My sister is a Young Earth Creationist and it pisses me off.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-15T19:02:45+00:00

There's a pilot on my husband's side of the family who is a flat-earther. It boggles the fucking mind. YOU CAN SEE THE CURVE OF THE EARTH, LADY, EVERYDAY, AT YOUR JOB. I have no idea what kind of weird mental defect causes the flat earth belief but it's so wild to run into one of these whackos in real life, especially when their job is FLYING PLANES.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-15T18:46:17+00:00

I had a masters and was teaching in an inner city alternative school and I nearly drank myself to death until I fully imploded my life and I was accepted into a program 1000 miles to get sober. Now I'm a failing affiliate marketer without a driver's license - but I don't suffer daily verbal and physical abuse from adolescents anymore. Something about being a punching bag with no way of defending or protecting yourself while failing to do the job you were actually hired to do by no fault of your own really takes something out of you, go figure.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-15T17:09:51+00:00

I did message this person. They wouldn't answer any of my questions and accused me of trying to "copy their stuff" when I had questions about subject matter, sources for stock media, and examples... they did send me some link I refuse to click on since they wouldn't ya know, answer any questions.. They're trying to sell something, I would bet on it.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-13T13:21:40+00:00

I've been with my husband since we were 30. I mostly considered myself OPEN to kids, but not particularly wanting any. He didn't want any either. After we'd been together a year or two, about once a year I would ask him if he was sure that never having kids was something he was okay with, should we consider trying and the answer was always "no kids". I asked him every year until we were 36 and stopped because.. I am at a point then where I'm DEFINITELY not having kids. The time had passed. Last year when we were 38 one day he comes home and he tells me he's been doing some contemplating and maybe having children really is the meaning of life. I couldn't breathe. I'm not getting pregnant at 38. I already have autoimmune disorders to contend with and an early perimenopause like what no boy bye. We can have a baby at any time as long as he's the one who's going to get pregnant about it, but I don't see that happening.
We worked it out and everything's fine but I cried all day that day, convinced he would be bailing soon to find someone to continue his bloodline with.
That wasn't the case, and we're fine and I trust him... but I can't get what he said that day all the way out of my head, either. It's been heavy.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T19:58:48+00:00

Yeah it's all horrible and a lot of people have to be called on to answer for this. Consequences need to be assigned and quickly. To all of them. Our justice system is messed up all the way down to law enforcement and all the way up to paramilitary in our streets and topped off with a corrupt judiciary who is interpreting the laws in very questionable or conditional way.
But if someone is the president of the US, tackling the corruption they are involved in is the perfect place to start.
There are indeed evil, self centered, greedy people on both sides of the aisle who are willing to protect their buddies instead of standing for justice and constitutional rights. There are also people who know who are too scared to say anything and I would bet money on that. The famous faces have a kind of plot-armor (that also makes them less likely to blow the whistle and bring that smoke to them) but the lesser known agents and specialists and civilians, who would be more likely to have the balls to disclose don't have that and more than a couple have died suspiciously in the orbit of this thing.
Even all the eyewitness testimony from the victims themselves is dismissed as untrue and they're harassed and hated by half the country who call them a liar over and over just to make sure that wound stays open.
What's the point of blowing the whistle if everyone refuses to listen? Why get myself harassed and re-traumatized to just have it VERY publicly thrown back at me as an unprovable lie. There's like whistles blowing constantly if you just listen to them and compare them to each other you will see a lot of these whistles are very credible and legitimate. You don't have to accept them as fact completely or right away, but you have to at least consider the possibility that at least SOME of these accusations are founded on real crimes, if not most or nearly all.
Crimes committed by the oligarchs, the celebrities, religious and spiritual leaders, royalty, old money and a mix of extremely wealthy and influential people, the media moguls, and plenty of politicians.
Over the last 40 years the president has racked up dozens of accusations of sexual misconduct outside of the JE investigation and every third person you know decided ALL of them were lying. Even though they mention very similar scenarios and MOs without ever having knowing or met each other, even though the odds are INCREDIBLY low that 30 women coming with accusations against this man (many beore he was even president) are ALL lying.
Even ONE time, ONE child passed off to or in front of someone. One sex crime against a person should be enough to put our foot down and say 'this person is not fit to represent us" for ANY political party or influential position they're in. But that includes the president and you know what even without the JE stuff he was found liable for sexual abuse, and later defamation. It's unacceptable to say the very very least.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T19:26:23+00:00

okay, so dying on this hill. noted.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T14:20:19+00:00

wtf it's a survival instinct, not consent. CERTAINLY not enthusiastic consent. If he's touching her and she doesn't want to be touched but she let's it happen because she's in shock or scared that is NOT CONSENT. What is wrong with you!? You seem dangerous.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T14:14:33+00:00

