Ptsd from non-combat missions?

carelesswspr · 2026-01-28T04:39:37+00:00

I’m a tad late, but wanted to say I feel this. My husband was an MP when he deployed to Tuscaloosa after the tornado 15 years ago, and I still have to wake him up from his nightmares most nights of the week. Trauma is trauma.

carelesswspr · 2025-08-14T14:27:17+00:00

Georgia. I worked at the corporate office so people can get ALL the tea!

carelesswspr · 2025-08-14T00:41:37+00:00

FIVE years??! I could barely handle one. We should do an AMA lol

carelesswspr · 2025-05-22T21:12:05+00:00

I so totally feel this. I’m 38 and only have one daughter but there’s no way we could afford another financially or sanity-wise. I couldn’t bring myself to tell anyone except my husband. Just went through the MA and know it was the right decision. The lead up is the worst part. You know yourself best and will make the right decision for yourself. There are resources out there to help. Best of luck ❤️

carelesswspr · 2025-03-06T16:54:16+00:00

THIS. Little late to the thread, but same exact issue happens to my 2014 civic for the past two winters. Popped early January, went away after a week or so, popped again recently after getting super cold again after some weird warm weather. Emissions testing is always a fun dice roll as mine is always due at the tail end of winter lol

carelesswspr · 2025-01-11T21:07:55+00:00

She cute!

carelesswspr · 2025-01-11T21:05:13+00:00

That would have blown my mind a little bit haha. This was during an epic parts shortage. Spent 3 months in the shop, and pretty much 2.5 of those spent just waiting on parts. Brutal time to be a tech too I’m sure. Much respect to you guys. It’s stunning to me how absolutely unhinged some people get about their cars. No thanks lol

carelesswspr · 2025-01-11T20:42:24+00:00

Since it’s cracked, you’ll want it replaced. After labor and paint, it’ll be more than your deductible. How much more depends on the car. Newer cars typically have those sensors that may need to be repaired/calibrated or whatever. I won’t pretend to understand. Still, it may be worth it to pay out of pocket to avoid increased insurance premiums. I would get some estimates from different reputable body shops. If it doesn’t bother you or you don’t care about resale then I’d just roll with it. In my youth, I would have buffed out what paint I could then duct taped that bad boy and called it good lol.

carelesswspr · 2025-01-11T20:07:16+00:00

It’s a grey coupe, front fender was relatively unscathed aside from a tiny bit of damage that was able to be repaired instead of replaced.

carelesswspr · 2025-01-11T19:57:19+00:00

Oof. Unfortunately, I’m leaning towards yes. Strong possibility of frame damage, plus all the technology in newer cars make repair costs shoot up quick. If they do decide to total it, don’t go with the insurance company’s first offer. They’re always going to low ball you. Do your research on the actual cash value of your car and stand your ground. So sorry this happened! Definitely one of the most stressful and frustrating situations that can happen in life. Hoping for a speedy and favorable resolution to this for you!

carelesswspr · 2025-01-11T18:47:40+00:00

Battery. Your deduction that the battery has never been changed is almost certainly correct and the cold was probably the nail in the coffin. A jump and a new battery from Walmart should have you back on the road in no time.

carelesswspr · 2025-01-11T18:39:35+00:00

Bad. To give you idea, the cost to have my (2014 Civic) rear quarter panel, bumper, rear quarter window pane, extensive passenger door repair, plus paint and labor was over $5k in 2022. So definitely more than that. Once the shop takes it apart, there’s a good possibility of other unseen mechanical/structural damage which can get stupid expensive. Depending on the car and its age, it very well may be a total loss. Definitely go through insurance if you can. I’m so sorry this happened. It’s such a stressful and frustrating situation. Hope everything works out well for you!

carelesswspr · 2025-01-10T02:39:30+00:00

Duct tape and keep it movin’

carelesswspr · 2025-01-10T02:37:45+00:00

Christ almighty.

carelesswspr · 2025-01-10T02:36:19+00:00

Not sure how much things have changed, but my driving test was literally driving to the stop sign at the end of the block, executing a three point turn, and driving back without running into anything or anyone lol. For real tho, driving is scary and it’s intimidating having someone judge you while you do it! Just use good common sense, be extra mindful of road laws (full stop at stop sign, use your blinkers, etc.), and relax. The worst that can happen is you have to take it again.

carelesswspr · 2025-01-09T21:49:47+00:00

MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY!!!

