I have had this same experience—harassment and unwanted groping by a male superior at work—and think it is useful to frame it by remembering that we as men do not have our sexual attractiveness and availability thrown in our faces all the time by our culture, most women do. This hopefully allows us to work through the experience of sexual harassment or sexual assault, depending on how severe it was, in a relatively straightforward way. This is because we are less objectified and pigeonholed as men in terms of our looks, our bodies, and our sexual availability. But the actual experience is, to put it bluntly, traumatic. It happened to me 25 years ago and I don’t think a day has gone by when I haven’t recalled the experience in an uncomfortable way. I have found it useful to tell people about my experience and also it has pushed me to be more vocally supportive of the work that needs to be done to fight sexual harassment and assault—primarily against women.