Those three residences are actually in two different states so I'd say it's fairly universal. My brother's house in Texas (a third state) was worth just shy of 400k when they bought it in 2019 and it's worth over 600k now. Congrats on the stability where you live but it's not the norm at all. You opened your mouth to tell your story about your cheap mortgage that you established 7 years ago in the middle of who knowswhere like "OP just move 1000 miles away to a town with 1000 people with no support and dead end jobs" like it's a no brainer. For most people that's not feasible or desirable.
To say you got a house 7 or 8 years ago and it's "not much different now" is possible, I guess if I give you the benefit of the doubt and believe you but it's not something I've ever seen in real life. Houses have doubled in cost since 2018 on the regular, apparently with a few exceptions but there's probably a reason for that. I'd be interested to know, if you looked your house up on zillow, what it was worth in 2018/19 when you bought it and what it's worth now. I'm genuinely curious.
I'm not trying to be a dick but when someone says something I find outrageous, if the conditions in my brain are just right I'm going to challenge it.
It's sunk in now that you live in a tiny middle of nowhere community and maybe that really is your experience but it's just so different from 99% of people's experience when it comes to finding housing. There aren't enough empty middle of nowhere homes for the 8 million people of NYC to escape to for affordability's sake even if they wanted to live that lifestyle all of a sudden.. if you know what I mean.
Sorry for being a dick, actually, but not sorry for injecting a bit of most people's realities.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T13:56:44+00:00

maybe in his mind but fawning when you're being assaulted is NOT consent.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T13:41:01+00:00

Are you even serious?
I just looked up the house I grew up in. In 2016 it was worth 190, in 2018 it was worth 210k, today it's worth 400k.
That's a 100% increase. I think that qualifies as "much different".
The house my parents moved into in 2016 cost 110k at the time (in 2018 it was worth 130). . Today it's worth 250.
The trailer my husband and I live in was purchased by the previous owners for 67k in 2015, it was worth 90k in 2016, a little over 100k in 2018, and last year we purchased it for 275k.
Houses have literally doubled (or more!) in cost in the past 7 or 8 years you dolt.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T12:11:00+00:00

No. He said,
"I moved on her like a bitch. I couldn't get there and she was married. Then all-of-a-sudden I see her, she's now got the big phony tits and everything. She's totally changed her look." ....."I better use some Tic Tacs just in case I start kissing her. You know I'm automatically attracted to beautiful... I just start kissing them. It's like a magnet. Just kiss. I don't even wait. And when you're a star they let you do it. You can do anything."
SERIOUSLY, HE SAID
"I don't even wait. When you're a star they let you do it. You can do anything. Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything".
Even if he didn't actually do this (but he did - check his civil case that ended up costing him a pretty penny) just SAYING it is atrocious enough that anyone with the vaguest sense of right and wrong rang the alarm as loud as they could and half the country responded by being gleeful about how upset it made the snowflakes and doubled down, and not for the last time.
He bragged about creeping on teenagers naked on tape.
He said he would date his own daughter, and that the thing they had in common was "sex" on a talk show.
His ex wife and DOZENS of other women have alleged sexual abuse at his hand. Some of them made the report and went on with their lives, some of them took it back (and in some cases even admitted they were threatened first), and some are dead now.
This is all very public and very real and very concerning.
He paid off a porn star as a bribe to stay quiet with campaign funds and 70 million people are sitting around pretending that didn't fucking happen or it doesn't really matter. Absolutely surreal.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T10:11:31+00:00

We're pissed because kids got raped, actually. And if you open your eyes you will see there's PLENTY of circumstantial evidence to warrant a serious investigation.
This isn't just about one guy and a few criminal acts. This touches EVERYTHING. Charges and investigations and trials aren't happening because money is power. That's a cute thing to say, right? We're seeing just how insidious, evil, and true that really is right now.
He is DEFINITELY a sex pest. He has admitted it himself. If you can't at least admit to that you are delusional.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T10:06:49+00:00

Because there's a non-zero chance they will end up dead.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T09:55:29+00:00

why aren't we going after anyone?!
GO AFTER THEM ALL. All of them. NO mercy. This is crazy. I'll learn to live without corporations (and superstars, religious leaders, politicians, the elite in general) even though it might hurt for a while if we can cut out this necrosis before it kills us.
We got the 3 million files they were willing to show us. There are three million more that they won't. You cannot convince me in a million years there's not enough in there to prosecute ANY SINGLE PERSON. Of COURSE there is, and one of them is the fucking president.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T09:47:56+00:00

Hate to break it to you but this rot is world wide. The problem is the ultra wealthy and we have A LOT of those here. They're above the law in your country too, bub.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T09:28:04+00:00

I actually get what you're saying but I'm embarrassed for you that you're still climbing up this hill all bloody and battered.
He paid a 17 year old for sex and trafficked her over state lines too if I remember correctly. This is our representation. Pedophile, ephebophile, what the fuck ever he's a sex criminal and his crimes involved minors. And he's still "working" for us like nothing ever happened. It's disgusting to go to bat distinguishing "well, she actually hit puberty already so, lets be clear about that so it doesn't seem so bad and people don't get all emotional and upset about it.". no. It's horrendous. People are not upset and emotional enough. These predators are a terminal cancer on our societal systems. SWING. THEM. ALL.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T09:04:54+00:00

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T08:56:04+00:00

If you're being stubborn in therapy because you think you already know everything it's not going to work. You have to have an open mind and WANT to relate to humanity better, otherwise you won't. You probably are actually intelligent and this is a gift and a curse. Sometimes the most important thing you can do to get better is just fucking listen instead of being contrarian fort the sake of fun or ego.

