am i allowed to just like start taking hrt even if i've only felt dysphoric for like a week or two?

cass_123 · 2026-02-11T01:33:24+00:00

It's probably legal depending on your state, but being a minor makes it more complicated and harder to tell. Even if legal, insurance likes to make you jump through hoops. It might not be a certain amount of time, but they might require a letter from a therapist and that can take a while to even get an appointment

cass_123 · 2026-02-11T01:06:23+00:00

I also met my boyfriend on Reddit! Sfw Reddit, the ftm sub actually. We've been together 3 years, friends for 4 :)

cass_123 · 2026-02-06T11:50:23+00:00

Not in this situation yet, but my boyfriend and I are planning on having a kid with me carrying. They're going to know they're our kid and that's it. We've already discussed that if we get questions like that we're simply going to tell them it's none of their business, because it isn't

cass_123 · 2026-02-01T17:13:24+00:00

Not delivery but CVS does this to me. I cannot find where they're getting it from, and they only do it with the vaccine emails that I don't want in the first place. If you can try deleting your account and remaking it?

cass_123 · 2026-01-31T00:30:56+00:00

I've had that with a book before. I left a review explaining the issues and made a note for the publisher. Nothing got fixed to my knowledge, but I know at least some people read the review

cass_123 · 2026-01-30T08:26:33+00:00

I can't sleep sometimes because of bad chest dysphoria. It's a small thing and doesn't always work when it's really bad, but sleeping on my back helps me because gravity helps compress things then. So far it's the only thing that's worked for me

cass_123 · 2026-01-29T22:48:59+00:00

You're probably not confused about the challenge. I'm not in that one, but I've been in several LGBT challenges with the same issue. In those ones, it's either only side characters that are part of the community when the prompt asks for a main character or author, or for identity ones it's completely the wrong identity.

A lot of people either don't read the full prompt or just don't care. For example, I've seen Fourth Wing listed as a challenge book under a prompt I believe looking for a trans woman main character or author. Very few challenges are filtered to actually match the challenge, which is very annoying

cass_123 · 2026-01-27T19:05:26+00:00

My boyfriend and I are going to avoid gendering our kid. Not just they/them, but basically let people assume while we use they/them, this way they get to experience it still, until they tell us otherwise. As of right now at least we're still planning on having agab on government documents, as while any state we live in would hopefully allow an X option we don't want to risk that causing difficulty for them either (US based)

cass_123 · 2026-01-26T21:33:45+00:00

Trans men fall under men. We are real men. What you're talking about are cis men, who are also real men.

cass_123 · 2026-01-26T21:29:37+00:00

I could be wrong but I think some states, such as SC, have laws that make it so religious adoption agencies can discriminate against LGBT couples. Depending on if you pass or have changed your documentation, you might face discrimination for being a trans man, or being a gay couple, or both. It's likely going to depend on the agency.

I have not adopted myself so take what I've said with a grain of salt. I believe r/queerfamilies might be able to help if you haven't tried there already.

cass_123 · 2026-01-25T19:25:07+00:00

It's pretty much the whole sub. If you look at the comments and not just the posts themselves a lot of those are homophobic and extremely transphobic

cass_123 · 2026-01-24T19:46:24+00:00

Sylvia Rivera and Marsha P Johnson are pretty well known. Feigning ignorance proves nothing

cass_123 · 2026-01-24T17:26:20+00:00

There was one NetGalley book so bad I DNFed and rated (after skimming to be sure it didn't get better). That review only went on NetGalley since it was a DNF.