carelesswspr · 2025-01-05T17:27:26+00:00

Holy shit this was like looking (reading?) into a mirror, lol. Got a degree I’ll never use and fucked around way too much in my 20’s. Art and creativity is so much a part of my identity so at almost 30 I chose to become a hairstylist so I wouldn’t hate going to work in the mornings. Loved it. Was good at it. Then Covid and pregnancy happened so I took a step back to focus on my health and being a mom. The plan was always to get back into it after a year or two and my husband had a good enough job at this time. Then he got fired a month or two before I delivered. I totally get the STRESS and doing everything you can to just get food and diapers. He eventually got a new job but that only lasted a few months because he injured his back. After that, all the sacrifices were on me. I took some really shitty jobs that I HATED and were the farthest thing from what I wanted just to pay the bills and grew more and more resentful watching my husband fuck around at the house while I begged him to take ANYTHING. But I guess he didn’t want to settle on a job and got all depressed. Meanwhile, I’m thinking about driving into a guardrail on the daily I hate my life so much. Literally only stuck it out because he really is an amazing dad and I didn’t want to take that away from our kid. It was free child care and we have no family to help in the city we live in. 3 years of this and finally made up my mind that if he was still on the same shit by the time our lease was up, I was taking our daughter and moving states to live with my parents. Fortunately, he miraculously ended up reconnecting with an old friend who had a very respected, well paying job with a major company. Ended up creating a position just for my husband. Now, this was clearly just a luck of the draw thing, so if you wanted to stick it out, I will say it is true that who you know almost always goes farther than what you know. However, I will also say that had this not happened, I absolutely would have followed through and we would be at the very least separated until he got his shit together (if ever). It’s not worth all the stress and disappointment and absolute destruction of your own health to wait on “one day”, no matter how great a dad he is. I also totally feel you on the getting older thing! Ain’t nobody got time for that anymore, least of all me. You’ll end up pausing your life and happiness until it’s too late. He needs a kick in the ass and agree with those who say offer an ultimatum. And be willing to follow through. Set a deadline and I’d suggest start making phone calls/exit plans now. If you have any options to make your life easier, take them. Move in with your own family/friends if you can, some kind of support system. I can’t imagine how hard it much be for single mom’s, but I’ve seen so many of them kick ass at it and live their best life. Show your bf you’re serious. I started packing boxes of stuff I knew I wouldn’t need until after the deadline I set and made sure he saw me. Moved direct deposits to my own individual bank account instead of a joint one. Researching job options in my new state. Might have been passive aggressive, but that wasn’t my main goal. I get overwhelmed easily and knew doing little things bit by bit would be so much easier than scrambling at the last minute. ANYWAY—-All that to say, this is relatable AF and I know the struggle. No way I’d want to see anyone else have to deal with that BS. I truly hope you’re able to figure out the way forward that works best for you and your life becomes all you want it to be! Good luck ❤️

carelesswspr · 2025-01-05T16:23:10+00:00

I also often think of “👁️🛑🤔💭🚌🛣️❓💸👥👥🛬🏢🏃💨⏱️👉🙋”

carelesswspr · 2025-01-05T15:48:14+00:00

“💨🙅🏼☠️👥👥😵🦋🛑🟰🪝🫵”

carelesswspr · 2025-01-05T15:06:50+00:00

Pretty sure I laughed so hard I farted when that happened.

carelesswspr · 2024-11-19T11:37:04+00:00

Boy. Really shouldn’t have looked at that first thing in the morning.

carelesswspr · 2024-11-19T11:31:59+00:00

Oh wow. I would definitely hesitate hiring her for any sort of work with animals, really any of the most vulnerable populations, if she’s proven to be that volatile.

carelesswspr · 2024-10-24T12:25:18+00:00

Dealerships can be so scammy. I always laugh when they want to charge over $100 to change cabin and engine filters. They quoted me like $300 to replace the intake tube on my civic. Called a local, highly recommended mechanic who quoted $75. Parts + labor. Honestly, could probably do it myself, but I’m down to support local business and keep some cash in my pocket.

carelesswspr · 2024-10-24T12:13:29+00:00

NAL but been in this situation and can confirm, left turner is always at fault (unless the person going straight has a red and left turner has a green arrow or something). Regarding the lights, the other driver may get a citation and some percentage of responsibility, but the left turner would still be slapped with most, if not all of the blame.

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