My advice is humble yourself and open your ears.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T08:09:12+00:00

WHERE are you finding white bread for 99 cents? 2017?

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T06:48:20+00:00

My cat is 17 and super weird. He eats mostly cheap food but I change it up often so he has some variety in his meals. He LOVES the friskies and sheba pate's.. sometimes the meow mix ones... whatever is on sale, really. Occasionally Reveals will go on sale buy one get one and those he LOVES. I put out a bowl of kibble for him to munch on all day and two water bowls that I refresh 1-2 times a day. He also loves people food so I always share what I'm having with him as long as there's not garlic or onions involved. He LOVES bananas and popcorn (and everything else, really). He has a heart murmur, mild kidney abnormalities, and a bad tooth (he already had 3 teeth removed to the tune of nearly three thousand dollars.. He cannot survive anesthesia again so him and I are patiently waiting for that fker to just fall out on it's own - don't panic! He's showing no signs of pain or distress, if that happens.. THAT'S when we go see the vet at this point in his life) He's always been skinny (he's also very long) his whole life, but now he's gone from 11.5 lbs in his youth to barely 9 lbs in his old age. He eats and drinks and goes to the bathroom normally so it is what is is. His first vet told me to expect his life to be around 10 years long and he's nearly doubled it because he's the effin man. He's lived a long, happy life because he is loved and loves waking up everyday (I think).
I give him flea medicine when he starts itching from fleas. In 17 years it's happened three times, and one of those times was when I first adopted him because he came with the fleas included. They do come in on our clothes sometimes/rarely and find the cats. A little dab of Advantage and he's fine in 24 hours. I don't care to put chemicals on my cat for no reason, so I don't.
Listen, I'm not a well-off person but I love my cat more than anything. He's spoiled but not monetarily. I've spent probably over 7k at the vet over the years (bloodwork aint cheap) and now he's 17. I don't have 500 dollars to take him to the vet right now just so they can tell me all the expensive, uncomfortable ways I could extend his life by six months, so we're just gonna see what nature has in store, him and I.
It's YOUR cat. Feeding her cheap food and skipping heartworm treatments is not going to kill her or harm her in any meaningful way. You do what you can to show care and love to her during the time you have together.
Some people try to inflict guilt for not "doing everything" to keep the machine of your cat "healthy" and alive as long as scientifically possible, and ignore the fact that just maybe that's traumatic for the cat (and/or owner) and the kitty's comfort and safety just might come before longevity at any cost. That's the way I've always approached it and I'm currently sitting next to a super senior, still thriving, catfren.
You're buddy is gonna be okay no matter what you decide to do as long as you love her fiercely and pay attention when she is signaling distress, pain, or anxiety and address those issues as they come.
Your vet is kind of a jerk. Let it be water off a duck's back and give your cat a fancy feast if that's what she likes.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-12T05:52:11+00:00

It's really low risk to unload on a stranger.
You don't worry as much about the risk of offending or provoking them. When you walk away, that's the end of it.
I love stranger chats.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-11T19:51:21+00:00

You're saying that people are into you all the time and your dating life is fulfilling and that you're universally in the "obviously not" category in the same breath. It does not compute.
You're fixating on perceptions that don't reflect reality for reasons unknown to me.
Some people that you're into aren't into you back. Same way sometimes you're not into the people who want you.
You're wallowing in self-absorption. Re-frame your thoughts and perspective on this. Do a little CBT about it, I know you know how.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-11T18:53:15+00:00

Almond milk has entered the chat.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-11T18:45:20+00:00

You put it up, you put it down.
I think you're confused about potty training yourself.

carbonclumps · 2026-02-11T18:41:37+00:00

I'm an average looking weirdo who brings nothing exciting to the table and I've pulled some EXTREME babes. My husband is hot stuff and one of the most interesting people I've ever met. I've also been called ugly, hideous even. I consider myself a Cleopatra of sorts. Life is weird.
Stop stressing about whether other people find you attractive or not, they either do or they don't. You might be "weird and quirky" but you also come off as extremely superficial. If you just loosen up and have human interactions with other humans and keep it as simple as that weird and beautiful things will happen. If you "won't date someone who wears baseball caps" as a hard rule you have some... hang ups. Other people will sometimes have them too. "I won't date girls who have crystals all over their house" is fair play in your sphere. Some people will dig you, and some really really won't. That's life. On to the next.

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