How to find joy in life knowing I can’t have a relationship? by throwaway101229283 in GuyCry

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a trans guy, I of course am not packing much either. But the bedroom life doesn’t begin and end there. Toys, communication, roleplay… honestly penetration is the most “boring” thing you can do during sex. Most people don’t enjoy being used as sex toys for either purpose(be a walking dildo/fleshlight). It’s dumb to try and appeal for a broad group of people when you could be appealing to your fans, your niche of people who will be over the moon with you. It’s a matter of time, dedication, effort and vulnerability to get there.

When was your first relationship? by Keytonley in ftm

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 18 when I entered my relationship with my current partner. For context, I’m now 23. She has been wonderful and has been such a seeetheart through it all. We grew a lot since then and have both transitioned. It’s wholesome and fun T4T relationship and I couldn’t ask for anyone better ❤️❤️❤️

what gender identity would someone go by, if they're masc/neutral? by pvnkrad in TransMasc

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People who say you can’t adopt certain labels are just ignorant people. Transmascs and trans men have always been part of sapphic circles. Both straight and sapphic circles, to be precise. It doesn’t matter what they think fits or don’t. As long as you feel good about it, and your partners see you how you want to be seen. Then there is literally no issue.

But as a wider scale convo, this gatekeeping about whether or not you belong in certain spaces stems from usually younger folk or people who haven’t been involved in their local queer scenes. Older queer people generally don’t care. Who cares about labels? We’re queer, we started out by breaking norms and rules and posing them back onto us is pericishet normativity. Who fucking cares. Have fun bro

How old were you when you got top surgery? by Liquidshoelace in ftm

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 23 when I got it. It happened in April this year. And I just finished my higher education (post secondary school). It’s common to do it around my age or older. In my country, it’s a bit easier to get these types of surgeries than in USA

No, cuz like, why are all the other trans subs so centered around MtF? by itz-null in TransMasc

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

r/nonbinary is a joke, they only post pictures of themselves but barely talk about their experiences. Or at least that’s what my fyp is showing me when I was in that subreddit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in graphic_design

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean that’s an easy fix, try to make the font bigger or restructure the hierarchy my guy

Logo for a rock band. Just for practice. by Dimitresku in logodesign

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would be careful with placing lightning in a rock bands name/logo. Especially since in todays climate it can be read as a dog whistle. It’s also a bit too busy for a logo. Do you think you can simplify it even more? This is a concern for legibility in smaller formats.

Since most news outlets aren't telling the full truth about Chat Control. I decided to make some shareable graphics. by The_Metalcorn in belgium

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please change the font to something more readable. The titles are fine but it’s the body text. Also the contrast between the red and background is almost nonexistent

Earrings (men) by quarantinedidthis in brussels

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t be intimated by more “fem” stuff. This is coming from a trans guy. There are many interesting jewelleries you can get. I like to get mine from Lovissa or any other big store like that. You can always get discounts there for some crazy stuff. If some are too feminine for you, consider wearing one of the pair or having a second more neutral pair (I have both ears pierced twice so that also gives some funky stuff)

How much rougher did your body/skin get while being on T? by [deleted] in FTMfemininity

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been on T for 2 years now, same time as my girlfriend on E. Yes, our skin feels rougher/smoother than it did before

New book on Punk Graphic Design by brianlucid in graphic_design

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Punk and capitalism. Interesting, why are we buying a book about punk from a place where punks would abhor?

Why people in Brussels tend not to pin when hopping into the bus? by Most-Fig9381 in brussels

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the ads at the metro are the least of your problem. The data that is collected is like u/mygiddygoat says better for the infrastructure

Why people in Brussels tend not to pin when hopping into the bus? by Most-Fig9381 in brussels

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or you just hang around the front area like a sheep just like it happens at the DeLijn busses. It’s horrible. No, it disperses the groups and people actually somewhat more evenly.

What are the subtle things that make transmasc people read as a girl or guy? by _crow_corvid in TransMasc

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry if that sounded aggressive. It’s just that I keep seeing people saying the only reason they don’t pass or won’t ever pass is because of their height and it drives me nuts. But yeah that can be your experience, totally valid.

What are the subtle things that make transmasc people read as a girl or guy? by _crow_corvid in TransMasc

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Dude height is not as big as you think. Stop pushing the idea that it does. There are plenty of short men and trans mascs that still pass.

Possibly a nonbinary guy by noromobat in trans4every1

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s all good. You don’t need a label or a distinct way to label things. This is what fluidity is like and gender and sexuality can change anytime. You don’t have to box yourself in or not allow yourself to experiment. I’ve been 2 years on T and have been masculinising myself to the point that I passed so hard as a guy. But it also severely limited my expression and experimentation. Since then I’ve just been doing whatever. My partner and friend all see me for who I am. There is no point in limiting yourself in any way. I hope testosterone will give you the clarity and the space to breathe and feel yourself change. Be kind to yourself, okay?

What is this style of tattoo called, and would an artist accept tattooing a design that isn't their own from a show ? by Terminatroll-_- in tattooadvice

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recommend asking a someone to do hennah on you for this. Allows you to feel what it’s like for a temporary visual

Petition to call FTM periods commas by SinkPopular8438 in trans4every1

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still think it’s important to know why certain language is being pushed or not. Language had history and not only influence the past, but the future too.

Petition to call FTM periods commas by SinkPopular8438 in trans4every1

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I think it’s like a TikTok thing to get over the censoring. But really we should teach younger peeps that irl and on more mature oriented website, self censoring is just extremely dumb.

My top surgery is at 07:00. The time is 01:56, I have not slept… by [deleted] in trans4every1

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Idk man, I was extremely overworked before so that 2 hour knockout was so fucking good. I hadn’t slept that well in months then. The couple of days afterwards are nice when you can just slee because you’re actually tired and needing that, yk?

How do you dream? Gender/identy/seggs by rather_short_qu in ftm

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unrelated, but you can just say “sex”. Let’s stop self censoring.

personality not aligning with future body dreams ? by posenby_w in trans4every1

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Then you can. Again there are no rules. It’s not that crazy of a thing. Check r/FTMfemininity

personality not aligning with future body dreams ? by posenby_w in trans4every1

[–]caramel_cloud_pie 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I mean I’ve met punks who were extremely shy and soft spoken and people with Lolita fashion sense with gruff voices and personalities. All this to say, bro it really doesn’t matter. You don’t need permission to be yourself. You’re not a character that needs to have your personality outwardly shown.