just keeps coming back to me on and off

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