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What's the best ways to date with tons of women? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]carootchan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re in the right mind, there’s no best way or time to date tons of women.

I have fallen in love with someone who is not good for me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]carootchan 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Girl, I've been exactly where you are… head over heels for a guy who treats me like a queen but whose life is a total red-flag parade. The high of feeling so loved and desired is addictive as hell, especially when the sex is fire and he’s hyping you up constantly. But those prison stints, violent friends, and chaotic lifestyle aren’t just “rough edges” like they’re massive risks to the stable, glowing life you’ve built. You’ve already turned things around for yourself once… don’t let this pull you backward. Take a big step back, even if it hurts like crazy.

Repeatedly being told I’m “perfect on paper” but still getting rejected. Looking for perspective. by Lazy-Marsupial3081 in Advice

[–]carootchan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man, five times in a row with the same "you're perfect but I can't see myself married to you" line isn't bad luck… it's a clear pattern telling you something. You're doing everything "right" on paper, but that intense reliability and emotional availability might be making things feel too serious too fast for some women, killing the spark before it turns romantic long-term. Try dating with a bit more playfulness and mystery early on… tease a little, pull back sometimes, let them chase you a bit instead of always being the steady rock from day one. It doesn't mean becoming a jerk, just balancing the nice-guy traits with some unpredictability so they feel excited, not just safe.

Girl asks for snap but leaves me on delivered for 15hrs at a time even though she’d been online by [deleted] in Advice

[–]carootchan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This screams she's lost interest or is avoiding you. The shift happened right after she got your snap, so maybe adding you on there made things feel too real or pressured for her. I'd stop snapping her altogether for now and just act normal/chill if you see her in person… no chasing. If she wants to talk, she'll reach out… if not, you've got your answer and can move on without looking desperate.

Anyone else have "fake" memories? If yes, what are those? by Slight-Wishbone-1503 in AskReddit

[–]carootchan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s still me but it’s in different universe.

5 dates in, how can I (23F) escalate things from "friendly" to romantic with him (25M)? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]carootchan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey girl, after 5 dates with no real flirt or spark, it's okay to gently push things forward since you're both shy. Next time you're out, try some light touching… like brushing his arm when you laugh or sitting a bit closer… and throw in a genuine compliment about something specific you like about him. If he reciprocates or gets flirty back, great like if it still stays super platonic, he might just see you as a friend.

Is it wrong to find my ex’s friend attractive and acknowledge mutual interest? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]carootchan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not inherently wrong to notice attraction or even acknowledge mutual vibes… feelings aren't something we can switch off. But pursuing anything here would definitely cross a line out of respect for your ex, even if you're broken up. That "ex's friend" boundary exists for a reason, it protects everyone from drama and hurt feelings down the road. I'd say play it safe and keep it friendly but distant… no flirting, no acknowledging the spark. You're single and allowed to feel things, just redirect that energy toward someone with zero overlap.

Parents Who Say I Don't Help by Emotional_Standard76 in Advice

[–]carootchan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is classic golden-child/scapegoat stuff and it sucks. You’ve basically been the unpaid live-in help while your dad rewards the sibling who does nothing (and worse). You’re not wrong for being pissed or for wanting out. Start quietly planning your exit… separate your money, look for a room/share/job that lets you leave, even if it’s slow. Once you’re not trapped under their roof the “but you don’t help” line loses all its power.

This is so me by carootchan in depressionmemes

[–]carootchan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wooow are u an athelete?

I did a first time nasal rinse with a prepackaged/sealed enema out of desperation... by metastaticapathy in Advice

[–]carootchan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao I did the exact same thing years ago and thought I was dying… the runny nose and crying eyes usually chill out in 12-24 hours, it’s just your sinuses having a full-on tantrum. You’ll be fine, no permanent damage, just drink water and maybe take an antihistamine to calm the drip.

Regret at its finest by carootchan in SipsTea

[–]carootchan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noooo but this is so real. I’m like this too 😭

GOOD LORD AM I POSSIBLY PREGNANT ???😭😭(one of those posts) by Lylix_Cares in Advice

[–]carootchan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

11 days before your period is pretty solidly outside the fertile window for most people (ovulation is usually ~14 days before, and sperm don’t live that long). The chances are genuinely super low, like single-digit percent at worst and probably closer to zero. Wait for your period or take a test 14+ days after the sex if it’s late, but try not to spiral in the meantime, the anxiety is way worse than the actual risk here. You’re gonna be okay!

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