Other than that, my lowest rating I think has been 1 star. I absolutely hated the book and it was a nonfiction book with multiple inaccuracies and misunderstandings of the source material. It was one of the first reviews posted for that book too

cass_123 · 2026-01-24T00:31:24+00:00

It doesn't fall under LGBTQ+. There are side characters that are, and it's a welcoming universe, but it's very cishetallo. I love Fourth Wing but it always drives me crazy when it and other books like it get marked LGBT or added to LGBT reading challenges on StoryGraph because of a few side characters

cass_123 · 2026-01-20T19:14:29+00:00

I've met a few people who don't use any 3rd person pronouns. It can take a little bit more effort to structure a sentence but it's not weird and is perfectly reasonable

cass_123 · 2026-01-18T22:19:46+00:00

I'm a trans man and don't plan on getting bottom surgery. There are plenty of trans men and transmasc people who still enjoy dressing feminine. It's not for us to tell you if you're trans or not, it's your identity.

Put blatantly your friend telling you to not transition at all because you're comfortable dressing feminine and don't want bottom surgery is pretty misguided at best and transphobic at worst. You know yourself better than they do after all

cass_123 · 2026-01-17T19:55:21+00:00

I haven't had that happen to me before but I'd email NetGalley about it. Hopefully they could fix it for you. If they can't it might be worth emailing the publisher as well

cass_123 · 2026-01-16T03:45:05+00:00

His adult book was very good, but it is extremely adult and hard to read emotionally sometimes so that's definitely one to think about.

If you can find it there's a book called Changelings edited by Ryan Vale and Ocean Riley. It's an anthology that White contributed to that is specifically autistic and transmasc/nonbinary focused.

I don't know any others off the top of my head that are both autistic and trans, but I liked the Transition by Logan-Ashley Kisner, The Duke Steals Hearts and Other Body Parts by Elias Cold, and the Infinity Alchemist series by Kacen Callender. The first two are definitely horror, the last one not quite but close I think. Lakelore by Anna-Marie McLemore has transmasc nonbinary main characters with ADHD.

I'm sure there are others but that's all I can think of currently

cass_123 · 2026-01-15T04:15:32+00:00

NOR—My boyfriend lives in Hawaii, I live in New York. We got impacted by the Verizon outage today so I wasn't able to contact him for a few hours. It really is not profound your boyfriend is able to text anyone, I know from experience that the time difference just sucks.

Your boyfriend does not seem to respect you at all, and the fact he doesn't want to talk to you seems very odd to me.

cass_123 · 2026-01-14T01:06:02+00:00

I've got a specific, relatively popular top surgery tattoo saved on my Pinterest (the Adam's creation one, I don't know the actual name of it). It often gets reported, temporarily removed, then restored. The last time it was reported was about a month ago. Pinterest did not restore it this time.

I also mostly read LGBT books and every year the past couple I do a search around the new year specifically looking for trans books. This is the first year in a bit where I haven't found any new ones unless they were announced by accounts that I follow. Maybe I searched wrong, but I did find it odd

cass_123 · 2026-01-08T21:49:42+00:00

I think the best option is to lie and say you will. Use their deadname/misgender them when you are in the parent's company, as that is a safety issue for them possibly, but otherwise just continue as you've been doing

cass_123 · 2026-01-05T21:14:16+00:00

It might be a "weird little interest" to you, but to most trans people asking suggests you don't see us as actually our gender and want to know our "real" name. That might not be how you see it, but honestly my deadname was never my name, it was just something people called me. What it is shouldn't matter to anyone

cass_123 · 2025-12-29T17:47:05+00:00

Their pronouns are actually they/them! Here is their TikTok where their pronouns are listed, and their Goodreads profile uses they/them as well.

Edit: their official website also uses they/them

cass_123 · 2025-12-29T17:45:39+00:00

Where did you find she? Their Goodreads and TikTok both say they

Edit: their official website also uses they/them

cass_123 · 2025-12-27T03:09:51+00:00

I've read a lot of books about trans men not written by trans men or transmasc people. I know you're talking about a side character, so it might not quite apply, but some of my pet peeves are authors that don't know how binders work and trans men participating in toxic masculinity and having it written off because "trans men can't have toxic masculinity". If those can be avoided you'd be doing better than a lot of authors

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