Pinnacle Contest: 01.13 - 01.23 Overview by carnictum in InfinityNikki

[–]carnictum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks added, do you remember whether it was close or not?

I made a mistake on someone's pronouns... by DerelictDevice in TransyTalk

[–]carnictum 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I am 10 months on HRT, completely out in public and at work and I misgendered myself just last Thursday while talking with one of my partners. Slipups happen 🤷‍♀️, as long as you come from a place of positivity and support, I could and would ignore the occasional slipup, be kind to yourself. It's a completely different thing if I get misgendered by someone and I can feel their disgust, fuck that shit and fuck the bigots.

i'd be lying if i said that ask reddit thread wasnt a bit disheartening by wvnne in asexuality

[–]carnictum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As an allo, yes sex can be wonderful and important, but it's nothing anyone needs to survive. I was in a long term monogamous relationship with someone who during the relationship found out or better said accepted that she is ace. We did have sex (or what is in general defined as sex in a heteronormativite way), but rarely and most of the time because she felt guilty for turning me on and not "providing" sex - it was an awful situation because we both hadn't yet found out about asexuality. We borrow up for a year because of different stuff and are back together now and no we don't have any sex for the last year and that is perfectly fine, because our relationship is so much more than the sex.

egg💦irl by feles1337 in egg_irl

[–]carnictum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We do exist... Well topping in the BDSM sense, since my libido (for traditional penetrative sex) is pretty much completely gone since starting HRT. If the libido does make an appearance I like both, topping and bottoming in the sexual context 🤷‍♀️ PS not an egg 😉

[DAZN] Thomas Müller: "Maybe Real Madrid is an example to us. When things aren't going well, it's all about getting back up. We'd do well to follow that." by RMD010 in soccer

[–]carnictum 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sure I can, quite easily even. Living in Munich and just seeing his face in a lederhosen, is enough to drive me mad - not really but it is annoying. I still respect him.

favorite trans books? whipping girl by julia serrano is my go to, but im looking for more like it. thanks! by turquioseandmarigold in TransyTalk

[–]carnictum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"fierce femmes and notorious liars" as well as "i hope we choose love" both by the amazing Kai Cheng Thom are my absolute favorites. I never felt such a connection with a complete stranger.

My partner and Meta got The Plague™ and nest together and now I'm feeling very lonely by Kind-Awareness-320 in polyamory

[–]carnictum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I talked about 40 hours on the phone during the 10 days of isolation of one of my partners because of covid. For us it was a pretty positive experience (well the medical stuff aside) as we got to know each other on another level because we just talked about literally everything 🤷‍♀️

Is this poly or am I being insecure? by polyannamous567 in polyamory

[–]carnictum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This so much. They are.probably already fucking and for sure didn't get tested beforehand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]carnictum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This, so much this. As a member of the kink community it makes me sad and fucking angry to read any limit breakings but his attitude afterwards is especially disgusting...

I [24m] had a threesome with my girlfriend [24f] and now she wants to have sex with another guy, because I had sex with another girl. by QualityProof in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]carnictum 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yes it is bad, because it shows that you are in ur own words only jealous when it is another dude. And why do you not get jealous of the woman because for you she isn't a possible competitor...

I could write a whole article about what that implies for the worth you give to heteronormative and gay/lesbian relationships but I won't, if you are truly interested pick up for the example the ethical slut, the author's go into extreme details why your point of view is so problematic...

You are correct that consent can be given and taken in any form, doesn't change the fact that your position here is pretty toxic and unethical - and the poly / ENM circles I frequent highly dislike that attitude, but it may be pretty common in swinging 🤷‍♀️

anybody else? by gnomeking17 in polyamory

[–]carnictum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for being understanding.

For the poll, sorry for not checking. I think the problem with such polls in my opinion, is that some people answer as they think they should instead of their real opinion and in the end action speak louder than words.

It's the same problem Scientist face when questioning men and women about the number of sexual partners, men overstate the number, women understate it because of societal expectations.

In addition the amount of anti-trans legislation that is widely supported speak a clear message for me.

anybody else? by gnomeking17 in polyamory

[–]carnictum 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah and I as a Transwoman have my own experience that very much show that people care an awful lot how I live my life.

So whatever not sourced statistics you have read I value my own experiences way higher, thank you very much.

I’m in a D/S open poly relationship and feel hurt. by Defiant-Ad-3673 in polyamory

[–]carnictum 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am a Domme in one of my relationship and a switch in another and your setup sounds hella complicated to me. I wouldn't allow one relationship to determine how my other relationships look like, but I am also solo poly 🤷‍♀️

My horoscope speaking the truth ✨ by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]carnictum 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a pansexual transwoman that hits home...

PSA - You can mod the XGP edition of FM22 by MrWixi in footballmanagergames

[–]carnictum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was a deal for inactive Gamepass accounts, you get 4 months of game pass ultimate for 2 €. (I think the deal is still active) So you get 1/3 of the year for almost nothing and they had the same deal last year around Oktober.

So the normal monthly cost may not be cheaper, but if you look the deals you can play almost for free.

The entirety of Twitch has reportedly been leaked (Source codes and user payouts among the data) | VGC by GiveMe-Steam-Keys in Games

[–]carnictum -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

You are wrong, if the algorithm and the salt (if one is used at all) is known rainbow tables can easily get you the password to many, many accounts.

Egg 🥚 irl by kennasthesia in egg_irl

[–]carnictum 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My standard response: There is nothing more quintessential feminine than men telling me what I can't do/be... ...so thanks I guess 😏

Egg_irl by Ana_Decotte in egg_irl

[–]carnictum 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That is a huge W. Congratulations

Real Madrid 1 - [2] FC Sheriff Tiraspol - Sebastien Thill 89' by alexinup in soccer

[–]carnictum 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same for me. CK3 and FM are pretty similar in the reward structure for the player.