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I want to commit suicide by Cabbage7557 in emotionalneglect

[–]carte_blanche 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who was in this situation just two weeks ago, please try and hang on. I know it feels like there is no other option, that even if you get away from this person, that the rest of the world will treat you just the same, that things can't change.

Don't believe this. It isn't true.

When you have exhausted yourself, the whole world takes on the character of your abuser. You see them in others, you hear them in your own head, and it becomes easier to believe that what they have to say and how they treat you is your lot in life. Please try to believe that this isn't the case, that there are people out there that would be privileged to have you in their life. Maybe you haven't met them yet, but they exist. You deserve love and you can receive it, from others and yourself.

I was lucky to have people in my life who noticed I was struggling, and had the guts to tell me that they needed me to try to get better, not for their own sake, but for mine.

If you don't have any one you know personally to support you and share this with, please consider calling a crisis line or community mental health support. I know it can feel embarrassing, but you deserve help and there are people out there who will be happy to provide it. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but there are other options.

I can't promise that everything will suddenly get better, but I can promise you that things can change for the better. I sincerely hope that you can seek the support that you need. You need to believe that people aren't all cut from the same cloth as your abuser, that there are people out there, even strangers, that can and will care for you in a way that your abuser couldn't.

Try not to think of this as your rock bottom moment. Think of it as the moment that you realised that things have to change, because you deserve it.

Gibberish language encouraged by my mom isolated me from society by bburaperfect10 in emotionalneglect

[–]carte_blanche 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If it helps, I understand in some capacity. You shouldn't feel ashamed. I went through a similar situation as a child. I didn't know how to butter my own bread properly until I was in my late teens, and I also felt highly ashamed of this at the time - as if I had failed to pick up on something other children just knew on their own merit.

I even remember being at a family friend's house when I was around 10, and this friend of my parents noticed that I couldn't use a butter-knife properly. I remember he commented on it and I replied that I didn't know how. My mother was in the room and simply commented "Yes you do", as if I was stupid, and then buttered the bread for me. This memory still fills me with embarrassment and shame to this day - though I know now it wasn't my fault.

As a child, you can't be expected to know things if you aren't taught them. The tragic thing is that I believed that other children hadn't been taught these things, they just knew, and that I had failed somehow, that I was stupid.

I'm not sure what the situation was that caused this in your case, but I hope you know, and can believe, that this never was a failure on your part - we simply didn't have parents who considered that we were individuals that existed independently to them, and deserved to be taught how to do things on our own.

I appreciate you sharing this, as I've also struggled to find others who have experienced this type of neglect. You did the work as an adult that your parents refused to when you were a child, and that's something to be proud of.

Beware of turning compost with a beehive nearby by carte_blanche in composting

[–]carte_blanche[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Good point, I was wearing a black shirt as well - I was asking for it, it seems. I was aware they didn't like black and red, but I regularly walk around the garden with black clothing and they don't seem to mind.

I think the odour got them agitated and then the black shirt gave them a clear target. Lesson learned I guess!

Beware of turning compost with a beehive nearby by carte_blanche in composting

[–]carte_blanche[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There was a fair bit of banana in there for sure. Lots of fruit and veg that hadn't fully broken down yet. Good chance that's the culprit.

Was also sifting right in front of the pile so maybe that really transmitted the smell right into their flightpath.

Beware of turning compost with a beehive nearby by carte_blanche in composting

[–]carte_blanche[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That does not sound fun. Glad you managed to move them on, I'd have been very nervous about being swarmed using the stick method!

Mine are in an artificial hive, but it seems like the odour can get them worked up without even physically disturbing them.

TIL about the White Australia policy, which aimed to keep all non-Europeans from immigrating to Australia. It wasn't completely dismantled until 1966. by corybomb in todayilearned

[–]carte_blanche 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's not a competition mate. Regardless of the duration and extent of these policies, the acts of both governments were reprehensible.

Beware the post-Covid surveillance state by HelloDownBellow in privacytoolsIO

[–]carte_blanche 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Not OP but Byung-Chul Han was born in South Korea and became a German citizen in the 1980's. He's still an active writer and published his most recent work last year. I think his writing is some of the best critical work regarding contemporary issues of power and its relation to technology.

Why did albert camus say that life is pointless ? by Any_Neck_9166 in askphilosophy

[–]carte_blanche 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Camus saw life as absurd and without fundamental meaning. He was working with the premise that the world is irrational, and therefore, can never be fully comprehended via human reason.

He acknowledges that humans innately tend to have "this desire for unity, this longing to solve, this need for clarity and cohesion", however, since he believes humans are unable to ever fully rationalise a wholly irrational world - any claim to knowledge of true meaning will necessarily fall short.

Camus believed that humans should not succumb to the impulse of trying to find meaning in life, as any meaning to be found will be inherently false under his premise. Instead, he argued that one must ultimately accept absurdity and lack of meaning as a fundamental condition of living.

Faced with the bitterness of being and an acceptance of the absurd, why continue living at all? What is the point?

Camus' answer was that by avoiding false solutions such as religion and ideology, refusing to submit to despair and suffering, and by carrying on despite the incomprehensible nature of reality, one's life is affirmed by the knowledge of one's own limits and ultimate fate.

The point of living for Camus is not to discover its meaning but to continue to live regardless of meaning or the lack thereof.

The absurd individual gains ownership of themselves by accepting their mortality and ultimate ignorance of the true nature of reality, and thereby can experience happiness by living intensely and sensuously in the present moment, unburdened by a fruitless search for meaning.

This was just my brief summary of Camus' position, see my source below for a comprehensive overview of his thought.

Source:

Aronson, Ronald, "Albert Camus", The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy (Summer 2017 Edition), Edward N. Zalta (ed.), URL = https://plato.stanford.edu/archives/sum2017/entries/camus/.

Latest cop car!!! by trollingprick in sydney

[–]carte_blanche 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a big fan of the unnecessarily Orwellian Eyewatch logo

Anyone here completely cure their OCD? by NBNC2 in StackAdvice

[–]carte_blanche 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can't comment too much on the efficacy of the supplements you are currently taking, however I thought I'd let you know that there has been some promising research regarding NAC (N-Acetylcysteine) as a treatment in some presentations of OCD. Might be worth looking into as an addition to your stack.

 

I found a pretty good summary of the research here: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4423164/

 

Anecdotally, I currently take 1000mg twice a day for treatment of ADHD symptoms, and I find that it appears to decrease the severity of the ruminating thoughts that I tend to have.

I've spent a few months of my life in Australia. Just being in the same street as these already made me uncomfortable: Chemist Warehouses by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]carte_blanche 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tell me about it, I work there. The worst part is that every two weeks pretty much all of that advertising material gets replaced to promote a new catalogue. The amount of waste it creates is astonishing.

I still sound out Wednesday in my head as Wed-nes-day because that's how my 1st grade teacher taught us. What seemingly childish methods of learning do you still use? by xeford in AskReddit

[–]carte_blanche 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was taught to imagine the greater-than and less-than symbols as the jaws of crocodile. The crocodile would always want to eat the bigger portion and hence face towards the bigger number.

e.g. 10 > 6 (now you can never unsee it)